Society & Culture The BigFooty Guide to getting the woman of Your Desire (Part 7)

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Know that feeling and I don't know the answer. It's like a switch is flicked.
Seriously, it's screwed up especially considering they even say they want more. Then you aren't sure if they are playing hard to get and you should chase or if you should just back off and if they really care they come back to you.

Games are the stupidest.
 

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Been on two dates with this girl. Really quite into her already which is worrying. 1st date went really well but then we didn't see each other for a while because of exams etc, had a quick coffee with her earlier this week and we seemed to pick up where we left off, I thought it was all pretty good and she was giving good signals.

Arranging to meet up with her is just extremely difficult though. After the coffee (which was Tuesday) I tentatively suggested drinks later that night (neither of us really committed) after my training, which I pulled out of but get the feeling she might have too. She then texts saying she had a 'dinner every night this week except Saturday' but might be able to do something next week before she jets off interstate. We arrange to do something Monday night next week, but then the next day she texts saying she had forgotten about a dinner she had arranged weeks in advance with a friend and would have to pull out. She follows this up by suggesting we meet up the next day (which didn't make sense to me as she had already said she had dinners on) but would play it by ear. Then the following day she pulls out again saying a friend she hadn't seen for a while had suddenly let her know he was going away to London and tonight was the only night they could see each other. Apologised profusely etc and said would try to arrange something before she goes away but I'm not holding out much hope for it.

Smells like bullshit to me, though I can't work out exactly why she would be doing it. At what point do I put my foot down and tell her to stop ******* me around? I really don't enjoy getting messed with.
I posted about this girl a while back. We had mutual friends etc but the catalyst for getting together was tinder. Anyway my instincts turned out to be correct - She went interstate, 'reconnected' with another girl, and sent me a message explaining she would have liked to give us a crack but she was infatuated with this other girl and wanted to see how that went. After a few messages (more out of curiosity) attempting to ascertain her sexuality (she said she didn't put a label on it) I bid her good luck and let her be. All seemed pretty final.

Anyway a few nights ago and about a month and a half later from above events I get a message from her on tinder asking me how tinder was going for me.

Lesbian thing didn't work out and she wants in again or just a random tinder message I shouldn't read much into? MEB_
 

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I posted about this girl a while back. We had mutual friends etc but the catalyst for getting together was tinder. Anyway my instincts turned out to be correct - She went interstate, 'reconnected' with another girl, and sent me a message explaining she would have liked to give us a crack but she was infatuated with this other girl and wanted to see how that went. After a few messages (more out of curiosity) attempting to ascertain her sexuality (she said she didn't put a label on it) I bid her good luck and let her be. All seemed pretty final.

Anyway a few nights ago and about a month and a half later from above events I get a message from her on tinder asking me how tinder was going for me.

Lesbian thing didn't work out and she wants in again or just a random tinder message I shouldn't read much into? MEB_
She sounds pretty confused to me, which is fine for you to have a one night stand with but you probably won't get anything more without a massive head****. If you're keen to just bone her and move on then go for it, otherwise she sounds like a bit of a pain in the ass.
 

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Date her, if she's openly into both your girl on girl threesome chances are sky high!
This is a common misconception that a lot of men have and it's ******* annoying.
Just because a woman is attracted to other women it doesn't make her any less inhibited than straight women when it comes to threesomes or promiscuity.
 

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This is a common misconception that a lot of men have and it's ******* annoying.
Just because a woman is attracted to other women it doesn't make her any less inhibited than straight women when it comes to threesomes or promiscuity.
True, but you know she won't rule it out.
 

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This is a common misconception that a lot of men have and it's ******* annoying.
Just because a woman is attracted to other women it doesn't make her any less inhibited than straight women when it comes to threesomes or promiscuity.
Disagree, and it's not going to hurt to try and find out for sure.
 

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I'm really not sure I could handle a threesome yet. One of those things you want to make count if it does happen.

I asked her why she messaged me and she said 'I was talking about you with my friend (mutual friend) and then I asked her, 'would it be wrong to message him now?' and she said it would be. So then I decided to message you'.

Which left me even more confused so after some back and forth I flat out asked her if she wants to see me again or not. Awaiting response...
 
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I'm really not sure I could handle a threesome yet. One of those things you want to make count if it does happen.

I asked her why she messaged me and she said 'I was talking about you with my friend (mutual friend) and then I asked her, 'would it be wrong to message him now?' and she said it would be. So then I decided to message you'.

Which left me even more confused so after some back and forth I flat out asked her if she wants to see me again or not. Awaiting response...
Let's face it they're all crazy. She might just be a little crazier than the average. Good luck :thumbsu:
 
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