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He said he'd lose his shit if she cheated. Therefore, he is insecure in that if he was cheated on he wouldn't be able to handle it.

That really is a pretty straight forward concept.
It really isnt that simple.

Have you been cheated on before?

If not, you have nfi how you would act in that situation.

You are just padding your own insecurites with that belief that you wouldn't lose your shit.

If you were emotionally secure you would never have married your wife, by your logic.
 

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It really isnt that simple.

Have you been cheated on before?

If not, you have nfi how you would act in that situation.
Pretty sure I know myself inside and out, strengths and weaknesses. Thanks for your concern though.

If you were emotionally secure you would never have married your wife, by your logic.
Precisely why I didn't marry my partner. There's a thread from about 6-7 years back on marriage. You should go read it.
 
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Complete bullshit. You're kidding yourself if you think anyone married for 10+ years is madly in love. And pretty much everyone knows it and accepts it .... except for the ones who delude themselves and think they will go find another mr/mrs right who will last the distance.

There's plenty of people who have been married for 10, 20, 50 years who are happy and would change anything. Madly in love? Not a chance.
I actually tend to agree with you overall, but this is horses**t, just because YOU don't know one doesn't mean they don't exist, you can't possibly know this so don't say it.
 

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It really isnt that simple.

Have you been cheated on before?

If not, you have nfi how you would act in that situation.

You are just padding your own insecurites with that belief that you wouldn't lose your shit.

If you were emotionally secure you would never have married your wife, by your logic.
Didn't you realise that's he's superman?
 

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quickstraw ... have you ever thought perhaps you're just a shit human being?
Not built to be monogamous? Are you referring to ancestral behaviours?

We also punish murder now but we're not necessarily built to?
 

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I actually tend to agree with you overall, but this is horses**t, just because YOU don't know one doesn't mean they don't exist, you can't possibly know this so don't say it.
Right, another one of these.:rolleyes: "You have a close minded set of friends who are all the same so you don't know". I've met enough couples to know that if this does happen it's so rare it's not worth mentioning.

A previous poster said something like "love evolves". Do you know what that means? It means people fall out of love but realise for a number of reasons staying together is better than breaking up and then this is what they now call "love". Spin it any way you want but in my time I've never met anyone any different. What do you put that down to? Perhaps I'm just right? Don't believe me, go do some research on it.
 

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Sitting all day on a foreshore waiting for ghey fireworks. Waste of a day. Getting home is a*se too.

Put them all together to make one thermo-nuclear firework and launch it a few km's out to sea - now Id wait to see that.
Sitting all day on the Swan River foreshore waiting for fireworks and not having to have a drink.

I enjoyed it when I was in China and was allowed to buy fireworks on the streets and light them up on the streets during CNY.
 

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quickstraw ... have you ever thought perhaps you're just a shit human being?
Nope, but you seem to think I am. Why don't you provide me some bullet points and I'll consider them.

Not built to be monogamous? Are you referring to ancestral behaviours?
Go do some research. Come back if you find a non religious expert who disagrees.

We also punish murder now but we're not necessarily built to?
Apples to oranges. One is an inbuilt behavior the other is a learnt behavior just as love is inbuilt but marriage is a learned behavior. You need to lift your IQ by a fair margin before you take me on sonny boy.
 

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Right, another one of these.:rolleyes: "You have a close minded set of friends who are all the same so you don't know". I've met enough couples to know that if this does happen it's so rare it's not worth mentioning.

A previous poster said something like "love evolves". Do you know what that means? It means people fall out of love but realise for a number of reasons staying together is better than breaking up and then this is what they now call "love". Spin it any way you want but in my time I've never met anyone any different. What do you put that down to? Perhaps I'm just right? Don't believe me, go do some research on it.
Yeah...I'm still very much in love, 15 years in

I've had opportunities to cheat, and have not. And were talking no hope of anyone ever knowing. Still no. Doesn't mean I don't have a look/aren't attracted to others. Maybe I'm the weird one. Maybe quickstraw has evolved
 
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Right, another one of these.:rolleyes: "You have a close minded set of friends who are all the same so you don't know". I've met enough couples to know that if this does happen it's so rare it's not worth mentioning.

