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[Scotland]

Have noticed plenty of girls listing their height as 5'10, 5'11, 6'0 and above.

Are there actually that many tall girls out there or are they just trying to weed out guys 6'0 and under? In my whole life I've known two girls that were 6'0 or taller, and pretty much every other 'tall' girl has been 5'8/5'9.

 

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Incorrect use of ' would make that a No from me.

It's a shame seems nice otherwise.

 

[spinynorman]

So go out again and insist it’s your shout next time. No biggy

Or don't and enjoy the free food and drink you've got for yourself!

I saw a recent article that states men on average pay $163 for a first date where women on average only pay $83 on a first date. The article was highlighting that it still appears men pay for the date. But what shocked me was - who the **** pays $163 for a first date???

 

[tandino]

Or don't and enjoy the free food and drink you've got for yourself!

I saw a recent article that states men on average pay $163 for a first date where women on average only pay $83 on a first date. The article was highlighting that it still appears men pay for the date. But what shocked me was - who the **** pays $163 for a first date???

You'd have to be pretty confident that you're getting a return on that investment.

 

[Pea Nut]

Or don't and enjoy the free food and drink you've got for yourself!

I saw a recent article that states men on average pay $163 for a first date where women on average only pay $83 on a first date. The article was highlighting that it still appears men pay for the date. But what shocked me was - who the **** pays $163 for a first date???

A bottle of wine along with 2 courses at any half decent restaurant is easily $160.

 

[Sketi]

Have noticed plenty of girls listing their height as 5'10, 5'11, 6'0 and above.

Are there actually that many tall girls out there or are they just trying to weed out guys 6'0 and under? In my whole life I've known two girls that were 6'0 or taller, and pretty much every other 'tall' girl has been 5'8/5'9.

Funny you should mention, I started using Tinder for the first time in the last couple of weeks (out of a LTR) and my first date was 6'0. I'm 6'3 so doesn't really bother me, we actually got along and are going out again.

On another note, didn't get far hookup wise with this girl despite getting along, just managed a goodbye kiss. Another female friend has told me most of her friends won't put out (or proceeding bases) on the first date. Has Tinder evolved into a place where girls are less DTF than a few years ago when the app started out?

Doesn't bother me to have to work for it to be honest, thrill of the chase and all.

 

[ash_1050]

A bottle of wine along with 2 courses at any half decent restaurant is easily $160.

Who goes to a restaurant on a first date? That's a huge investment of time and money into meeting someone for the first time in person. What happened to meeting for a coffee or a beer and splashing $10-$15 instead?

 

[rum ham]

Or don't and enjoy the free food and drink you've got for yourself!

I saw a recent article that states men on average pay $163 for a first date where women on average only pay $83 on a first date. The article was highlighting that it still appears men pay for the date. But what shocked me was - who the **** pays $163 for a first date???

Spent $160 or so on a first date at a bar a month ago. Woke up in a park.

 

[Richard Cranium]

Have noticed plenty of girls listing their height as 5'10, 5'11, 6'0 and above.

Are there actually that many tall girls out there or are they just trying to weed out guys 6'0 and under? In my whole life I've known two girls that were 6'0 or taller, and pretty much every other 'tall' girl has been 5'8/5'9.

Nah, I reckon most of the girls who have that in their bio look pretty bloody tall in their pics. And as a reasonably tall gentleman myself, I can't help but swipe right and picture a world where our 6'10 son becomes an NBA superstar and decides to pay for our early retirement with his 100 mill contract...

 

[Pea Nut]

Who goes to a restaurant on a first date? That's a huge investment of time and money into meeting someone for the first time in person. What happened to meeting for a coffee or a beer and splashing $10-$15 instead?

Plenty of people do, and that's what the article would be referring to when putting out dollar figures spent on first dates. Age is very relevant in that discussion though. I wouldn't consider meeting someone for a drink at a bar or grabbing a coffee together as a "date" either, but that's just me.

 

[Scotland]

Nah, I reckon most of the girls who have that in their bio look pretty bloody tall in their pics. And as a reasonably tall gentleman myself, I can't help but swipe right and picture a world where our 6'10 son becomes an NBA superstar and decides to pay for our early retirement with his 100 mill contract...

