Food, Drink & Dining Out Self-dates

[vealesy]

As I get older Im finding that time by myself is becoming more and more precious and rare. Especially now that Im getting serious with the missus and the folks are old, sick and need more looking after.

About once every six months I have a day off work. I dont tell the missus cos she would want to have a day off at the same time so we can do 'fun' things (like gardening, buying s*it for the house we dont need and looking at her watch s*it tv shows like Geordie Shore).

These days off alone are magical yet at the same time so simple. I plan them months in advance and look forward to them like Christmas. A typical day off alone would involve:

- Sleep in (dont wanna go too late though to waste the day)
- Maccas for breakfast
- Purchasing of a new xbox game to play all day
- Copius amounts of lobstertube
- Copious amounts of Bigfooty and other forums I visit
- Toasted sandwiches or sausage rolls
- Junk food
- Maybe a movie
- Organised sport later in the evening to snap out of my daze (usually a game of tennis)

Wow.

I must be living the dream then.

 

[Miqar_Baqfhied]

Wow.

I must be living the dream then.

You just wait son till you have to get a job and take on life's burdens....time becomes precious.

FML.

 

[quickstraw]

About once every six months I have a day off work. I dont tell the missus cos she would want to have a day off at the same time so we can do 'fun' things (like gardening, buying s*it for the house we dont need and looking at her watch s*it tv shows like Geordie Shore).

This is for 1st 18 months of relationship otherwise she/he is cramping shit up.

After 2 years:

Hey honey, lets spend some quality time together
Doing what?
Lets go to the theatre
Call your girl friends, you know I don't do theatre, ballet, stage shows, chick flicks, picnics in the park etc
Lets go and have dinner and just chat
About what?

 

[Ahern2Boof]

As I get older Im finding that time by myself is becoming more and more precious and rare. Especially now that Im getting serious with the missus and the folks are old, sick and need more looking after.

About once every six months I have a day off work. I dont tell the missus cos she would want to have a day off at the same time so we can do 'fun' things (like gardening, buying s*it for the house we dont need and looking at her watch s*it tv shows like Geordie Shore).

These days off alone are magical yet at the same time so simple. I plan them months in advance and look forward to them like Christmas. A typical day off alone would involve:

- Sleep in (dont wanna go too late though to waste the day)
- Maccas for breakfast
- Purchasing of a new xbox game to play all day
- Copius amounts of lobstertube
- Copious amounts of Bigfooty and other forums I visit
- Toasted sandwiches or sausage rolls
- Junk food
- Maybe a movie
- Organised sport later in the evening to snap out of my daze (usually a game of tennis)

You make me not want to grow up.

 

[vealesy]

You just wait son till you have to get a job and take on life's burdens....time becomes precious.

FML.

Im in my late 20s and single and work full time.

 

[vealesy]

This is for 1st 18 months of relationship otherwise she/he is cramping shit up.

After 2 years:

Hey honey, lets spend some quality time together
Doing what?
Lets go to the theatre
Call your girl friends, you know I don't do theatre, ballet, stage shows, chick flicks, picnics in the park etc
Lets go and have dinner and just chat
About what?

Explains a lot.

 

[quickstraw]

Explains a lot.

And you think you'll be different. Unless you're either a hot looking charmer or loaded you're ability to get constant pussy will slow down. You might think you're ready to settle down. Or maybe you'll just meet a girl who blows your mind.

Most likely you're like the rest of society. Unsure why you think you're above it.

 

[vealesy]

I wouldnt settle down with someone i dont like. When it gets to that stage its breakup time.

Its emasculating to be with someone you dont even like.

 

[vealesy]

And you think you'll be different. Unless you're either a hot looking charmer or loaded you're ability to get constant pussy will slow down. You might think you're ready to settle down. Or maybe you'll just meet a girl who blows your mind.

Most likely you're like the rest of society. Unsure why you think you're above it.

Because if you dont think you are above it, how can you actually be above it?

Id rather be happily single than unhappily married.

