Computers & Internet Tinder

[BlueBelle]

No FaceTime yet. We're friends on Facebook so no need to swap pics. She's got hundreds on there. We chat on the phone a bit, so getting to know her quite well as she's really starting to open up.

The issue isn't really about wanting to get to know each other. It's more around the fact she has 100 percent custody of her son, so getting some spare time to meet sans kid will just take time.

Maybe she can ask somebody to babysit for a couple of hours so you can meet for a coffee?

 

[Duritz]

Tipping she's got a trouser snake.

 

[ash_1050]

Went on a couple of dates with a girl and didn't feel any sexual chemistry between us the whole time and no indication from her in that regard. I sent her a message the other night letting her know while I didn't feel any chemistry between us she's pretty awesome and we should be friends. She then sent a message saying that "If it goes well, eventually it gets less casual" and didn't respond to my message after that so I guess friends is off the cards. I mean I'm happy to wait some time to bang but if we haven't even kissed due to a lack of chemistry just how many dates did she expect to go on to see if it goes well?

 

[The Unforgiven]

What if she’s really a man?

Maybe I'll send her your way then? You seem to be intrigued by trouser snakes.

 

[The Unforgiven]

Maybe she can ask somebody to babysit for a couple of hours so you can meet for a coffee?

She already has. Her next door neighbour is also a mum of a boy her son's age, so the kids play all the time. The only thing is, she's recovering from a broken leg.

It looks like we'll be meeting some time this week. I told this girl today that I'd like to put into plans, a time and date to catch up, as I don't want it to drag on forever.

She agreed completely and said she'll get back to me by the end of the weekend when she's organised it with her neighbour, to have her five-year-old son for the evening.

Here's hoping!

 

[Duritz]

She already has. Her next door neighbour is also a mum of a boy her son's age, so the kids play all the time. The only thing is, she's recovering from a broken leg.

It looks like we'll be meeting some time this week. I told this girl today that I'd like to put into plans, a time and date to catch up, as I don't want it to drag on forever.

She agreed completely and said she'll get back to me by the end of the weekend when she's organised it with her neighbour, to have her five-year-old son for the evening.

Here's hoping!

 

[The Unforgiven]

If she is who she claims to be, she can do whatever she likes to me!

 

[The Unforgiven]

Tuesday night it is!

 

[iluvparis]

As far as letting the other girl down gently, I did just that. All up I had about 30 matches, half didn't talk anyway, so I just messaged the girls who did and told them the deal.

I said: "Out of courtesy, I wish too advise that I have met a lovely young lady with whom I plan on starting a relationship in the not too distant future. I will be deactivating my account shortly."

Jesus H Christ - just don't tell them anything and go silent - you may need them as a fall back if it doesn't go so well with the first chick.

 

[The Unforgiven]

Jesus H Christ - just don't tell them anything and go silent - you may need them as a fall back if it doesn't go so well with the first chick.

I'll just join again and match with some others. I'm not that fussed.

 

[Perth gal]

Jesus H Christ - just don't tell them anything and go silent - you may need them as a fall back if it doesn't go so well with the first chick.

Wow. So you would like to be someone's second choice. God forbid someone be honest with someone else and be respectful.

 

[Scotland]

Wow. So you would like to be someone's second choice. God forbid someone be honest with someone else and be respectful.

Find me any Perth girl on Tinder that isn't talking to multiple guys at once and I'll show you a liar. It's the way it is unfortunately.

 

[perthblue]

Wow. So you would like to be someone's second choice. God forbid someone be honest with someone else and be respectful.

if they don't know then who cares. probably heaps of happy couples around who started off as fallbacks

 

[HairyO]

if they don't know then who cares. probably heaps of happy couples around who started off as fallbacks

But I bet they all claim they were eachothers first match.

 

[Hank93]

Bumble date completed, not sure what to think. She was lovely, looked great (a tiny bit on the plus side but still attractive), but no sex before marriage. Who am I to judge I'm a 25 year old virgin in a wheelchair, but that had me thinking

We both admitted we had convos going with other parties so the honesty was reassuring.

I'm happy to catch up again but I couldn't date her exclusively after that revelation I think.

 

[Perth gal]

Bumble date completed, not sure what to think. She was lovely, looked great (a tiny bit on the plus side but still attractive), but no sex before marriage. Who am I to judge I'm a 25 year old virgin in a wheelchair, but that had me thinking

We both admitted we had convos going with other parties so the honesty was reassuring.

I'm happy to catch up again but I couldn't date her exclusively after that revelation I think.

Guess at least she was honest.

 

[The Unforgiven]

My mates at work reckon I'm crazy for not "keeping your options open." Could I chat to multiple women all at once? Yeah, I didn't exactly have trouble matching on Tinder and Bumble. However...

