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No love could match the "deep love" you have for yourself, but i'll do my best.
I'm comfortable and going through the motions. Won't lose my shit if my partner has some on the side. Interesting to also note, there's no one on the internet that pisses me off that much that I have to follow them around and post "I don't like you, waa waa waa" every time they post.
 

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I've told you what I've seen. There's no exceptions in what I've seen. Psychological studies back it up.
its the "I" in "I've seen" that is pretty important. Its all being filtered through your own context, perspective & experience

For some reason you don't agree your opinion is at least partially about you
 

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Those haircuts with the sides shaved off that's so mainstream nowadays.. I don't get the appeal.

i've got one, quite enjoying it. having said that, the difference between the length at the top and at the sides isn't massive, so I would say it's more practical than hipster.

as always, don't get ACA, they're touting their investigation into a meathead thug bloke by describing him as 'selfie obsessed'
 

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its the "I" in "I've seen" that is pretty important. Its all being filtered through your own context, perspective & experience

For some reason you don't agree your opinion is at least partially about you
That's not really what I said. It's part about me because I'm part of what I'm talking about. I'm just saying this is phenomenon is much more widespread that me and it's really about that rather than just my world. Not sure why you're choosing to waste time arguing on something so peripheral?
 

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That's not really what I said. It's part about me because I'm part of what I'm talking about. I'm just saying this is phenomenon is much more widespread that me and it's really about that rather than just my world. Not sure why you're choosing to waste time arguing on something so peripheral?
If it were really that peripheral you wouldn't be so defensive
 

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How about we just move on. If you guys think I have it wrong then good for you. I suspect one day in the future each of you will realise that you don't know anyone who is any different. And you may sit there and think "but someone out there is different. I just know it!".

But does it really matter? Enjoy your midlives of contentment and happiness, just don't kid yourselves you're not going to be going through the motions if you're in a LTR.
 
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2. I got married and it made me love my partner more
3. Now that I'm in a relationship with my partner I am in "deep love"
Firstly, I would like to acknowledge that I know where you are coming from to an extent - it is a general human trait to begin with a chemical attraction/infatuation in the early days and for this to wane over time and for love to evolve and end up becoming things other than that infatuation (which some refer to as deeper love).

I'm also not arrogant/deluded enough to suggest that I will be some kind of exception to this common relational progression.

However, I definately love my partner more now than before I was married and is certainly not a self-delusion of convenience (maybe - at 4 years - I have not been married long enough to qualify?).

This 'love' is tangible in a variety of ways;
- Our sex life now is MUCH better than the early (pre-marital and early marriage) days - we know each others likes and turn ons more and have become much more adventurous (lost all self-consciousness/shyness).
- She is more physically attractive to me than she used to be (helps that her skin has improved and her body is better - she is also more mature and carries herself more confidently and sexily)
- Our interests and tastes have converged over time meaning we have more fun together than we used to.
- We laugh more as we have more in jokes from shared experiences and are more secure meaning it is harder to offend
- We have become more familiar with each other's deepest vulnerabilities/issues and still love and like each other - scoff all you want but this has meant a deeper love - particularly when you know you are loved and accepted for exactly who you are (even your darkest perversities) not just who you think you are (or portray yourself to be). (This has acted to make our sex life a 'deeper' and more intimate experience too).
- As aforementioned, my wife has tried things that I like (and she doesn't) growing to like them herself (and vice versa). This has meant more to talk about, better travel and holiday experiences, more enjoyable hobbies (e.g. she genuinely loves footy now - to the point she'll go without me), better cooking and eating out, etc etc. This means less arguments, more fun, etc.
- She has more energy now and gets less worked up about minor issues = improved relationship.
- We have better learnt how not to irriate each other and are far more relaxed about most things in life.
- The above are simply the tangible things - there are plenty of intagibles about how we feel (or our love if you prefer) than the above.

So, after 7-8 years (4 of marriage), our relationship has definately IMPROVED and we are definately more 'in love' post marriage.
 
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