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So I match with a girl, conversation goes well, I get her number, we text back and forth building rapprt, she's replying back really quickly, so I'm assuming she's quite interested to take time out of her day to reply extensively, I go to the gym and check our messages hours later and she's blocked me on Whatsapp and unmatched on tinder.

Someone explain this? Not the first time this has happened. It's like she found out I post on BigFooty or something
 

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So I match with a girl, conversation goes well, I get her number, we text back and forth, she's replying back really quickly, so I'm assuming she's quite interested to take time out of her day to reply extensively, I go to the gym and check our messages hours later and she's blocked me on Whatsapp and unmatched on tinder.

Someone explain this? Not the first time this has happened. It's like she found out I post on BigFooty or something
You said you post under the name Starburns_ , didn't you.
 

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So I match with a girl, conversation goes well, I get her number, we text back and forth building rapprt, she's replying back really quickly, so I'm assuming she's quite interested to take time out of her day to reply extensively, I go to the gym and check our messages hours later and she's blocked me on Whatsapp and unmatched on tinder.

Someone explain this? Not the first time this has happened. It's like she found out I post on BigFooty or something
Same thing happened to me. Twice. A lot of people freak out when things start to get serious unfortunately. She probably thought she was ready but then realised she wasn't so she didn't have the guts to actually tell you. I feel for you mate.

I've recently been dumped by my girlfriend after I told her I loved her. It had been 4 months (surely thats not rushing?) and I thought everything was running smoothly but she didn't seem interested in anything committed. I met her on Tinder too.

In the end, you should never change your thoughts or try to hide your emotions in fear of them freaking out. You're just being you which is important. No bullshitting around. It obviously shows two people at different stages of their life and you'll meet someone better who feels the same way towards you.
 

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So I match with a girl, conversation goes well, I get her number, we text back and forth building rapprt, she's replying back really quickly, so I'm assuming she's quite interested to take time out of her day to reply extensively, I go to the gym and check our messages hours later and she's blocked me on Whatsapp and unmatched on tinder.

Someone explain this? Not the first time this has happened. It's like she found out I post on BigFooty or something
this is pretty common, and generally it's not a reflection on you.

I've heard guys go on great dates, sometimes even get a kiss, sometimes something more, and days after the girl will inexplicably cut contact.

Tinder and the like have turned dating and stuff into a game, its easier to just block someone than to actually tell them you're no longer interested, or have met someone else, or have come down the clap etc etc
 

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Same thing happened to me. Twice. A lot of people freak out when things start to get serious unfortunately. She probably thought she was ready but then realised she wasn't so she didn't have the guts to actually tell you. I feel for you mate.

I've recently been dumped by my girlfriend after I told her I loved her. It had been 4 months (surely thats not rushing?) and I thought everything was running smoothly but she didn't seem interested in anything committed. I met her on Tinder too.

In the end, you should never change your thoughts or try to hide your emotions in fear of them freaking out. You're just being you which is important. No bullshitting around. It obviously shows two people at different stages of their life and you'll meet someone better who feels the same way towards you.
this is pretty common, and generally it's not a reflection on you.

I've heard guys go on great dates, sometimes even get a kiss, sometimes something more, and days after the girl will inexplicably cut contact.

Tinder and the like have turned dating and stuff into a game, its easier to just block someone than to actually tell them you're no longer interested, or have met someone else, or have come down the clap etc etc
Thanks for the replies. Yeah, I'm not really too worried about it, I guess it's something inherent with online dating and non-face-to-face interactions in general. Just curious and wanted see if there was some kind of explanation on the logic behind it.
 

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Thanks for the replies. Yeah, I'm not really too worried about it, I guess it's something inherent with online dating and non-face-to-face interactions in general. Just curious and wanted see if there was some kind of explanation on the logic behind it.
yeah its one of the things with texting/social media, and it's made us weaker IMO.
if you can just block someone, or send them a brush-off text, you don't really have to confront an uncomfortable situation or unwelcome feelings. it's why young people see everyday interactions as 'awkward'
imagine treating someone like that if you had to pick up the phone and call them, or tell them in person you're not keen.
 

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yeah its one of the things with texting/social media, and it's made us weaker IMO.
if you can just block someone, or send them a brush-off text, you don't really have to confront an uncomfortable situation or unwelcome feelings. it's why young people see everyday interactions as 'awkward'
imagine treating someone like that if you had to pick up the phone and call them, or tell them in person you're not keen.
No doubt. It's made people complacent to project decency, and consequently they appear rude, although they may not intend it.

Not the worst case when it happens on Tinder but in other cases some times people need a bit closure or an understanding.

Think it's just come down to the way the world works now. The obsession with being the best version of ourselves has made us selfish, inconsiderate and lacking in empathy. But maybe that's the way it has always been, the social media and virtual space just brings it out a lot more.
 

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Had a similar thing happen where I met up with a girl several times and thought we were getting along really well and then she just cut contact. It's one of the wonders of the technological age that people have adapted around the technology the ways they show they're interested and likewise that they're not interested. It happens, but it's all part of the experience.
 
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