Society & Culture The BigFooty Guide to getting the woman of Your Desire (Part 7)

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I have had mates do it. Like men, there are some women who are always on the lookout for a better offer.

But again, just be aware that these things have a tendency to repeat themselves.
 

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Think if you were the other bloke, how would you feel if someone did that to you.

And if she is going to cheat on her current bf with you, she is likely to do the same to you if another guy comes along.
yeah obviously it's the risk you run in that situation.

Probably better off served waiting out the relationship and then pouncing ala Seinfeld's 'the wait out'.

I'm a tad smitten to be frank
 

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yeah obviously it's the risk you run in that situation.

Probably better off served waiting out the relationship and then pouncing ala Seinfeld's 'the wait out'.

I'm a tad smitten to be frank

I know dat feel, bro.
And yes, you are correct. You would be better served to wait it out. Let them break up on their own terms, don't get involved in it.
Then, if she flirts with you like you say, just wait out being the rebound, and then, full steam ahead.
 

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I'll be honest mate, you sound like a kid who's seen a good looking girl give him some attention and thought 'Oh, **** - I want to get in there ASAP' - and that's all you're thinking.

Show some class and decency, if you actually want a relationship - talk to her and see if she'll end the relationship.

If you just want to **** her; well, there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

Probably many who are better looking, and who you'll get just as infatuated with.

I've got a mate who's made mistakes like this, hasn't ended well for him in any occasion - and he hasn't gotten the girl in the end either.
 

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Tomorrow I'm planning to shit where I eat (Ie ask a uni lass out).

Any easy suggestions other than not going at it too hard? The course results in us potentially spending a lot of time in the same vicinity (Not many electives) which is a bit of a worry...
 

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If the only question you're really asking is whether she'd be into it, I'd just say that just flirting is a poor indicator. Most girls in relationships love casual flirting. It's fun and reassures them that they're still desirable.

Things like being willing to spend time with you alone would be a bigger hint. That's where things start to get a bit grey.
 
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Tomorrow I'm planning to shit where I eat (Ie ask a uni lass out).

Any easy suggestions other than not going at it too hard? The course results in us potentially spending a lot of time in the same vicinity (Not many electives) which is a bit of a worry...
That sounds like exactly what you want to be doing....

If you know what I mean ;)
 

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Tomorrow I'm planning to shit where I eat (Ie ask a uni lass out).

Any easy suggestions other than not going at it too hard? The course results in us potentially spending a lot of time in the same vicinity (Not many electives) which is a bit of a worry...
Just don't make a big thing about it. Don't go up to her with the express purpose of asking her out, slip it casually into a normal conversation. If she says no, smile and shrug it off with a 'shame about that' or something. Then keep talking to her normally about other stuff, and depart normally.

Make it obvious it's no big deal, show her nothing's changed, and there'll be no awkwardness.
 

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Regardless of the ethics of the situation, or how likely it is to be successful, I am not sure I would be particularly interested in dating a girl who let me chat her up behind her boyfriend's back and then left him for me. Girls who monkey branch tend to make it a habit.
I can definitely speak to this. I did this once, and then someone else did it to me with the same girl (a much maligned afl spud).

There's a fine line here. If you think you really have strong feelings for someone then by all means don't let someone you don't know stop you from pursuing it. Just make sure you weigh everything up and you know what you're doing.

It's a pretty shit feeling.
 

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whilst i personally really don't care much about the whole cheater, pursuing taken people, from a pragmatic point of view, it seems like a ballache.

have never pursued a taken women myself, nor been with one before (knowingly, either in foresight or finding out after the fact), but meh whatever. having seen quite a few marriages and relationships that appeared pretty solid fall apart over the last couple of years, i've become fairly disillusioned with the whole idea of monogamy.
 

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All the good ones are taken.

Single girls that are hot are usually crazy.

Sexy girls get a boyfriend when they're 16 (or younger in many cases) and aren't single until their beauty starts to fade.

It's just the way it is.

You decide if you want to go for those type of ladies. They like to upgrade so don't be surprised when she finds a guy she likes more than you.
 

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That's a pretty defeatist attitude.

Personally I find that most girls worth dating are too busy with school, uni, extracurriculars and work to date much before their mid 20s.

Guys are too quick to write off girls as crazy as well. People have flaws and relationships require work. Most guys in their 20s are amazingly lazy when it comes to relationships. Especially the goodlooking ones who are used to pulling high quality girls.
 

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That's a pretty defeatist attitude.

Personally I find that most girls worth dating are too busy with school, uni, extracurriculars and work to date much before their mid 20s.

Guys are too quick to write off girls as crazy as well. People have flaws and relationships require work. Most guys in their 20s are amazingly lazy when it comes to relationships. Especially the goodlooking ones who are used to pulling high quality girls.

Well, I guess there is one positive to not being able to pull high quality girls, then...
 
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