As I told the girl I'm meeting tomorrow, I deleted my accounts because I simply wasn't interested in talking to anyone else, other than her. Why would I? What is the point in going after second best?

The reality is, while I could easily 'match' with and date a lot if girls, I'm just not that interested. One night stands? I don't know, it's not every guy's idea of a dream scenario.

I have connected emotionally with a person I find extremely attractive physically, and who has the personality type, interests, goals and morals which align with mine.

Both myself and the girl I am meeting tomorrow night have committed ourselves to exploring this deep connection we've formed online over the last three weeks. What sort of person would I be if I was looking elsewhere simultaneously?

To be quite honest, I could not care less what anyone's opinions are of what I do. I am quite content in handling my online relationahips in the exact manner in which I have done so.

I am three months out of a separation and I'm still finding my feet, but happy to take things slow. I never thought I'd meet such an amazing person so soon afterwards, but I have. She's been amazing and we've really helped each other.

I value honesty, integrity and a deep bond/connection over meaningless one night stands. If I wanted to plough the field, I could, but I don't... I just want the girl that I'm meeting tomorrow night.

 

[Sauras]

Bumble date completed, not sure what to think. She was lovely, looked great (a tiny bit on the plus side but still attractive), but no sex before marriage. Who am I to judge I'm a 25 year old virgin in a wheelchair, but that had me thinking

We both admitted we had convos going with other parties so the honesty was reassuring.

I'm happy to catch up again but I couldn't date her exclusively after that revelation I think.

Gobbies?

 

[Hank93]

Gobbies?

Probably ask that eventually

 

[Billy ray]

My mates at work reckon I'm crazy for not "keeping your options open." Could I chat to multiple women all at once? Yeah, I didn't exactly have trouble matching on Tinder and Bumble. However...

As I told the girl I'm meeting tomorrow, I deleted my accounts because I simply wasn't interested in talking to anyone else, other than her. Why would I? What is the point in going after second best?

The reality is, while I could easily 'match' with and date a lot if girls, I'm just not that interested. One night stands? I don't know, it's not every guy's idea of a dream scenario.

I have connected emotionally with a person I find extremely attractive physically, and who has the personality type, interests, goals and morals which align with mine.

Both myself and the girl I am meeting tomorrow night have committed ourselves to exploring this deep connection we've formed online over the last three weeks. What sort of person would I be if I was looking elsewhere simultaneously?

To be quite honest, I could not care less what anyone's opinions are of what I do. I am quite content in handling my online relationahips in the exact manner in which I have done so.

I am three months out of a separation and I'm still finding my feet, but happy to take things slow. I never thought I'd meet such an amazing person so soon afterwards, but I have. She's been amazing and we've really helped each other.

I value honesty, integrity and a deep bond/connection over meaningless one night stands. If I wanted to plough the field, I could, but I don't... I just want the girl that I'm meeting tomorrow night.

Good luck. but be careful. I met someone similar after 3 months separated (16 years) and we hit it off like crazy. Had two -three weeks of great conversation, outings and a bit of fooling around but that was it. I was ecstatic thinking how lucky am i, 3 months after starting to look i find what appears to be the jackpot. Then out of the blue she pulled the pin. I was devastated. I got just as upset as i did when my wife and i split. And i thought thats crazy. Who was she? A someone i didnt know three weeks earlier and who now has caused me a lot of hurt.

Made me snap out of it. Kept my emotional distance with people i met subsequently.

 

[BlueBelle]

My mates at work reckon I'm crazy for not "keeping your options open." Could I chat to multiple women all at once? Yeah, I didn't exactly have trouble matching on Tinder and Bumble. However...

As I told the girl I'm meeting tomorrow, I deleted my accounts because I simply wasn't interested in talking to anyone else, other than her. Why would I? What is the point in going after second best?

The reality is, while I could easily 'match' with and date a lot if girls, I'm just not that interested. One night stands? I don't know, it's not every guy's idea of a dream scenario.

I have connected emotionally with a person I find extremely attractive physically, and who has the personality type, interests, goals and morals which align with mine.

Both myself and the girl I am meeting tomorrow night have committed ourselves to exploring this deep connection we've formed online over the last three weeks. What sort of person would I be if I was looking elsewhere simultaneously?

To be quite honest, I could not care less what anyone's opinions are of what I do. I am quite content in handling my online relationahips in the exact manner in which I have done so.

I am three months out of a separation and I'm still finding my feet, but happy to take things slow. I never thought I'd meet such an amazing person so soon afterwards, but I have. She's been amazing and we've really helped each other.