A previous poster said something like "love evolves". Do you know what that means? It means people fall out of love but realise for a number of reasons staying together is better than breaking up and then this is what they now call "love". Spin it any way you want but in my time I've never met anyone any different. What do you put that down to? Perhaps I'm just right? Don't believe me, go do some research on it.
I didn't say anything about your friends, my point is more about broad sweeping statements and hyperbole, saying "it cannot ever happen" is just ridiculous especially about an emotion, of which your interpretation is probably different to everyone elses on the planet.

Do you know what love evolves means? I know what it means to me and thanks to your response i know now what it means to you (i think your view of love evolving is pretty warped but you are entitled to think that), i have no idea what that concept of the evolution of love especially in someone ELSES relationship means and neither do you.

Again I can do some research right here, a few people have already mentioned they are still in love, i also am still in love, you can say that were in denial and wrong blah blah blah but you dont know that.

My overall point is that you shouldn't state your opinion as fact and tell people to "do some research" especially about something as broad and individual as the concept of love.
 

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I didn't say anything about your friends, my point is more about broad sweeping statements and hyperbole, saying "it cannot ever happen" is just ridiculous especially about an emotion, of which your interpretation is probably different to everyone elses on the planet.

Do you know what love evolves means? I know what it means to me and thanks to your response i know now what it means to you (i think your view of love evolving is pretty warped but you are entitled to think that), i have no idea what that concept of the evolution of love especially in someone ELSES relationship means and neither do you.

Again I can do some research right here, a few people have already mentioned they are still in love, i also am still in love, you can say that were in denial and wrong blah blah blah but you dont know that.

My overall point is that you shouldn't state your opinion as fact and tell people to "do some research" especially about something as broad and individual as the concept of love.
But don't you know QS is never wrong?
 

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so you want to argue over semantics? you agree with me but dont like how ive presented it? how many people do you think are still madly in love after 15 years? do you really think its enough to recognise? weve been through more or less the same thing in another thread. the heroes that came forward and said they were the anomally ended up being full of shit.

maybe you need a mug of cement and need to get over some random onthe internet you mostly agree with apart from some semantics?

everyone thinks "yes but im different" "im not like that" but the truth 99 times out of 100 is they but jst dont like to see themselves that way.
 
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so you want to argue over semantics? you agree with me but dont like how ive presented it? how many people do you think are still madly in love after 15 years? do you really think its enough to recognise? weve been through more or less the same thing in another thread. the heroes that came forward and said they were the anomally ended up being full of shit.

maybe you need a mug of cement and need to get over some random onthe internet you mostly agree with apart from some semantics?

everyone thinks "yes but im different" "im not like that" but the truth 99 times out of 100 is they but jst dont like to see themselves that way.
I think 1 is enough to acknowledge that the statement "it's not possible" is wrong. I'm not going to do this with you again, your inability to see any view that isn't your own makes you who you are and i would hazard a guess that 99 people out of 100 don't like you at all, lucky you found the 1 who could.
 

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human nature is human nature. weRe just not built that way. you think there exceptions, i think the only only exceptions are very submissive people. we differ by not much at all. but you take the high road all you like, but it doesnt change that any puusy-boy reading this who claims he is different isnt a delusional mangina.
 

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human nature is human nature. weRe just not built that way. you think there exceptions, i think the only only exceptions are very submissive people. we differ by not much at all. but you take the high road all you like, but it doesnt change that any puusy-boy reading this who claims he is different isnt a delusional mangina.
Or you're just a twat who refuses to see any other opinion than your own.
 

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One day, you'll be sitting around and you'll notice the same thing I have noticed. You may still believe that someone, somewhere out there is difference, but what does it matter? The penny will drop.

I can't believe how hard it is for you to believe people are different. I've known my wife for 17 years. How much longer should I wait for that penny?
 

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One day, you'll be sitting around and you'll notice the same thing I have noticed. You may still believe that someone, somewhere out there is difference, but what does it matter? The penny will drop.
Some context of your own situation and experience would be useful to frame things a bit better
 
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