Society & Culture Things in life you just don't understand

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Many relationships improves markedly after years. Quikstraw's point may be true for some people, but I can point out many people who live blissful monogamous lives. Most men admire other women, not all men sleep with them.
 

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Don't understand why teachers aren't doing more to discipline our kids.
Really?

Society treats teachers like glorified childcare workers.

When I went to school (1990-2001, so post the era of the cane etc.) if you were a shit at school the teacher would tell you to stop being a shit, maybe give you detention etc. and if you were still a shit they would contact your parents and tell them you were a shit and you'd be in trouble with them too.

Nowadays between filling out incident reports and other bureaucratic nonsense, complaints from students/parents and parents contacting teachers to take the side of the kid or blame the teacher I don't know why they even bother.
 

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Really?

Society treats teachers like glorified childcare workers.

When I went to school (1990-2001, so post the era of the cane etc.) if you were a shit at school the teacher would tell you to stop being a shit, maybe give you detention etc. and if you were still a shit they would contact your parents and tell them you were a shit and you'd be in trouble with them too.

Nowadays between filling out incident reports and other bureaucratic nonsense, complaints from students/parents and parents contacting teachers to take the side of the kid or blame the teacher I don't know why they even bother.

I got the cane at Scotch in 1989!
 

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Really?

Society treats teachers like glorified childcare workers.

When I went to school (1990-2001, so post the era of the cane etc.) if you were a shit at school the teacher would tell you to stop being a shit, maybe give you detention etc. and if you were still a shit they would contact your parents and tell them you were a shit and you'd be in trouble with them too.

Nowadays between filling out incident reports and other bureaucratic nonsense, complaints from students/parents and parents contacting teachers to take the side of the kid or blame the teacher I don't know why they even bother.
I know I'm older than most here but when I was a kid if I got in trouble with an adult, especially one in authority, I'd be in the shit with my parents as the (usually correct) assumption was that I'd ****** up.

Now it seems far more likely that if a parent is told their darling child has done something wrong, they make the (usually incorrect) assumption that their child has been unfairly chastised as their kid wouldn't possibly do anything wrong.

It's a generalisation but people in authority, and especially teachers, must find it difficult to deal with a disruptive child if the kid's parents are taking the kid's side and essentially excusing or downplaying the behaviour.
 

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e (maybe - at 4 years - I have not been married long enough to qualify?).
7-8 years? I'm thinking minimum 10 but at same time don't think too much will change from 8-10 years.

This 'love' is tangible in a variety of ways;
- Our sex life now is MUCH better than the early (pre-marital and early marriage) days - we know each others likes and turn ons more and have become much more adventurous (lost all self-consciousness/shyness).
- She is more physically attractive to me than she used to be (helps that her skin has improved and her body is better - she is also more mature and carries herself more confidently and sexily)
- Our interests and tastes have converged over time meaning we have more fun together than we used to.
- We laugh more as we have more in jokes from shared experiences and are more secure meaning it is harder to offend
- We have become more familiar with each other's deepest vulnerabilities/issues and still love and like each other - scoff all you want but this has meant a deeper love - particularly when you know you are loved and accepted for exactly who you are (even your darkest perversities) not just who you think you are (or portray yourself to be). (This has acted to make our sex life a 'deeper' and more intimate experience too).
- As aforementioned, my wife has tried things that I like (and she doesn't) growing to like them herself (and vice versa). This has meant more to talk about, better travel and holiday experiences, more enjoyable hobbies (e.g. she genuinely loves footy now - to the point she'll go without me), better cooking and eating out, etc etc. This means less arguments, more fun, etc.
- She has more energy now and gets less worked up about minor issues = improved relationship.
- We have better learnt how not to irriate each other and are far more relaxed about most things in life.
- The above are simply the tangible things - there are plenty of intagibles about how we feel (or our love if you prefer) than the above.

So, after 7-8 years (4 of marriage), our relationship has definately IMPROVED and we are definately more 'in love' post marriage.
Good post but I find a few things odd with this. namely; "Our interests and tastes have converged over time meaning we have more fun together than we used to".

Why is this odd?

1. Because the average bloke likes sport, beer, and tits and the average girl likes shopping, shoes, shit music and shit films. You go on to say she has learnt to like somethings you're into and you somethings her....

Question:

Why does it seem you both think you have to like the same stuff? My partner likes shit music, shit TV shows, in fact the only thing i like that she likes is our kids, alcohol, and most mutual friends.

There is just no way i can bring myself to like crappy reality TV or The Black Eyed Peas. Nor do I see a need to. In fact, I think I'd be doing myself a disservice not following the things I really like, vice versa.

