The difference between Men and Women

[Damon_3388]

One thing I can't stand about women is there obsession with calling/texting without a reason.

"just to have a chat"

To be honest, I'd love it if more women did that. Very rarely happens in my experience.

 

[Dazb86]

They probably figure that if you have time to reply you have time to tell them what you're doing - which they're interested in, because they're clearly bored and killing time with idle chit chat if they texted you for no reason in the first place. Not surprised they get offended when you admit you're dogging them.

I just ignore messages that are non-urgent if I don't want to reply to them immediately. People can take it as read that I'm not available, the reason isn't important. If people ask I just say that I don't have my phone on me at all times, and I usually don't reply to texts while I'm working or if I'm with other people or, hell, if I'm doing anything at all that requires my full attention.

If you don't set a standard of replying immediately to every pointless text then people won't expect it. It's even more important when you're using a smartphone for work and you constantly have emails coming through to you 24/7.

I guess so. When I don't reply I usually get a "why are you ignoring me" text. Most of the time I feel just like writing S.T.F.U to be honest.

I don't really like shooting the shit with people over a phone without a reason. Especially with females because they bore the **** out of me with mindless drama. If I call someone generally it's either because I'm going to meet up with them or for making future plans.

 

[Caesar]

To be honest, I'd love it if more women did that. Very rarely happens in my experience.

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I guess so. When I don't reply I usually get a "why are you ignoring me" text.

Which is because they expect you to be constantly accessible, so therefore if you're not replying then you're actively ignoring them.

I'm hopeless with my phone. I regularly go out and leave it at home. I will leave it charging in the study and let it sit there all day. Unless I'm expecting a message I refuse to even look at it whilst I'm in the company of somebody else. I won't reply to personal text messages during work hours. My house is in an area with sometimes sketchy reception.

As a consequence nobody who knows me thinks anything of it if I don't reply to a message for anything from a few hours to a whole day. Which suits me just fine. If they really need me they'll call.

Seriously, here's a neat exercise. Go through your inbox, and tally up how many messages you've received recently that required an instantaneous/ASAP response. Compare that number to how many could have waited at least (say) 4 hours before you replied.

Guarantee you'll have virtually none in the first category bar "where r u?!?" messages from Saturday night. People are way too attached to their phones and the idea of instant accessability.

 

[showdownhero]

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this x ∞

 

[nicky]

To be honest, I'd love it if more women did that. Very rarely happens in my experience.

I have a few girlfriends who do that and it does get annoying.

 

[Damon_3388]

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this x ∞

What? I usually find women are more interesting to talk to and better conversationalists than most men, so I actually like talking to them, provided it's about something more substantial than lip gloss or fake tan.

 

[Dazb86]

*shudder*

 

[nicky]

I have a friend who lives 5 minutes from me and will ring me as she's leaving her house to walk to mine.

She rings me alot actually.

Me: Hi
her: hi how are you going, what are you doing tonight?
me: I'm at work, can i call you after work?
her: yeah sure, so what are you doing later?
me: I'll call you later, yeah?

 

[showdownhero]

What? I usually find women are more interesting to talk to and better conversationalists than most men, so I actually like talking to them, provided it's about something more substantial than lip gloss or fake tan.

Hopefully not with women you hope to sechs?

 

[Caesar]

What? I usually find women are more interesting to talk to and better conversationalists than most men, so I actually like talking to them, provided it's about something more substantial than lip gloss or fake tan.

Why you would want to talk to anybody you see regularly - male or female - about inconsequential things on the phone is beyond me. It's a waste of time - usually an awful lot of time - that could be better spent doing other things, thus creating more time to spend actually enjoying someone's company in person.

The night time phonecall is the most interminable. Yammering on about nothing of consequence when I really need to be asleep because I have to be up at six am. And when you try and politely draw a close to the conversation, it must be because you're bored of her. Infuriating.

 

[dales.girl38]

I used to text my closest friend that I see often a lot practically every day, and they were long text messages - had to take a step back because it was getting a bit ridiculous.

My best friend moved interstate 18 months ago, so we have little text chats during the day sometimes and call eachother a lot. I think that's different though.

Other than that I'm pretty rubbish at texting/FB chat etc. which I don't think is a good thing as I'm not as close with my girlfriends as I think a lot of other girls are.

 

[Damon_3388]

Hopefully not with women you hope to sechs?

Primarily with women I hope to sechs. Half of what makes some women attractive to me is their personality, how much we have in common and how well we get on together in conversation.

Why you would want to talk to anybody you see regularly - male or female - about inconsequential things on the phone is beyond me. It's a waste of time - usually an awful lot of time - that could be better spent doing other things, thus creating more time to spend actually enjoying someone's company in person.

The night time phonecall is the most interminable. Yammering on about nothing of consequence when I really need to be asleep because I have to be up at six am. And when you try and politely draw a close to the conversation, it must be because you're bored of her. Infuriating.

