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Catfish Alley said:
I think he means not organic. Like seeing somebody at a pub you might share a smile, have a dance etc. You can build a connection quickly. Tinder is an extra step. On Tinder you have to share photos, arrange a meeting etc before you get to that point.
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I'd say the reverse. Tinder is instant gratification dating. You get a match with someone and before exchanging a word, you both already know you're attracted to each other on a physical level.

Compared to meeting in real life there's very little investment of time in in terms of feeling each other out, building of trust, establishing rapport, etc. before stepping into the romantic / sexualised situation of a date. It's just bam, you're in.

Extremely efficient in terms of hooking up, but not a great way to go about building a relationship I'd have thought. I mean, I am sure some good relationships come out of it but I imagine that's in spite of the meeting process rather than because of it.
 
Caesar said:
I'd say the reverse. Tinder is instant gratification dating. You get a match with someone and before exchanging a word, you both already know you're attracted to each other on a physical level.

Compared to meeting in real life there's very little investment of time in in terms of feeling each other out, building of trust, establishing rapport, etc. before stepping into the romantic / sexualised situation of a date. It's just bam, you're in.
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You find out pretty quick if somebody is attracted to you in real life though. I think the big thing with Tinder is people don't have to take that nerve-wracking first step.
 
Catfish Alley said:
You find out pretty quick if somebody is attracted to you in real life though.
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Missing the point. The whole Tinder process encourages people to cast as wide a net as possible, which catches as many people who are interested in you as possible.

Because the initial matching process is so quick and easy, and delivers so many potential options, it makes you cull quickly and superficially. And of course (because they know you are doing that, and you know they are doing exactly the same thing), it puts pressure on both of you to cut to the chase as soon as possible, because of the looming risk that if you wait too long to close the deal you'll miss out on that person to the competition.

Great for hooking up efficiently, but none of that stuff is great for getting to know someone, building trust and rapport, etc. Not saying it can't work out, same way as I am sure there are plenty of happy marriages that started as one night stands. I just think it's a bit of an arse-about way to start off a serious relationship, and your chances of finding something successful are probably higher if you do things in a different order.
 

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Miqar_Baqfhied said:
Had an interesting experience with tinder - rewind 4 weeks ago I had never heard of it. Until one night I was sitting around at a dinner party with my fiancé, 3 other couples and a single mate. Single mate was talking about it so I downloaded the app to see what all the fuss was about. Blokes gathered around at we investigated, chics did the same. Harmless fun - I thought. Hadn't touched the thing since until I deleted it a week or so ago.

Anyway 4 weeks down the track, I got a phone call from a mate yesterday who got word 'So and So' (fiancé's friend) saw me on tinder and was dark at me telling all of my fiancés friends (many who are mine now) what an adulterous p*ick I am blah blah blah...so now I'm bad news with everyone, notably a few married couples and single mothers who got word of this and are disgusted at the heinous crime I have committed, and should have my balls cut off.

Before word got to my fiancé I told her - she said I was a d*ck for having it on my phone in the first place, but really couldn't give a rats and didn't think it was that big a deal. To be honest, neither did I - end of the day its just an objective, shallow gimmick - its not like I've been out dating and sleeping with other women, having secret affairs or anything or anything, god forbid, actually interacting and communicating with the opposite sex IN PERSON.

Is this what the world has come to - a man's integrity is judged by something so pathetic?
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i have money you showed your fiance this thread so she really knew you were "just mucking around" -- I wouldnt lie to the boys on bigfooty babe! Honest... ;)
 
Catsmaninamerica said:
If you want a laugh, check out Brodie Moles (ex Bulldogs) twitter. screen shots some tinder convos - ******* hilarious shit.
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That is some outrageous shit he's got up there. Pretty funny though
 
Damon_3388 said:
Photo tips for the real people on Tinder - Have at least two solo photos (no friends, pets, sedated tigers, drinks, sunglasses or cars) that aren't taken from a distance, and don't have you pulling a stupid distorted face.

Wouldn't think it's hard, and there's no real need to take it seriously, of course, but it's ridiculous the number of people who somehow don't seem to have any normal solo photos of their face.
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Also, the spammers are always the same distance away from you. For me, every spam match is 4km away.

Spammers are now having up to 4 pics of 'themselves' so always look to see if there's anyone else in the photo. If there is, chances are they are legit.
 
Wanna shoot some fish in a barrel? My mates on a site called Ashley Madison. It's specifically for married unhappy people. So women who want discreet sexy times but don't wanna alter their living arrangements. Shit if I was single Id be ALL over it. No dinner dates. No pointless conversation. Just a lot of hotel rooms and moaning.
 

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Catsmaninamerica said:
Wanna shoot some fish in a barrel? My mates on a site called Ashley Madison. It's specifically for married unhappy people. So women who want discreet sexy times but don't wanna alter their living arrangements. Shit if I was single Id be ALL over it. No dinner dates. No pointless conversation. Just a lot of hotel rooms and moaning.
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That sounds awful.
 
Catfish Alley said:
Isn't the whole point that you're not supposed to be single?
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You can pretend to be anything i guess.

Having to go round paying for hotel rooms and shit, may as well just get a ****ing hooker. That's about as sad as it gets.
 
Catsmaninamerica said:
Yes but singles can get on there too I guess- and personally - my old man was a cheater so it's not something I wanna be. So I only partake if I was single
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Never understood that. You don't want to be a cheater so you'll facilitate it with someone else?
 

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Sublime said:
You can pretend to be anything i guess.

Having to go round paying for hotel rooms and shit, may as well just get a ******* hooker. That's about as sad as it gets.
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There's no thrill in hookers......women that are 'spoken for', well, different kettle of fish. Gets the blood pumping.

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Catsmaninamerica said:
Wanna shoot some fish in a barrel? My mates on a site called Ashley Madison. It's specifically for married unhappy people. So women who want discreet sexy times but don't wanna alter their living arrangements. Shit if I was single Id be ALL over it. No dinner dates. No pointless conversation. Just a lot of hotel rooms and moaning.
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Yeah it would be lovely if it was your wife.
 
Catsmaninamerica said:
Wanna shoot some fish in a barrel? My mates on a site called Ashley Madison. It's specifically for married unhappy people. So women who want discreet sexy times but don't wanna alter their living arrangements. Shit if I was single Id be ALL over it. No dinner dates. No pointless conversation. Just a lot of hotel rooms and moaning.
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Pretty sure it's 99% spammers too.
 
Catsmaninamerica said:
You're responsible for yourself. Not anyone else. If a chicks gonna cheat she's gonna cheat.
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Each to their own, i just personally find those values a bit hypocritical but i wouldn't bag you out for banging whoever you wanted.
 
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