Society & Culture The BigFooty Guide to getting the woman of Your Desire (Part 7)

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Because you're still interested. If you weren't you'd tell her. I don't think you enjoy the 4am part, but you do enjoy the attention.
I do like attention, I mean who doesn't!
Just not that much.
My plan is to see her a couple more times then run to the hills


Wouldn't bother. Girls like her would already have a copy of your keys cut.

Here is her shrine to you on her bedroom wall.

Dear god!


Stalker alert more like it, not just clinger.

She's "just thinking of you" now, next she'll be looking in your window while you sleep.
Thankfully she doesn't know where i live...
 

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ok been a while since ive been in this thread

  • first proper girlfriend, got together 2011.
  • together just below 2 years.
  • so been broken up, what...22 months. (**** this is embarrassing for me)
  • never been fully over her, as in, had plenty of other partners in between (notsohumblebrag), but still when i hear shit about her, get that funny feeling in my guts.
  • yeh she broke up with me
  • what followed 6 months of substance abuse
  • always semi been in contact
  • few times no contact
  • every now and then catch up
  • last week was her birthday
  • she invites me (penny black)
  • im not sure if ill go
  • she text me three or four times throughout the week, to see if im going, actually text a lot last week. i think wtf is this. joking a lot etc, shes reminiscing, me as well.
  • i end up going
  • she's drunk
  • very excited to see me when i get there
  • hanging off me awkwardly, making me feel slightly uncomfortable
  • IE. standing at bar waiting to order
  • she comes up from behind hugging me
  • she begging me to come out after penny black to anyway (**** dat)
  • we then have this 2 or 3 minute conversation where she standing really ruddy close to my face and we flirting a lot
  • at this stage i start thinking ruddy ok maybe on here?
  • she then sitting next to me taking photos of me and her for snapchat, still feeling slightly uncomfortable, but getting used to the idea
  • her friends then come up to her and drag her away, she says to me "ooohhh im not allowed to talk to you"
  • odd i think but her friends for the most part have been ruddy hoes
  • chatting with mates, some joker come up to me who ive never met. me thinking fk of campaigner
  • i go oh yeh who do u know
  • he like oh do u no -exgfs name- boyfriend jordan ?
  • i go oh yeh i met her before
  • then stupidly passive aggressively text her "just met your boyfriends friend, why you know introduce me to him?"
  • annoying get angry/upset
  • apparantely doesn't have bf, but did some stalking and can see that shes giving some attention to one bloke in potential more than others.
  • i leave around 45 minutes later as dying down and feel uneasy about it all now.
  • she text me, i text back a few times this week as her birthday, so just happy birthday etc , her tones totally changed.
  • now ******* ive got that constant feeling in my guts about her again
  • in one of the birthday texts i say should catch up sometime next week, just to test waters
  • she agrees, catching up tonight at mine for a smoke

i know i should just "get over her", and at times i feel i am

i also no all this is immature as ****


like if saturday night was first contact in relation to birthday, and she was drunk i'd write it off as, she was drunk she regrets flirting with me

but whats with the texts all last week, insistent on me coming, making suggestions of who i can go with etc



i know i should just lay it on her "wtf was with sat night and following tone change in texts this week"


but im too unconfrontational

i dunno
Either get back with her or cut all ties with her.

It's simple.

Friends with your ex doesn't work.
 

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Saw her last night and things got worse.
She asked me.
Her: So do you mind if I see other people?
Me: I don't mind, we're not dating so do whatever you want. I'm not a rule maker
Her: What about you? Are you going to see other people?
Me: Yeah why not? I've been tied down too much in my life and not interested in being tied down again.
Her: I don't think I like the sound of that. I want you to myself...
Me: W....T....F
I didn't tell her to piss off right there and then, thought I'd be diplomatic somewhat.
Voiced my concerns but she didn't agree.
She asked if I'd like to catch up again soon, I agreed, but now I'm gonna have to pull the pin.
But I've never really been in the rejecter position, I'm usually the rejectee.
So question is how do I get out of this?
Do I:
A) Be brutally honest and tell her she's cray
B) Make up a half assed excuse
C) Cut off contact completely and leave for Mexico
D) Homer Simpson approach

 

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Saw her last night and things got worse.
She asked me.
Her: So do you mind if I see other people?
Me: I don't mind, we're not dating so do whatever you want. I'm not a rule maker
Her: What about you? Are you going to see other people?
Me: Yeah why not? I've been tied down too much in my life and not interested in being tied down again.
Her: I don't think I like the sound of that. I want you to myself...
Me: W....T....F
I didn't tell her to piss off right there and then, thought I'd be diplomatic somewhat.
Voiced my concerns but she didn't agree.
She asked if I'd like to catch up again soon, I agreed, but now I'm gonna have to pull the pin.
But I've never really been in the rejecter position, I'm usually the rejectee.
So question is how do I get out of this?
Do I:
A) Be brutally honest and tell her she's cray
B) Make up a half assed excuse
C) Cut off contact completely and leave for Mexico
D) Homer Simpson approach

Bang other people and brag about it to her, since she hates the idea so much.

Just make sure no knives are around.
 

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She played the "I can't remember anything from the weekend card...".

She could.


I ended up SMS her after bball on tuesday and telling her what she was doing, flirting etc

she said sorry and that wasn't fair on me and she doesn't know how to explain herself.

haven't spoken since
Delete her number, facebook etc etc. A lot of people do this, they'll get a bit lonely (partner not paying enough attention) and they'll go to an ex for mental reassurance. It's nothing more than an ego boost and will happen over and again until you just ignore. Unfortunately, keeping in contact with an ex just never works for 1 of the 2 parties involved.
 

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Mr Natural, you're either liar, or a dickhead.

She played the "I can't remember anything from the weekend card...".

She could.


I ended up SMS her after bball on tuesday and telling her what she was doing, flirting etc

she said sorry and that wasn't fair on me and she doesn't know how to explain herself.

haven't spoken since
Do what Craigos said mate - it's hard, but you've got to do it; get a mate to delete her from FB if you can't bring yourself to do it.

She's using you to help ease herself into new relationships.

She's being incredibly selfish and using you to make herself feel better, while glossing over how hard and unfair that is on you.
 

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I know

I can't, like, a number of times I've tried no contact due to shit she's done

in the end time heals and we start chatting again

wish I could just cut her

Silent Alarm yh I don't want to be friends with her, I can't stand majority of her friends

possibility is the whole charade on Saturday was to make the new bloke jealous?

when she saw text I sent her and came spoke to me her reaction was odd almost like felt sorry for me - which I didn't appreciate me

I know I'm just punishing myself
Your ex is a campaigner. You're a play thing for when she's bored/wants attention. Try to get one last shot off then completely ignore her.
 
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