Society & Culture The BigFooty Guide to getting the woman of Your Desire (Part 7)

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Mate you need to cut this girl out of your life completely and forever. She'll never be much more than a head****.
I know

I can't, like, a number of times I've tried no contact due to shit she's done

in the end time heals and we start chatting again

wish I could just cut her

Silent Alarm yh I don't want to be friends with her, I can't stand majority of her friends

possibility is the whole charade on Saturday was to make the new bloke jealous?

when she saw text I sent her and came spoke to me her reaction was odd almost like felt sorry for me - which I didn't appreciate me

I know I'm just punishing myself
 

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ok been a while since ive been in this thread

  • first proper girlfriend, got together 2011.
  • together just below 2 years.
  • so been broken up, what...22 months. (**** this is embarrassing for me)
  • never been fully over her, as in, had plenty of other partners in between (notsohumblebrag), but still when i hear shit about her, get that funny feeling in my guts.
  • yeh she broke up with me
  • what followed 6 months of substance abuse
  • always semi been in contact
  • few times no contact
  • every now and then catch up
  • last week was her birthday
  • she invites me (penny black)
  • im not sure if ill go
  • she text me three or four times throughout the week, to see if im going, actually text a lot last week. i think wtf is this. joking a lot etc, shes reminiscing, me as well.
  • i end up going
  • she's drunk
  • very excited to see me when i get there
  • hanging off me awkwardly, making me feel slightly uncomfortable
  • IE. standing at bar waiting to order
  • she comes up from behind hugging me
  • she begging me to come out after penny black to anyway (**** dat)
  • we then have this 2 or 3 minute conversation where she standing really ruddy close to my face and we flirting a lot
  • at this stage i start thinking ruddy ok maybe on here?
  • she then sitting next to me taking photos of me and her for snapchat, still feeling slightly uncomfortable, but getting used to the idea
  • her friends then come up to her and drag her away, she says to me "ooohhh im not allowed to talk to you"
  • odd i think but her friends for the most part have been ruddy hoes
  • chatting with mates, some joker come up to me who ive never met. me thinking fk of campaigner
  • i go oh yeh who do u know
  • he like oh do u no -exgfs name- boyfriend jordan ?
  • i go oh yeh i met her before
  • then stupidly passive aggressively text her "just met your boyfriends friend, why you know introduce me to him?"
  • annoying get angry/upset
  • apparantely doesn't have bf, but did some stalking and can see that shes giving some attention to one bloke in potential more than others.
  • i leave around 45 minutes later as dying down and feel uneasy about it all now.
  • she text me, i text back a few times this week as her birthday, so just happy birthday etc , her tones totally changed.
  • now ******* ive got that constant feeling in my guts about her again
  • in one of the birthday texts i say should catch up sometime next week, just to test waters
  • she agrees, catching up tonight at mine for a smoke

i know i should just "get over her", and at times i feel i am

i also no all this is immature as ****


like if saturday night was first contact in relation to birthday, and she was drunk i'd write it off as, she was drunk she regrets flirting with me

but whats with the texts all last week, insistent on me coming, making suggestions of who i can go with etc



i know i should just lay it on her "wtf was with sat night and following tone change in texts this week"


but im too unconfrontational

i dunno
So she's coming over tonight?

Mate, you need to lay it on the line to her - either you're a part of her life, or you aren't; she doesn't get to have you floating around the periphery, there for her when she needs it, and hurting and battling the rest of the time.

You aren't friends, and you can't be friends; tell her it's all or nothing; and if it's nothing, then that's it, she doesn't contact you unless she wants it all, if she does, you stone cold ignore her.
 
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I don't think she is a clinger. She is high maint :p
I have friends that speak to their GF's during the day, everytime they're not together and I'm like wtf have you got to talk about, you live with her, you saw her an hour ago and you'll be home tonight. I just hit the cancel button when my gf calls, I'm like lets not waste all the conversation, save some for tonight.
 

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I have friends that speak to their GF's during the day, everytime they're not together and I'm like wtf have you got to talk about, you live with her, you saw her an hour ago and you'll be home tonight. I just hit the cancel button when my gf calls, I'm like lets not waste all the conversation, save some for tonight.
My ex was like that.
Constant text messages through the day.
Then at night, she'd be like, "so how was your day?"
I'd be like, well you texted me every 5 mins so that was my day pretty much
 

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I feel like you're enjoying it, otherwise you'd tell her to stop.
Why would I enjoy 4am phone calls?

I did ask why she called, and all she said was "I was thinking of you"

Lets promote that to VERY VERY HIGH MAINTENANCE. also beyond level 5 clinger :p
High maintenance definitely
Well, it was nice knowing you.

Odds on she's going to turn you into a lamp shade.
Should i change my number and the locks on my doors?
 

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Why would I enjoy 4am phone calls?

I did ask why she called, and all she said was "I was thinking of you"



High maintenance definitely


Should i change my number and the locks on my doors?
Because you're still interested. If you weren't you'd tell her. I don't think you enjoy the 4am part, but you do enjoy the attention.
 
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