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Computers & Internet Tinder Part Deux

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Scotland said:
Never in my life was I banned from a dating app. Deleted, blocked, ghosted etc. sure but never banned.
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Most of the people I know who got banned it was because they pissed someone off, and that person has mates on the app and they mass report.

And then when you get mass reported seems you just get banned and they don't really care about appeals.

That said I only know 3 people who that happened to.
 

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joop said:
Is having physical preference in a partner superficial?
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Interesting question because I think its a yes or no answer

Physical attraction must be there .

Being a certain height or weight is fine if you are in the 1 percentile of giants - but a 5' bimbo shouldnt be specifying a 6'+ bloke - its just stupid

I think it limits you as well. I knew a bloke who would always say size 14 is his hard limit - anything above he just zoned out. Missed out on some wonderful people and was alone a long time. I would be changing my parameters after 3 years alone

If a 6' woman is after a 6'+ then ( to me ) thats fine as long as she is also open to other heights


And then there is the apocryphal you can be any height with a fat wallet
 
GreyCrow said:
Interesting question because I think its a yes or no answer

Physical attraction must be there .

Being a certain height or weight is fine if you are in the 1 percentile of giants - but a 5' bimbo shouldnt be specifying a 6'+ bloke - its just stupid

I think it limits you as well. I knew a bloke who would always say size 14 is his hard limit - anything above he just zoned out. Missed out on some wonderful people and was alone a long time. I would be changing my parameters after 3 years alone

If a 6' woman is after a 6'+ then ( to me ) thats fine as long as she is also open to other heights


And then there is the apocryphal you can be any height with a fat wallet
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I think the height thing is silly but I can understand those who are on the extremely tall end may want someone closer to their height.

Weight is different as many place emphasis on health and healthy habits so it’s more likely someone overweight isn’t someone who exercises a lot. Obviously there are people with things out of their control.

I’m personally happy with someone who looks after themselves but also happy to send it at a festival and get drunk every now and then.
 
GreyCrow said:
Interesting question because I think its a yes or no answer

Physical attraction must be there .

Being a certain height or weight is fine if you are in the 1 percentile of giants - but a 5' bimbo shouldnt be specifying a 6'+ bloke - its just stupid

I think it limits you as well. I knew a bloke who would always say size 14 is his hard limit - anything above he just zoned out. Missed out on some wonderful people and was alone a long time. I would be changing my parameters after 3 years alone

If a 6' woman is after a 6'+ then ( to me ) thats fine as long as she is also open to other heights


And then there is the apocryphal you can be any height with a fat wallet
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It's still superficial no matter how you look at it. Whether you think it's acceptable is another question.

TBH I'm not looking but if something happens organically, I'll go with the feel and I feel that would come from personality more than initial attraction. I would just love someone to go camping/hiking with regularly, along with the fundamentals of relationships but I'm certainly not hunting it.

I think online dating is fundamentally flawed, and without going into serious detail because it's been done to death it's set up to fail. It's no surprise given how much money the industry makes.

The deeper issue I have is with society in general. Still to this day, I cop it for wearing or having anything pink despite the absurdity of it, as a guy in a male dominated workforce if I were to listen to Adele, or even East 17 for example, I'd cop it. In the case of women having height restrictions, or men seeking smaller women, wouldn't date a muscular women it all comes down to cultural upbringing and it's absurd.

Why do people seem so content to fit in to society. Personally I want to stay as far away from trends and the direction of the masses. It's clearly a comfort thing but ffs, why can't we just accept ourselves for who we are.
 
bok_party said:
I think the height thing is silly but I can understand those who are on the extremely tall end may want someone closer to their height.

Weight is different as many place emphasis on health and healthy habits so it’s more likely someone overweight isn’t someone who exercises a lot. Obviously there are people with things out of their control.

I’m personally happy with someone who looks after themselves but also happy to send it at a festival and get drunk every now and then.
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I workout all the time, I hike, I'm fit and in better shape than most people I see which is a bit of an issue in society but I'd have zero issue dating someone who was 100KG, but I feel it's more the reasons and personality that lead to that weight that are the issue. If they play video games and watch tv 12 hours a day and do very little actively then that's a deal breaker for me. So it's not the weight it's the things that manifest but yet someone who had the right attitude/personality and were active then yeah for sure.
 
Selective heightism is a female thing 99% of the time. I don't know many women taller than me, but I imagine most of the Sophie Cunninghams of the world are looking for a partner that is at least 190cm which is to be expected.

One of my friends is 2m tall. His fiance is maybe 165cm, blends in as about average height in groups anyway so isn't noticeably tall or short. No one ever says 'why aren't you with a taller girl?' or 'why aren't you with a shorter guy?' to them. It's a non issue. Never in my life have I met a man that has said something like 'oh yeah she's perfect.. but she's 5'4 and I really need a girl that as at least 5'5'. Heard the equivalent from women 100s of times.

Probably an unpopular opinion but IMO it's actually one of the things Hinge do right. If you want to rule a line through every person not in a specified height range knock yourself out. I reckon go the whole hog and put an income category also. If you want to filter only guys that are 6'0''+ earning $250k+ then it's only fair that guys can filter you out the other way. Massive time saver for all concerned.
 