I know that isnt normal but it just makes sense to me.

 

[Run n Spread]

And you think you'll be different. Unless you're either a hot looking charmer or loaded you're ability to get constant pussy will slow down. You might think you're ready to settle down. Or maybe you'll just meet a girl who blows your mind.

Most likely you're like the rest of society. Unsure why you think you're above it.

To a degree I can see the point made above. Yet the variable of children is left out. If you have children then you do have to put up with compromise and keeping the peace as the costs of leaving are far too high. (Family Court, Child Support etc etc). Same as if you are rich I guess due to the 50-50 split.

If you don't have kids and are not uber rich why put up with any sh&* then? Don't do the crap you don't want and if too much of a stink is kicked up by either side the costs of leaving the relationship are less.

 

[Run n Spread]

This is for 1st 18 months of relationship otherwise she/he is cramping shit up.

After 2 years:

Hey honey, lets spend some quality time together
Doing what?
Lets go to the theatre
Call your girl friends, you know I don't do theatre, ballet, stage shows, chick flicks, picnics in the park etc
Lets go and have dinner and just chat
About what?

Ballet, picnics in the park, chick flicks i understand. But are you seriously saying you have got nothing to talk about? No common interests. Why not go just get drunk after a stressful day then?

 

[quickstraw]

Id rather be happily single than unhappily married.

Why do you think so many people who are married are unhappy?
Why do you think you will continue to be single?

The truth is we as humans are not designed to be monogamous but it's hard having both worlds. Being single is great but over time it gets more of a hassle to get poon. You got to keep going out and finding new stuff. Having a partner is like getting sick of not having good TV shows all the time so you get Fox installed. Sex on tap without having to both peacocking and faffing about to get some.

As you get older many start to question if they want to be faffing about at 50 when they inevitably have a bit of a gut and saggy balls and can only attract a smaller and less attractive pool.

The issue with being married is you get bored of one person. The alternative is swapping GFs every 30 months (usually the used by date for lust in a relationship). All well and good unless you have or want kids. And as you get older you keep running into single divorcees who have kids of their own.

Most people in a relationship over time come to realise and accept that we get stale and bored and are no longer in that love/lust period and deal with it. It's really not that big an issue and if you're aware and comfortable with it you can be happy.

My 16 year relationship has no negative effect on happiness. Sure I'd love to be banging hot in their 20s bishes but that's just not really a reality and I'm comfortable with that. Most of my coupled up friends (both husband and wife) see it the same way and are comfortable. I think most people in general are. I cringe when I see a female going "I'm so unhappy because I'm in a loveless marriage". What were they expecting? To be madly in love with someone for the rest of their lives? Doesn't work that way.

I just to be crystal clear so you don't start with those strawman comments: I'm completely fine with singles. Got mates who are single. I don't and never have looked down on single people. And I'm only envious because I can't have both, not because I want to be.

 

[quickstraw]

Ballet, picnics in the park, chick flicks i understand. But are you seriously saying you have got nothing to talk about? No common interests. Why not go just get drunk after a stressful day then?

Got plenty but we see each other every day and talk all day all day. There's nothing new and fantastic to discover. I do go out on dates with my partner but don't really make a big deal of it.

Hope that clarifies it because I can see how it can be misinterpreted.

 

[quickstraw]

You make me not want to grow up.

Don't worry, you just ease into that shit over time.

 

[quickstraw]

I wouldnt settle down with someone i dont like. When it gets to that stage its breakup time.

Its emasculating to be with someone you dont even like.

But it's conceivable that sooner or later you will meet the one you do like. But don't delude yourself and think you will be madly in love for ever - this is emasculating because it means some one is unable to get over someone. And I wouldn't know about being with someone I didn't like. Hard to say if I would hang around because only seeing kids every second week is a pretty shitty option.

 

[Run n Spread]

Got plenty but we see each other every day and talk all day all day. There's nothing new and fantastic to discover. I do go out on dates with my partner but don't really make a big deal of it.

