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There's a difference between people watching and staring at single people. Do you sit there judging and watching someone sitting at a table by themselves? Or are they just another person in the room?

I don't mind a good people watch if something catches my attention. Not usually people who are solo though. There could be 1000s of reasons why they are alone.
 
You're imagining things. When's the last time you took special notice of a single person in a restaurant?

If it even registered that you were alone they probably just assumed you were travelling on business or something. It's not like you have two heads.


if no-one cares that you're alone, and it's perfectly socially acceptable or whatever, why would someone need to rationalise why you're at a restaurant by yourself?

for the record i have nothing against it, but am aware that some people will judge someone for doing certain things alone. the movies is prob the obvious one.
 

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if no-one cares that you're alone, and it's perfectly socially acceptable or whatever, why would someone need to rationalise why you're at a restaurant by yourself?

Who said anything about rationalising? I am talking about speculating. Going out for dinner as a couple is perfectly socially acceptable, but I might still wonder why they are there. Are they on a first date? Married and celebrating an anniversary? That's the fun of people watching.
 
for the record i have nothing against it, but am aware that some people will judge someone for doing certain things alone. the movies is prob the obvious one.
This never occured to me. There's other things I have come across recently that I have learnt people judge people on that had me scratching my head (because I'm love a good judge myself). if I remember them I will post to see what people think because I found them a bit absurd.

Also have been recently welcomed into the world of children's sport. For years I was oblivious to so many things and then a friend told me how it all works. Quite shocked at how serious so many parents get.
 
Going alone. Well both in fact.

Eh, no big mystery. Am single, couldnt find anyone to come with me. So I went. Had a crap time, mainly due to the fact as I'm walking out to go to the airport, find my car totally smashed up with a ****ing note on it saying "Im sorry" and their number.

So after I flew up, once I had re-scheduled a later flight, I just spent the whole time worrying my car was a write off and how the **** would I afford a new one. It was my own fault- I am a worrier. Got that from my mum. :rolleyes:
 
Been to the movies a few times on my own, only during the day though where there are usually bugger all people there and quite a few other people are there on their own so it's no big deal, I wouldn't do that at night.

Same with pubs, been to a few on my own but usually only during the day where you wanted to watch some sport on the big screen there and couldn't watch it anywhere else or when I was travelling and just wanted to get out of my hostel/hotel room. Hostel bars aren't too bad on your own as there are usually other backpackers in the same boat and it's easier to meet people. I wouldn't go out to a pub or nightclub at night here on my own though.

I wouldn't go to a restaurant on my own either, apart from fast food restaurants and that's only if I was without a car and couldn't use the drive-thru.
 
Been to the movies a few times on my own, only during the day though where there are usually bugger all people there and quite a few other people are there on their own so it's no big deal, .

How about cinemas and you are the only one in there.

Has happened to me twice. Once tho in a zombie movie, bloody freaked me out. :oops:
 
How about cinemas and you are the only one in there.

Has happened to me twice. Once tho in a zombie movie, bloody freaked me out. :oops:

I've never been to a movie where I was the only one there, been to a couple where there was probably less than 10 people there which is great as you can sit where you like with plenty of space and not have other people bothering you. It would feel weird being the only one there though.

I worked at an old cinema place briefly in a town in Virginia selling tickets and candy and helping out with the projectors. The place was so quiet and boring during the day I'd often go in to the cinemas there and watch parts of the movies where there was just a few people watching it.
 

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I worked at an old cinema place briefly in a town in Virginia selling tickets and candy and helping out with the projectors. The place was so quiet and boring during the day I'd often go in to the cinemas there and watch parts of the movies where there was just a few people watching it.

Wasnt working in a cinema the best. I loved it- was mainly on floor too, just wandering around the complex my whole shift, no supervisor to answer too. (Unlike shitty Candy Bar). Would have liked to been trained to work the projectors tho, never did that.
 
Wasnt working in a cinema the best. I loved it- was mainly on floor too, just wandering around the complex my whole shift, no supervisor to answer too. (Unlike shitty Candy Bar). Would have liked to been trained to work the projectors tho, never did that.