Of course I could go out and find a girl who likes Led Zepellin and Pink Floyd and who has an interest in gratuitous violence movies, football, cricket, and surfing the internet, but she'd probably have a penis.

2. The sex thing. This is the first thing I get into when meeting a girl. Sex first policy. That prevents the "Oh, and by the way, I like to have my baws tickled by dwarf with a feather duster when I'm having sex" conversation 3 years into a relationship. That shit is up front and centre because sex is one of the most important parts of any relationship.

3. The excepted for who you really are thing. Surely that's an internal thing? Like a security thing. Pretty sure if a partner is there 10 years later and it makes you feel accepted then it isn't so much a love thing but an "i feel secure". Taker him/her away and replace with someone else and the answer is still "i feel secure someone stays with me for this long".


As I said, a good post, just a few things struck me as unusual for a relationship.
 

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Many relationships improves markedly after years. Quikstraw's point may be true for some people, but I can point out many people who live blissful monogamous lives. Most men admire other women, not all men sleep with them.
You're getting confused. I lead a "blissful monogamous life" after over 10 years. Am I in love with my wife? Nope. What's different for the other people? Nothing - they're about the same as me but for some reason they like to call it "deeper love" or "love on a different level". I just call it what it is: "accepting and making the best out of long term co-habitation". I wouldn't change my situation but in the same respect I don't feel I need to bullshit myself and call it "deeper love".
 

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I don't understand why people watch shows like MKR,The Block & Big Fat Losers [actually seeing the ratings nobody is watching that]

Do these people go to takeaway joints and restaurants and just stand there watching the chefs cook ?
Do these people hang around building sites just to watch tradies nail something ?
Do these people stand outside weight loss centres watching the fatties inside ?
 
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I don't understand why people watch shows like MKR,The Block & Big Fat Losers [actually seeing the ratings nobody is watching that]

Do these people go to takeaway joints and restaurants and just stand there watching the chefs cook ?
Do these people hang around building sites just to watch tradies nail something ?
Do these people stand outside weight loss centres watching the fatties inside ?
Maybe if they showed the highlights, added a game element, some good backing music... hey, that's pretty much the show!
 
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I don't understand why people watch shows like MKR,The Block & Big Fat Losers [actually seeing the ratings nobody is watching that]

Do these people go to takeaway joints and restaurants and just stand there watching the chefs cook ?
Do these people hang around building sites just to watch tradies nail something ?
Do these people stand outside weight loss centres watching the fatties inside ?
Human story bro. Block is about seeing "regular people" renovate, also design elements.
Biggest loser is the same thing, fatties love the "inspiration" and the rest of us are sick bastards that love to watch them hurt, plus the weight loss is remarkable, if totally unsustainable.
MKR... I don't know, but my wife likes it.
 

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Nah.

The worst I've heard, my friend when I worked at Broady SC, one of his students chucked a chair, smashed a window, then threatened to stab him with a piece of glass that had broken off the window.

The was the worst tho, the majority of students at that school were awesome and actually very well mannered (I worked in the front office for a term, so dealt with a lot of them on a daily basis), it is the minority. From my experience anyway..
 
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Nah.

The worst I've heard, my friend when I worked at Broady SC, one of his students chucked a chair, smashed a window, then threatened to stab him with a piece of glass that had broken off the window.

The was the worst tho, the majority of students at that school were awesome and actually very well mannered (I worked in the front office for a term, so dealt with a lot of them on a daily basis), it is the minority. From my experience anyway..
Yeah, in my 12 years of school, primary and high school, don't think I ever recall a case of a teacher being assaulted or abused.
 

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Yeah, in my 12 years of school, primary and high school, don't think I ever recall a case of a teacher being assaulted or abused.

I definitely don't recall any teacher being assaulted or abused. I barely remember any teachers having real disrespect at them, either.

1. Because the average bloke likes sport, beer, and tits and the average girl likes shopping, shoes, shit music and shit films. You go on to say she has learnt to like somethings you're into and you somethings her....
See now I just think you're taking the piss.
 
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You're getting confused. I lead a "blissful monogamous life" after over 10 years. Am I in love with my wife? Nope. What's different for the other people? Nothing - they're about the same as me but for some reason they like to call it "deeper love" or "love on a different level". I just call it what it is: "accepting and making the best out of long term co-habitation". I wouldn't change my situation but in the same respect I don't feel I need to bullshit myself and call it "deeper love".
I've been married to my wife for 15 years and I love her more now than ever. I'm not "accepting and making the best" out of my situation. If I was I'd end it and move on.

Tell me, what's your relationship with your wife like now compared to when it started?
 
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