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Scotland said:
Selective heightism is a female thing 99% of the time. I don't know many women taller than me, but I imagine most of the Sophie Cunninghams of the world are looking for a partner that is at least 190cm which is to be expected.

One of my friends is 2m tall. His fiance is maybe 165cm, blends in as about average height in groups anyway so isn't noticeably tall or short. No one ever says 'why aren't you with a taller girl?' or 'why aren't you with a shorter guy?' to them. It's a non issue. Never in my life have I met a man that has said something like 'oh yeah she's perfect.. but she's 5'4 and I really need a girl that as at least 5'5'. Heard the equivalent from women 100s of times.

Probably an unpopular opinion but IMO it's actually one of the things Hinge do right. If you want to rule a line through every person not in a specified height range knock yourself out. I reckon go the whole hog and put an income category also. If you want to filter only guys that are 6'0''+ earning $250k+ then it's only fair that guys can filter you out the other way. Massive time saver for all concerned.
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IRL I've dated multiple women taller than me as you have an opportunity to be yourself on face value. You don't really get that chance online. I guess that's why I stopped using it several years ago.
 
JHF1870 said:
IRL I've dated multiple women taller than me as you have an opportunity to be yourself on face value. You don't really get that chance online. I guess that's why I stopped using it several years ago.
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It's not something I really give much thought to. I just prefer to know where I stand with people in general.

I've heard girls say things like 'I could never date a guy under 6 foot, they have to be taller than me in heels. You understand right? It's ok for you you are tall', while I stand there, taller than them in heels, not being 6 foot. Everyone has preferences, but some people convince themselves out of things to their own detriment.
 
Scotland said:
It's not something I really give much thought to. I just prefer to know where I stand with people in general.

I've heard girls say things like 'I could never date a guy under 6 foot, they have to be taller than me in heels. You understand right? It's ok for you you are tall', while I stand there, taller than them in heels, not being 6 foot. Everyone has preferences, but some people convince themselves out of things to their own detriment.
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those people would never be compatible with me anyway so it's kind of good if those people are up front I guess. Everything aside, it's kind of a lottery without taking the time to organically meet someone over a period of time.
 
JHF1870 said:
I workout all the time, I hike, I'm fit and in better shape than most people I see which is a bit of an issue in society but I'd have zero issue dating someone who was 100KG, but I feel it's more the reasons and personality that lead to that weight that are the issue. If they play video games and watch tv 12 hours a day and do very little actively then that's a deal breaker for me. So it's not the weight it's the things that manifest but yet someone who had the right attitude/personality and were active then yeah for sure.
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Yeah I think we all look at things differently. I’d never shame someone for being fit and healthy and dating someone who’s obese. That’s their prerogative and if they are both happy then that’s great.

As I mentioned above, I don’t need them to be an athlete but they need to be somewhat active or capable of going on hikes and the gym etc. I can’t run as often as I used to due to a soccer injury to my knee but still active and keep fit.

Personality is obviously very important too as I’m quite extroverted and love to socialise so I need someone who’s the same.
JHF1870 said:
It's still superficial no matter how you look at it. Whether you think it's acceptable is another question.

TBH I'm not looking but if something happens organically, I'll go with the feel and I feel that would come from personality more than initial attraction. I would just love someone to go camping/hiking with regularly, along with the fundamentals of relationships but I'm certainly not hunting it.

I think online dating is fundamentally flawed, and without going into serious detail because it's been done to death it's set up to fail. It's no surprise given how much money the industry makes.

The deeper issue I have is with society in general. Still to this day, I cop it for wearing or having anything pink despite the absurdity of it, as a guy in a male dominated workforce if I were to listen to Adele, or even East 17 for example, I'd cop it. In the case of women having height restrictions, or men seeking smaller women, wouldn't date a muscular women it all comes down to cultural upbringing and it's absurd.

Why do people seem so content to fit in to society. Personally I want to stay as far away from trends and the direction of the masses. It's clearly a comfort thing but ffs, why can't we just accept ourselves for who we are.
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I’m fortunate to be part of a community where men wearing pink or dresses isn’t frowned upon at all. There’s always events like the Beach Ball for example and we all buy an op shop dress and jump in the water. My soccer mates laugh about it but I don’t really care. Life's too short not to have fun.
 

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JHF1870 said:
It's still superficial no matter how you look at it. Whether you think it's acceptable is another question.

TBH I'm not looking but if something happens organically, I'll go with the feel and I feel that would come from personality more than initial attraction. I would just love someone to go camping/hiking with regularly, along with the fundamentals of relationships but I'm certainly not hunting it.

I think online dating is fundamentally flawed, and without going into serious detail because it's been done to death it's set up to fail. It's no surprise given how much money the industry makes.

The deeper issue I have is with society in general. Still to this day, I cop it for wearing or having anything pink despite the absurdity of it, as a guy in a male dominated workforce if I were to listen to Adele, or even East 17 for example, I'd cop it. In the case of women having height restrictions, or men seeking smaller women, wouldn't date a muscular women it all comes down to cultural upbringing and it's absurd.

Why do people seem so content to fit in to society. Personally I want to stay as far away from trends and the direction of the masses. It's clearly a comfort thing but ffs, why can't we just accept ourselves for who we are.
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Not sure why you care what people think of the music you listen to.
 

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