A friend of mine looks like Billy Stanlake relative to her friends in most of her pics (hopefully she doesn't read BigFooty, she is actually attractive) and she'd be 5'10, tops. As an average height gentleman I can only hope that my kids don't harbour any dreams of following in Ben Simmons' footsteps.

 

[BuddysBiggestFan]

A bottle of wine along with 2 courses at any half decent restaurant is easily $160.

**** that.

We’re not all millionaires from Bitcoin.

 

[The Unforgiven]

I've joined Tinder two weeks ago. Wow, what an eye-opener after being in a relationship, including marriage, for thirteen years.

The first day I joined I 'matched' with this smoking hot girl who's 28, I'm 33. I'm thinking, "okay, it shouldn't be this easy."

I struck up a conversation with her and she was giving me donuts after the third or fourth sentence.

She wanted to go out on a date and didn't want to tell me too much more about herself online. I honestly thought she was taking the piss... who wants to meet up before they even know someone?

As it turns out, many girls seemingly do! She unmatched me after saying that she doesn't waste time chatting and has other suitors. I think she just wanted a free night out...

"Okay..." I thought. it's weird because she'd already told me where she worked. I could have been any old nutter... and it wasn't a random place, either. It was at one of Adelaide's biggest department stores! Anyway...

I am pretty fussy and tend to swipe left a lot if there's chicks I don't see a future with. I'm not out to bang anything that moves. I've had about 30 matches so far, only half have actually replied!

However, was talking to this ridiculously hot, third year med student one night. We hit it off so well... or so I thought! She's ghosting me now, and that's over a week ago now.

I can only imagine how many swipes some of the better looking girls would receive. It's pretty hard for the average bloke to even get a 'match', let alone get the opportunity to talk to them.

I've had a couple of girls ask me to meet them at the Fringe Fesitval. I simply didn't have time when they said they were going. Hopefully I'll have some time this weekend...

What I'm not sure about, is how does one "let her down gently"? I've got one girl who really thinks she's 'in' with me; she's a nice girl, but not really girlfriend material.

Since she was one of my first matches, I may have led her on a little bit, unwittingly. Since her I've had an amazing girl who I'd like to meet, with more of the view of a relationship.

What do I do? Ghost them like what's happened to me? It's not nice! Just simply 'unmatch' without saying anything? That's cruel?

But, I feel like I've made a rod for my own back, getting in too deep early on, when really I had no idea how it all worked in the first few days of using the app.

 

[Sketi]

I've got one girl who really thinks she's 'in' with me; she's a nice girl, but not really girlfriend material.

Firstly, why are you so keen to find a proper girlfriend when you are recently out of a 13 year relationship? If it was me I'd be spending some decent time on my own, and trying casual stuff for a while.

Secondly if she's nice and approachable then maybe she could be a good one to break the duck with, get the first cab off the rank as it can be a nerve racking experience. Just a thought.

Otherwise just ghost, unmatch, make up some bullshit excuse, whatever. Happens to people all the time.

 

[The Unforgiven]

Firstly, why are you so keen to find a proper girlfriend when you are recently out of a 13 year relationship? If it was me I'd be spending some decent time on my own, and trying casual stuff for a while.

Secondly if she's nice and approachable then maybe she could be a good one to break the duck with, get the first cab off the rank as it can be a nerve racking experience. Just a thought.

Otherwise just ghost, unmatch, make up some bullshit excuse, whatever. Happens to people all the time.

Fair question, but I'm fairly certain this girl is going to try out her luck wanting something more down the track. I've been open about everything and said I'm just out of a relationship, so she knows that.

I'm not out looking for a relationship per se. I guess I just don't like the idea of doing a "root and boot" when seemingly every girl I speak to isn't really just DTF.

Maybe I'm a real schmuck when it comes to this. Yeah, I should probably just take a leaf out of the same book many have adopted. I guess I'll become desensitised to being a prick at some point!

 

[Perth gal]

That s why I can't get into online dating. I have no desire to be among the the fake world where everyone just treats everyone else like crap. I've got better things to do with my time.

 

[The Unforgiven]

That s why I can't get into online dating. I have no desire to be among the the fake world where everyone just treats everyone else like crap. I've got better things to do with my time.

