You still appear to be pretty wet behind the ears.Yes, and yes.
But the manner in which the relationships ended and the way the club treated her at that time were not ideal.
When you initiate a relationship with a 16 year old who idolizes you, i think it should be the responsibility of the adult not to treat her badly to the point of her flipping out. (remembering a 16 year old is just an oversized kid. when i was 16 i was ridiculously immature)