Hope that clarifies it because I can see how it can be misinterpreted.

Sort of I see no point in doing something just because you feel you should if there is no point.

Why do you think so many people who are married are unhappy?

The truth is we as humans are not designed to be monogamous but it's hard having both worlds.

Kind of answered your own question here. I agree with a lot of the previous post except this. Humans are not naturally designed for monogamy and it is more a social design to deal with the practicalities of the relationship. Great white elephant behind a lot of problems. Yet in Australia we seem to have taken the US route of hysteria surrounding it rather than say the French approach.

 

[quickstraw]

To a degree I can see the point made above. Yet the variable of children is left out. If you have children then you do have to put up with compromise and keeping the peace as the costs of leaving are far too high. (Family Court, Child Support etc etc). Same as if you are rich I guess due to the 50-50 split.

If you don't have kids and are not uber rich why put up with any sh&* then? Don't do the crap you don't want and if too much of a stink is kicked up by either side the costs of leaving the relationship are less.

Not sure you understand my predicament:

16 years
3 kids
Happy
My wife doesn't like all that stuff and wouldn't ask me any way. I do my shit, she does hers. Always been like that. She can go out on girls nights wherever and whenever she wants, I can do my stuff.

I was using the example to show why it doesn't work and was by no means a reflection of my relationship

 

[quickstraw]

Sort of I see no point in doing something just because you feel you should if there is no point.

Not sure what you're getting at. Previously you said we have to compromise. I do compromise like all people should but out of all the people I know I'm the one most likely to say "I don't want to do that so I'm not going to".

I constantly see married guys going to a stage show and chick flicks and can't tell if they are pussy whipped or really like girly shit.

Kind of answered your own question here. I agree with a lot of the previous post except this. Humans are not naturally designed for monogamy and it is more a social design to deal with the practicalities of the relationship.

That's very consistent with my previous posts. I have been all about not being able to have both worlds and monogamy works because of family structure.

Yet in Australia we seem to have taken the US route of hysteria surrounding it rather than say the French approach.

Can you clarify this. I'm sure when you tell me the US one i will be aware but not really up on how french do shit.

 

[Run n Spread]

Can you clarify this. I'm sure when you tell me the US one i will be aware but not really up on how french do shit.

The French attitude to my knowledge is more c"est la vie to the cheating thing. A bit like a disagreement, yeah it's unfortunate, you'd prefer it didn't happen but you are hardly going to nuke an entire relationship, family life and shared history over a minor slip up. Don't ask, don't tell.

The US one is more the hysterical crying, screaming mess that tends to ensure and immediate divorce.

As for the other elements, tend to agree. Compromise is a part of life, but if it is at the point where you are selling out and feel constantly put upon then you have problems was the angle I was coming from.

 

[Keys]

I constantly see married guys going to a stage show and chick flicks and can't tell if they are pussy whipped or really like girly shit.

Sometimes, for me at least, it's probably a bit of both.

Went to see the Lion King, the stage show, with my missus a few years back in sydney whilst we were on holiday. Would I have gone if she didn't ask me to, no. Did I enjoy it, yes. I'll sometimes watch a chick flick at home with her but only if I think I'll like it, even if it is girly shit.

She rarely stamps her feet and tell me I have to do it and nor do I grab by the hair and demand she sit down and watch the sport or some or other shit together. Sometimes she will sit down and watch with me though.

Marriage is about allowing each other to do their own thing whilst at the same time working together to reach common goals (like raisng kids) and in amongst it all finding time to do things together away from the kids (like going out to dinner) to maintain sanity.

 

[vealesy]

Why do you think so many people who are married are unhappy?
Why do you think you will continue to be single?

The truth is we as humans are not designed to be monogamous but it's hard having both worlds. Being single is great but over time it gets more of a hassle to get poon. You got to keep going out and finding new stuff. Having a partner is like getting sick of not having good TV shows all the time so you get Fox installed. Sex on tap without having to both peacocking and faffing about to get some.