It does seem like a haven for the fickle and narcissistic elite. I think if you don't take things to heart and just take it as it comes, it shouldn't affect youu too much.

My issue is around myself, adopting the methodology of others who seem to use it for their own benefit. At the end of the day, if someone isn't right for you, you tell them.

I'm just not particularly good at telling people things which I know will hurt them.

 

[Jatz]

I'd just be honest with her. Probably don't tell her about the other female you think there might be something with but you could tell her that you just don't think it'll go anywhere and you don't want to waste any more of her time etc.

Even though the rejection will suck, it's still better than stringing her along (not that I think you're doing that in a mean/negative way - you seem like you might actually be too nice for tinder haha).

 

[Golden_6]

I'd be seriously worried if someone was 'hurt' for more than a very short period time after being let down by someone you've never met and only chatted to online for a week or two.

 

[rum ham]

These dating apps are all boring and gross. And yet I can't look away. Time to give Hater a go.

 

[The Unforgiven]

I'd be seriously worried if someone was 'hurt' for more than a very short period time after being let down by someone you've never met and only chatted to online for a week or two.

You're probably right. I'll let her down gently and see how it goes. I can't be expected to do much more than that, no?

 

[The Unforgiven]

I'd just be honest with her. Probably don't tell her about the other female you think there might be something with but you could tell her that you just don't think it'll go anywhere and you don't want to waste any more of her time etc.

Even though the rejection will suck, it's still better than stringing her along (not that I think you're doing that in a mean/negative way - you seem like you might actually be too nice for tinder haha).

Thanks mate. I thought Tinder would be more of a hook-up app, but seemingly most girls aren't interested in that at all. I'm hardly someone who'll go on any dating app just to bang chicks, but I wouldn't turn down the offer all the same! Starting to chat to people was the first step in testing the waters.

Yeah, maybe I'm too nice... this chick is a single mum... yet so is another one who I'm chatting to right now. I guess the difference is, one I could see being friends with, the latter, who's seemingly feeling the exact same way, I could see much more. She's damn fine looking and we just click ridiculously well.

I told a close mate today at worth and he said, "WTF are you doing, man! I only helped you move into your place last month... now you're talking about some new chick. Don't get sucked in, just have fun and fool around for a while." He's probably right, but I can't help myself.

 

[ash_1050]

Thanks mate. I thought Tinder would be more of a hook-up app, but seemingly most girls aren't interested in that at all. I'm hardly someone who'll go on any dating app just to bang chicks, but I wouldn't turn down the offer all the same! Starting to chat to people was the first step in testing the waters.

You've put more thought into Tinder in the last 4 posts than I have in the entire time I've been using it. Have an interesting bio, ask interesting questions (how are you? what's on for the weekend? are not interesting questions), be someone women want to talk to and you'll be fine. If you're trying to match with people younger than you quality of response is worth much more than quantity of response. Tinder moves fast, if you haven't tried to arrange meeting up after a couple of days they'll likely lose interest as there's plenty more guys out there who aren't a waste of time.

 

[Run n Spread]

You've put more thought into Tinder in the last 4 posts than I have in the entire time I've been using it. Have an interesting bio, ask interesting questions (how are you? what's on for the weekend? are not interesting questions), be someone women want to talk to and you'll be fine. If you're trying to match with people younger than you quality of response is worth much more than quantity of response. Tinder moves fast, if you haven't tried to arrange meeting up after a couple of days they'll likely lose interest as there's plenty more guys out there who aren't a waste of time.

True but believe it or not those are the type of questions people ask strangers otherwise you come across as a weirdo.

You are right thou. What you need to do is come up with a generic message auto send to your matches, see who chats, chat and organise a date asap. For all the stats the numbers are really 4 men to each women (as a lot are there for validation, a laugh, a chat, confidence etc while men to be more genuine).

 

[Run n Spread]

A bottle of wine along with 2 courses at any half decent restaurant is easily $160.

Did the maths myself. Came to about $120 but still even that's pretty pricey.

Or don't and enjoy the free food and drink you've got for yourself!

I saw a recent article that states men on average pay $163 for a first date where women on average only pay $83 on a first date. The article was highlighting that it still appears men pay for the date. But what shocked me was - who the **** pays $163 for a first date???

Which site? Don't know many who would pay that much.