Well they don't have to call and bother me with every little thing that pops into their head, but the occassional out-of-the-blue "how are you?"/"how's it going?" call/text would be nice, as it's not something I've ever really had in the relationships I've been in or with girls I've dated.

 

[showdownhero]

Primarily with women I hope to sechs. Half of what makes some women attractive to me is their personality, how much we have in common and how well we get on together in conversation.

That's the quickest route to the friendzone I've ever seen.


















































EVER

 

[Damon_3388]

That's the quickest route to the friendzone I've ever seen.

EVER

Not necessarily. Blokes generally get friendzoned because they're too soft to make a move and/or simply don't know how/when to initiate physical contact, not just because they enjoy having conversations with women.

 

[The Passenger]

I won't reply to personal text messages during work hours.

ehhhh??

you don't strike me as the sort of person who works a job where the boss/es say you can't have your phone on you during work hours - pubs, retail etc,.

 

[Caesar]

It's more a self-enforced thing, stops me getting distracted. Also means people tend not to bother me during business hours with personal stuff, and are more inclined to ring me at lunch or after 5 rather than just whenever it suits them.

I really need to start doing it with the internet too. I get an email saying someone's replied to a thread on BF and I click on it immediately. So much wasted time...

 

[nicky]

It's more a self-enforced thing, stops me getting distracted. Also means people tend not to bother me during business hours with personal stuff, and are more inclined to ring me at lunch or after 5 rather than just whenever it suits them.

I really need to start doing it with the internet too. I get an email saying someone's replied to a thread on BF and I click on it immediately. So much wasted time...

yeah turn that feature off.

 

[dales.girl38]

yeah turn that feature off.

Or have a separate email address for work and leisure, I thought everybody would do that.

 

[Caesar]

I do, but both are linked to my smartphone.

Nicky's right, I just need to turn that option off.

 

[nicky]

I do, but both are linked to my smartphone.

Nicky's right, I just need to turn that option off.

It's a good move i think.

 

[cammiss05]

Why you would want to talk to anybody you see regularly - male or female - about inconsequential things on the phone is beyond me. It's a waste of time - usually an awful lot of time - that could be better spent doing other things, thus creating more time to spend actually enjoying someone's company in person.

The night time phonecall is the most interminable. Yammering on about nothing of consequence when I really need to be asleep because I have to be up at six am. And when you try and politely draw a close to the conversation, it must be because you're bored of her. Infuriating.

100% agree. My ex used to do this often, when we saw each other the next day, there was nothing much left to talk about haha. She also used to crack the sads too when I wanted to sleep rather than talk to her.

 

[THRILLHO]

What? I usually find women are more interesting to talk to and better conversationalists than most men, so I actually like talking to them, provided it's about something more substantial than lip gloss or fake tan.

It just doesn't make sense.

I don't mind hanging out with girls, but I couldn't think of anything worse than sitting there talking on the phone about the most banal things.

At least organise to meet somewhere or catch up for a coffee so you're at least conversing face-to-face.

Standard phone call:

Friend: Hey what's up?
Me: Nothing, what you up to?
Friend: Nothing, wanna hang?
Me: Ok. Cya soon.

Seriously, the worst is the banal public transport phonecall.

Hey what are you up to?
Nothing, I'm just on the train, lol.

Read a book or look out the window and just chill without the need to be constantly pandered to or occupied.

I'm hopeless with my phone. I regularly go out and leave it at home. I will leave it charging in the study and let it sit there all day. Unless I'm expecting a message I refuse to even look at it whilst I'm in the company of somebody else. I won't reply to personal text messages during work hours. My house is in an area with sometimes sketchy reception.

As a consequence nobody who knows me thinks anything of it if I don't reply to a message for anything from a few hours to a whole day. Which suits me just fine. If they really need me they'll call.

Same.

Actually have no idea where my phone is right now.

 

[Damon_3388]

It just doesn't make sense.

I don't mind hanging out with girls, but I couldn't think of anything worse than sitting there talking on the phone about the most banal things.

As I said, they don't have to call and bother me with every little thing that pops into their head, but the occassional out-of-the-blue "how are you?"/"how's it going?"/"how's your day been?"/"what are you up to?" call or text would be a nice touch, as it's not something I've ever really had in the relationships I've been in or with girls I've dated.

 

[Hipster Doofus]

Girls look better?

 

[carn tigez]

As I said, they don't have to call and bother me with every little thing that pops into their head, but the occassional out-of-the-blue "how are you?"/"how's it going?"/"how's your day been?"/"what are you up to?" call or text would be a nice touch, as it's not something I've ever really had in the relationships I've been in or with girls I've dated.

Been with my gf for 10 weeks now, I sort of thought like this for a bit but have since changed. I really like this girl, so it's not that I don't want to speak to her, but we tend to text each other pretty steadily throughout the day without going over the top. Means you get to have that bit of contact without having too much, and get to hear the important things without the boring pointless thoughts/facts.

Then you see eachother and can talk in detail about what's happened lately etc. Works well for me