As you get older many start to question if they want to be faffing about at 50 when they inevitably have a bit of a gut and saggy balls and can only attract a smaller and less attractive pool.

The issue with being married is you get bored of one person. The alternative is swapping GFs every 30 months (usually the used by date for lust in a relationship). All well and good unless you have or want kids. And as you get older you keep running into single divorcees who have kids of their own.

Most people in a relationship over time come to realise and accept that we get stale and bored and are no longer in that love/lust period and deal with it. It's really not that big an issue and if you're aware and comfortable with it you can be happy.

My 16 year relationship has no negative effect on happiness. Sure I'd love to be banging hot in their 20s bishes but that's just not really a reality and I'm comfortable with that. Most of my coupled up friends (both husband and wife) see it the same way and are comfortable. I think most people in general are. I cringe when I see a female going "I'm so unhappy because I'm in a loveless marriage". What were they expecting? To be madly in love with someone for the rest of their lives? Doesn't work that way.

I just to be crystal clear so you don't start with those strawman comments: I'm completely fine with singles. Got mates who are single. I don't and never have looked down on single people. And I'm only envious because I can't have both, not because I want to be.

You are a dinosaur.

I can "get poon" laying in bed with my ipad these days. Or at work when im taking a dump. Online dating/banging is great.

The funny part is there seems to be more people in your age bracket than in the 20s. But as you are obviously shallow and only have sex with hot twenty somethings you wouldnt realise this.



You have not been single for a while old man. And you seem stuck in your glory years.

If you are happy in a sexless and loveless marriage and thats all you want in life, go for it.

Just dont assume everyone else is the same.

 

[quickstraw]

The French attitude to my knowledge is more c"est la vie to the cheating thing. A bit like a disagreement, yeah it's unfortunate, you'd prefer it didn't happen but you are hardly going to nuke an entire relationship, family life and shared history over a minor slip up. Don't ask, don't tell.

That's how it should be. I cringe at people who lose their shit at the thought of their partner cheating. It's just sex.

The US one is more the hysterical crying, screaming mess that tends to ensure and immediate divorce.

I was putting some clean washing away yesterday and tuned my bedroom TV on. Dr Phil. He was lecturing a couple that cheating is point blank wrong.

Wife was cheating with a dude in a red truck
Husband admitted to cheating twice previously but denied he had many more affairs (reckon he was lying)
Husband was playing victim and turned kids against Mum
Wife went to husbands work place (US Army) and dobbed him in for cheating (it seems this is illegal in the army or something) wtf?
Wife's BF threatened to bash her son. Dr Phil was making out this a deal breaker and din't consider the son calling her **** every day lessened this

I didn't have a problem with the cheating, just the lack of discretion the wife showed (dating around town) and how they both handled it. Dad got kids involved. Dispicle act.


They could have just grown up and had open relationship.

 

[quickstraw]

You are a dinosaur.

I can "get poon" laying in bed with my ipad these days.

Yep, you're already told us how good you are. Getting boring.

All I've seen from you so far is:

1. I get more roots than anybody
2. I'm a god in bed
3. I am not like 99% of the rest of the population
4. My outlook will never change as I age.

 

[vealesy]

But it's conceivable that sooner or later you will meet the one you do like. But don't delude yourself and think you will be madly in love for ever - this is emasculating because it means some one is unable to get over someone. And I wouldn't know about being with someone I didn't like. Hard to say if I would hang around because only seeing kids every second week is a pretty shitty option.

I meet a new one i like every couple of months.

Have been in love enough times to know what it feels like and am glad i escaped all of them relationships without any baggage. Love is blind and fleeting.

You have nfi what it is to be single. A lot has changed in 16 years. "Having single mates" is not the same as "knowing".

 

[quickstraw]

You have nfi what it is to be single. A lot has changed in 16 years. "Having single mates" is not the same as "knowing".

It's the same. You think because the methods used to pick up make it any different?

You really are a massive dick.