I value honesty, integrity and a deep bond/connection over meaningless one night stands. If I wanted to plough the field, I could, but I don't... I just want the girl that I'm meeting tomorrow night.

Good on you! I did the same thing with my fiancé. We developed a deep connection online so
I didn’t talk to any other matches. In fact, I had an old flame come back into the picture and I told him I wasn’t interested in rekindling anything and my fiancé and I hadn’t even met yet. I know the feeling you’re feeling. I was big on the “no expectations” etc but I couldn’t help that feeling I had. I hope it all goes well tomorrow night!

 

[The Unforgiven]

Good luck. but be careful. I met someone similar after 3 months separated (16 years) and we hit it off like crazy. Had two -three weeks of great conversation, outings and a bit of fooling around but that was it. I was ecstatic thinking how lucky am i, 3 months after starting to look i find what appears to be the jackpot. Then out of the blue she pulled the pin. I was devastated. I got just as upset as i did when my wife and i split. And i thought thats crazy. Who was she? A someone i didnt know three weeks earlier and who now has caused me a lot of hurt.

Made me snap out of it. Kept my emotional distance with people i met subsequently.

Thanks for sharing that. I will keep it in mind. I am not going into it thinking that anything is guaranteed. However, I would be pretty disappointed if it all just evaporated into nothing after all of what we've built up.

 

[Sharks On A Plane]

My mates at work reckon I'm crazy for not "keeping your options open." Could I chat to multiple women all at once? Yeah, I didn't exactly have trouble matching on Tinder and Bumble. However...

As I told the girl I'm meeting tomorrow, I deleted my accounts because I simply wasn't interested in talking to anyone else, other than her. Why would I? What is the point in going after second best?

The reality is, while I could easily 'match' with and date a lot if girls, I'm just not that interested. One night stands? I don't know, it's not every guy's idea of a dream scenario.

I have connected emotionally with a person I find extremely attractive physically, and who has the personality type, interests, goals and morals which align with mine.

Both myself and the girl I am meeting tomorrow night have committed ourselves to exploring this deep connection we've formed online over the last three weeks. What sort of person would I be if I was looking elsewhere simultaneously?

To be quite honest, I could not care less what anyone's opinions are of what I do. I am quite content in handling my online relationahips in the exact manner in which I have done so.

I am three months out of a separation and I'm still finding my feet, but happy to take things slow. I never thought I'd meet such an amazing person so soon afterwards, but I have. She's been amazing and we've really helped each other.

I value honesty, integrity and a deep bond/connection over meaningless one night stands. If I wanted to plough the field, I could, but I don't... I just want the girl that I'm meeting tomorrow night.

Are you trolling?

 

[The Unforgiven]

Are you trolling?

Here we go...

Yeah, dude. I'm trolling. I tell all the girls the same thing!

What would you like me to say? That I'm really a sociopath who gets off on the thrill of the chase - emotionally manipulating women in the courtship phase, only to crush them once I have them where I want them?

Not all of us plough through everything that moves and then discards them like used toilet paper when they no longer serve a purpose

Believe it or not, some men actually value a deep emotional connection with the person who they deem to be a suitable partner.

The ability to do so is linked to empathy. I guarantee empathy helps me live happy and enriched life. Do you have it?

If you lack empathy I feel for you. If you are are trolling, shame on you. I'm actually trying to have a serious discussion here.

 

[Perth gal]

My mates at work reckon I'm crazy for not "keeping your options open." Could I chat to multiple women all at once? Yeah, I didn't exactly have trouble matching on Tinder and Bumble. However...

As I told the girl I'm meeting tomorrow, I deleted my accounts because I simply wasn't interested in talking to anyone else, other than her. Why would I? What is the point in going after second best?

The reality is, while I could easily 'match' with and date a lot if girls, I'm just not that interested. One night stands? I don't know, it's not every guy's idea of a dream scenario.

I have connected emotionally with a person I find extremely attractive physically, and who has the personality type, interests, goals and morals which align with mine.

Both myself and the girl I am meeting tomorrow night have committed ourselves to exploring this deep connection we've formed online over the last three weeks. What sort of person would I be if I was looking elsewhere simultaneously?

To be quite honest, I could not care less what anyone's opinions are of what I do. I am quite content in handling my online relationahips in the exact manner in which I have done so.

I am three months out of a separation and I'm still finding my feet, but happy to take things slow. I never thought I'd meet such an amazing person so soon afterwards, but I have. She's been amazing and we've really helped each other.

I value honesty, integrity and a deep bond/connection over meaningless one night stands. If I wanted to plough the field, I could, but I don't... I just want the girl that I'm meeting tomorrow night.

Why can't there be more like you. .?