Society & Culture The BigFooty Guide to getting the woman of Your Desire (Part 7)

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I don't know what you said to her, but you should have told her not to flatter herself.
Have you said that to someone before ? What was the end result ? :D if it was a slap to the face i'll pass. I have said it to a few people in the past, however they were one's i didn't give a crap in regards of what they thought of me.
 

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When a girl says "don't think about me" what she is trying to do is talk you out of being attracted to her to keep you as a friend.

They think just because you're being all nice and not trying to crack onto them every chance you get it means your interest is so minimal that you can be steered away from having sexual thoughts about them.

You can try to break out by being overtly sexual but you'll most likely scare them off if they weren't attracted to you.

Girls wants to have male friends without the sex. That's fine if you're getting it somewhere else, it's not if you're putting your balls on the line with that girl.
 

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Just a quick straw poll...... i was recently told by a girl to not think about her too much. Initial impression was that she was flirting with me and likes + wants my attention. My other line of thinking is that she maybe wants me to keep my distance and not get too attached to her (ie: her own way of avoiding letting me down in future).

This has heightened the curiosity factor and i would like to explore exactly what she meant by what she said, but at the same time i will probably shoot myself in the foot, regardless of the way i go.
Depends on the way she worded what she said and the tone of her voice.
 

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To me, there are 2 different ways she could have said it.

Scenario 1: "Xtreme, seriously, yeah... I don't think you should be thinking about me too much" with a serious tone

Scenario 2: "Haha okay, don't think about me too much ;)" quite flirty
 

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To me, there are 2 different ways she could have said it.

Scenario 1: "Xtreme, seriously, yeah... I don't think you should be thinking about me too much" with a serious tone

Scenario 2: "Haha okay, don't think about me too much ;)" quite flirty
It was more scenario 2, with a slight giggle at the end, but she did say that i really should try.I figure she is testing me to see what i do next and if i meet her expectations. I won't actually know until it happens i guess, and like a few other situations i have been in it would not surprise me if she changes the original intent - based on how wishy washy girls can be.
 

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Have you said that to someone before ? What was the end result ? :D if it was a slap to the face i'll pass. I have said it to a few people in the past, however they were one's i didn't give a crap in regards of what they thought of me.
It went down pretty well, so long as you're not completely serious about it. It also has an air of cockiness/funniness about it that girls dig. So long as you don't say it like you want to kill them...
 

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It was more scenario 2, with a slight giggle at the end, but she did say that i really should try.I figure she is testing me to see what i do next and if i meet her expectations. I won't actually know until it happens i guess, and like a few other situations i have been in it would not surprise me if she changes the original intent - based on how wishy washy girls can be.
Sounds to me like she was just flirting.... but didn't really get the bolded bit.
 

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Sounds to me like she was just flirting.... but didn't really get the bolded bit.
Next time i'll record it all and post it here for prosperity reasons so context can be heard straight away. The bold bit was either her being serious (thus probably not having the intention of being flirty when saying the first part), or she was being sarcastic and she was doing all but smacking me in the head with an ACME Anvil in order for me to put the moves on her.
 

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Next time i'll record it all and post it here for prosperity reasons so context can be heard straight away. The bold bit was either her being serious (thus probably not having the intention of being flirty when saying the first part), or she was being sarcastic and she was doing all but smacking me in the head with an ACME Anvil in order for me to put the moves on her.

No, if she says it again, you tell her not to flatter herself, and, if there are other people there, try and chat up one of her friends.
 

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it is all systems go for me :thumbsu:, apparently i am too good to ignore :D

i seem to do better when i am more myself, rather than turning my personality up from 10 to 20.
 

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Ok so, pre-empting here. Was my birthday yesterday and a girl from my primary school who I'm not sure I've really ever talked to sent me a happy birthday message. The usual I though, shrugged and said thanks. But she kept going, kept talking, and was clearly interested, plenty of "It is your birthday, so Ill give you anything you want" type stuff. She's not a stunner, but a small, cute brunette, usually my type. She slips in very early into the conversation that she is soon getting breast implants (how that come up, I'm not sure). Eventually it got to her saying "A second opinion would help, if you would like to get a before and after view?"
Given I'm the guy that just a week ago with a different girl got angry at her for offering to be sex buddies, stay tuned for how I could possibly screw this up.


*Sidenote: For those firmly in the awkward stage still, I turned 20 a virgin, and yesterday turned 21 with my magical number at 6. At some point it just clicks, could be at 16, 20 or 27. Best advice I could give is just to relax, and not be so nervous because in the end, what are you nervous about?
 

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Ok so, pre-empting here. Was my birthday yesterday and a girl from my primary school who I'm not sure I've really ever talked to sent me a happy birthday message. The usual I though, shrugged and said thanks. But she kept going, kept talking, and was clearly interested, plenty of "It is your birthday, so Ill give you anything you want" type stuff. She's not a stunner, but a small, cute brunette, usually my type. She slips in very early into the conversation that she is soon getting breast implants (how that come up, I'm not sure). Eventually it got to her saying "A second opinion would help, if you would like to get a before and after view?"
Given I'm the guy that just a week ago with a different girl got angry at her for offering to be sex buddies, stay tuned for how I could possibly screw this up.


*Sidenote: For those firmly in the awkward stage still, I turned 20 a virgin, and yesterday turned 21 with my magical number at 6. At some point it just clicks, could be at 16, 20 or 27. Best advice I could give is just to relax, and not be so nervous because in the end, what are you nervous about?

If you didn't say yes, I will find you and slap you so hard. All you have to say is "Sure! I'll let you know how they look!" and then get her to come over for sex. Not that hard.
 

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Haha I may be booed out of this thread if I didn't finish this one. Don't worry it's all set up - ahh it's nice when sometimes they just fall into your lap :)
 

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Haha I may be booed out of this thread if I didn't finish this one. Don't worry it's all set up - ahh it's nice when sometimes they just fall into your lap :)

I hope you think of this thread right in the middle of the act :thumbsu:
 

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cAsEy_18 How it got from

girl from my primary school who I'm not sure I've really ever talked to
to here

kept talking, and was clearly interested, plenty of "It is your birthday, so Ill give you anything you want" type stuff.
I'll never know.

Either way, sounds like she's keen, don't think you can stuff it up. Although, be wary of the hot/crazy scale. Sounds like you're heading into dangerous territory.

 
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