Games & Recreation The form slump thread

[yeah_nah]

Is it possible it's just the stench of desperation? Not having a go, but a girl can smell the slightest bit of nervousness or excitement even when you think you're perfectly normal. There's no greater turnoff.

I've never broken a drought until I simply stopped worrying about it. It's like golf, when you stop overthinking everything takes care of itself.

Agree with this. Also fits in with the theory that wayyyy more girls hit on you when you are taken than when you're single.

When you're taken you aren't worried about picking up, therefore you are acting cool, which in turn attracts women.

 

[Mr Gor]

Have to agree.

When I've been genuinely out with friends for a reason (ie. birthday, going away etc.) and not put picking up as a priority it sometimes sorts itself out. I'm not one to force the action either so opportunities created by the mindset of the situation are perfect for me. I just can't seem to harness this mindset though...

 

[Brad Goodman]

I have rarely gone out with the intention of picking up, happy if it occurs but not fussed if it doesn't.

This attitude worked well for me in my youth, usually on the occasions I was successful it was them approaching me and me just running with it.

Now I'm a bit older and it doesn't come so easy, unfortunately I didn't develop tuning skills in my youth so I'm behind the 8-ball these days...

 

[crownie]

I have rarely gone out with the intention of picking up, happy if it occurs but not fussed if it doesn't.

This attitude worked well for me in my youth, usually on the occasions I was successful it was them approaching me and me just running with it.

Now I'm a bit older and it doesn't come so easy, unfortunately I didn't develop tuning skills in my youth so I'm behind the 8-ball these days...

nothing was worse then going out with something who was desperate to pick up that when they didn't they would crack the sads and ruin the night

 

[coke_zero]

Nice video- funny and makes a good point.

i think he may be god

 

[Power King]

rdub, brah, you saying he wait too long to go find her again?

Was she at the same bar as you all night OP?

I was going to write a response, but then I decided to first read the second page of this thread...

Finding her was your mistake IMO. Once you've already got her attention and she is interested let her come back to you.

Bingo. Don't be her bitch. Most guys (yourself included from your story) are too accomodating to a girl. Girls don't want a guy they can easily get. Girls want a guy that is out of her league, so you must act like it. This means to not be an accomodating bitch.

*depends on setting though, eg club, party

Nope, he came back and did the same as most guys would've done and therefore followed her command (put her on a pedestal) . Personally I would of said "maybe" or "you can find me later"- this shows you aren't at her mercy and you can be guaranteed she is not used to being treated like that, which will create attraction.

I could be wrong in this case and the girl was being genuine but most women are like this, they have little tests to distinguish the white knights from the alpha males.

^someone with a clue.

Being an alpha male doesn't mean you have to be a ****ing bogan rugby redneck that thinks he owns the joint like an arseh*le. It's more about how confident you are in yourself and subtly letting the girl know that you aren't going to get on your knees for her because you could and do have other females waiting.

There is very little chance of this being a reason, in fact this would more likely increase your chances for a fair bit. Women are competitive and get jealous easily. Being seen/ speaking to other women increases your "value", hence why when guys get a girlfriend there will be an increased number of girls showing interest in them in comparison to when they were single.

Exactly right. Females are competitive, and guys that are out of their league are the ones they feel attracted to the most.

What is one way to show that you are out of her league? Have a good time with other girls (though again, you can't be an arseh*le/sleaze/white knight about it).

 

[premiers06]

Some good responses here. I can definately see why I have been in a form slump for a while and the other times I was probably well simply 'lucky'.

Cheers for the responses guys

 

[The_Bulldogs_Bite]

Enjoyed reading some of the posts. Nice work.

Must say I am in a bit of a slump myself, but it really does come down to building your confidence back up again. Generally I believe if you're happy with how things are going in life, you give off a positive and relaxed vibe. This definitely attracts women IMO.

On the contrary, if you're suffering from anxiety or whatever else, they can 'detect' it.

 

[Copernicus]

After reading this thread all I can say is thank christ I'm married

I was never the most assured of guys so picking up was usually a pretty unlikely occurrence. It got to the point where I really didn't care, not that that attitude helped me either. Eventually you realise they are just women and have a tendency to be a pain in the arse. You either get some or you don't, no big deal in the end.

 

[King Elvis]

Enjoyed reading some of the posts. Nice work.

Must say I am in a bit of a slump myself, but it really does come down to building your confidence back up again. Generally I believe if you're happy with how things are going in life, you give off a positive and relaxed vibe. This definitely attracts women IMO.

On the contrary, if you're suffering from anxiety or whatever else, they can 'detect' it.

Agree completely.

When things are going well at work and in general, and you're feeling comfortable, confident and happy, you always have more luck.

Always better if you have a couple of girls that you go out on the town with from time to time as well.

 

[r dub 19]

Surely revelling this weekend Kingy?

 

[King Elvis]

Heading out on Saturday night mate; going to Sydney again on Grand Final weekend though, so can't go too ******* with monies.

You brah?

 

[Invigoration]

Guess the bloke in this thread that's read The Game

 

[DidakDelight]

Listen to R-dubs, Caesar and Mr Gor all very wise customers.

 

[Poetic Justice]

Guess the bloke in this thread that's read The Game

Was thinking the same thing too! I've read it.

 

[kwame]

Is it possible it's just the stench of desperation? Not having a go, but a girl can smell the slightest bit of nervousness or excitement even when you think you're perfectly normal. There's no greater turnoff.

I've never broken a drought until I simply stopped worrying about it. It's like golf, when you stop overthinking everything takes care of itself.

agreed

i think this is where you went wrong.

was in a bit of a drought recently then broke it with a chick that spilled a beer on me one night and played it perfectly....................now am in drought again

 

[SHAKESPEARE]

lol ive got a kick arse 12 year form slump going right now.

 

[r dub 19]

Guess the bloke in this thread that's read The Game

haha

I've read it and thought it was a massive disappointment.

 

[r dub 19]

lol ive got a kick arse 12 year form slump going right now.

Is this real life?

 

[clivewaterhousen]

Is this real life?

ahh r-dub

if only i went to curtin and we met by chance we could make beautiful music together**



**no homo

 

[r dub 19]

ahh r-dub

if only i went to curtin and we met by chance we could make beautiful music together**



**no homo

Sorry brah I do surf science at ECU

 

[clivewaterhousen]

Sorry brah I do surf science at ECU

i didnt get the TER to get into that.



vale

 

[Sweaty]

A mate of mine has regular form slumps (hes the kind of guy who shops at rivers).

To fix this we just go to eve.

 

[BACCS]

A mate of mine has regular form slumps (hes the kind of guy who shops at rivers).

To fix this we just go to eve.

What a poor poor soul.

 

[yeah_nah]

What a poor poor soul.

They say those who shop at rivers don't have a soul.

And those who go to ECU don't have a brain, but thats a different story.