Yeah it's pretty cruisy but the pay wasn't great. The place I worked at wasn't part of a cinema chain, it was an old historic cinema where they would get the films after the big cinema chains had shown them, there was a big new cinema complex further out of town that would get the majority of customers. The owner/manager was hardly ever there too so you could get away with being even more slack than normal.

The old projectors there were a bloody nightmare to operate though, they were trying to train me to take over from the projectionist who was leaving. You had to thread the film around and through all these little pulleys and levers, it was really complicated to set the films up. Even if you got it all right it could still stuff up, where the sound would get out of synch with the picture or the picture would scroll down the screen. I'd imagine the projectors in modern day cinemas would be easier to operate but it's not the cruisy job most people think it is.
 
Wasnt working in a cinema the best. I loved it- was mainly on floor too, just wandering around the complex my whole shift, no supervisor to answer too. (Unlike shitty Candy Bar). Would have liked to been trained to work the projectors tho, never did that.
Eh, it's probably a union thing....

* obscure Seinfeld reference
 
Went and saw Anchorman 2 on a self date.

Smoked a whole joint in the carpark, went inside and felt the awkward eyes of paranoid judgement. Noticed nearly ALL couples around me. All nicely dressed with makeup and collars for the nice friday date. I mean I could have done that too, but its not really a date movie.

I noticed how reserved everyones laughter was, even heard some tsks at racist and religious jokes! People were laughing, but holding back, especially on the racist stuff.

I was crying and howling, non stop. Some things are best done solo, especially dumb shit like offensive comedies best seen when high as a kite to maximise pmsl levels.
 
I saw Crosby, Stills and Nash on my own, it was hard being a hippie in the time of grunge.

Fair enough, I can actually imagine that being a little better, gigs in a smaller, more intimate setting, not so much.

I take it you don't go to the movies very often... :rolleyes::p

I do often enough (I think), but I don't talk, and rarely does anyone I'm with. As for everyone else in the cinema, I guess I tune them out to the point I don't notice unless they're a real f***ing pain, such as a group of schoolkids/teens.

Funnily enough, after posting before, I made a point of saying to a couple of family members that I was going to go to the movies on my own just to see what reaction I'd get. I got a "don't do that, it's weird", and literally was told "people will think there's something wrong with you, like that you smell or something." o_O
 

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Cinema Paradiso in Northbridge has usually got a couple of good films on. Go alone from time to time. Usually more people in there by themselves than anything else, actually.

Head down to the WACA after uni sometimes and watch a few sessions of the Sheffield Shield, too. Love doing it.

^ Sheffield Shield, a good book or mag and a nice warm day - nothing better. Shame WA cant bat long enough to warrant a decent stay.

Sheffield Shield is always good to go down to with a small radio on 91.3.
 
I feel completely comfortable going to the movies, shopping, sporting events by myself. Same goes for eating at a restaurant or café, which I regularly do on work trips. I think its cos I choose to do these things to get the f*ck away from people rather than cos I have no one to go with. .

I think pubs and clubs might be different cos these are places to socialise as opposed to dedicating your attention to something, like sport, food or a movie. In a pub you're meant to talk. If you're not there doing it then it feels awkward turtle.
 
The old projectors there were a bloody nightmare to operate though, they were trying to train me to take over from the projectionist who was leaving. You had to thread the film around and through all these little pulleys and levers, it was really complicated to set the films up. Even if you got it all right it could still stuff up, where the sound would get out of synch with the picture or the picture would scroll down the screen. I'd imagine the projectors in modern day cinemas would be easier to operate but it's not the cruisy job most people think it is.

I actually used to be a projectionist for a short while, before it all went digital. See, back then a movie didn't come all on one big reel. It came on a few. So someone had to be there to switch the projectors at the exact moment that one reel ends and the next one begins. On an old-time film if you look for it, you can see these little dots come into the upper right-hand corner of the screen.

In the industry, we call them 'cigarette burns'.

That's the cue for a changeover. Í flip the projectors, the movie keeps right on going, and nobody in the audience has any idea. Why would anyone have wanted this shit job though, I hear you say.

Me, I found that it afforded me other interesting opportunities. Like splicing single frames of pornography into family films. So when the snooty cat and the courageous dog with the celebrity voices meet for the first time in reel three, that's when you'll catch a flash of my unique contribution to the film. Nobody knows that they saw it, but they did.

A nice, big ****.
 

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