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BuddysBiggestFan said:
We were meant to have dinner on Friday but I wasn’t giving her much on Thursday and they knew I was skeptical, so it just faded out.

On Thursday night though I super liked another girl 10 years younger, way out of my league, and woke up to a match with her. We shared a few messages through the morning, then she was giving me nothing so I asked her out for dinner on Saturday. She said she’d love to but she has her kids this weekend. I said no problem, next weekend is fine. She said that sounds good. So Friday night I sent her another message to see how she is and a few things I liked about her. Got nothing until the Saturday morning, when she liked my message. No reply. Sent her another message on Saturday night, haven’t heard back from her. I give up.

Do women on these dating apps actually want to meet someone?
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women are extremely flakey and noncommital on there, its why i deleted both tinder and bumble. good luck with dinner and hope it works out.
 
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Do women on these dating apps actually want to meet someone?
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I'm going through similar frustrations.

2-3 years ago if you both matched and hit it off then meeting was easy.

Now many times you start the conversation and you chat and then they just delete you.

Most of the time it seems to be, they have a dog and like to let you know that they choose the dog over you.
 
Ed_Gein said:
Does anyone that browses /r/Tinder on Reddit have the same type of convos that get posted there? Barely any small talk before inviting each other over to ****. :think:
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I would think that most users uploading to reddit tinder have plenty more instances of conversations where they get ignored for skipping small talk. Wouldn't see as many of those screenshots though
 

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Dipping my toe back in the water, was training in a gym in melbourne cbd and noticed i'd earlier matched with a girl who was now training there at the same time...... I chickened out approaching :$, also hate being one of those guys who approaches girls in the gym, there just there to train.
Was just wierd to mach with someone who isn't a registered nurse.
 
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SnakeMan86 said:
Dipping my toe back in the water, was training in a gym in melbourne cbd and noticed i'd earlier matched with a girl who was now training there at the same time...... I chickened out approaching :$, also hate being one of those guys who approaches girls in the gym, there just there to train.
Was just wierd to mach with someone who isn't a registered nurse.
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Yeah perhaps not the best to approach someone at the gym, but it would have been a great "how we met" story.

Maybe you could have "timed" it so you were leaving the gym at the same time, then struck up a convo.
 
Shell said:
Yeah perhaps not the best to approach someone at the gym, but it would have been a great "how we met" story.

Maybe you could have "timed" it so you were leaving the gym at the same time, then struck up a convo.
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Yeah, my closest girl friends are gym rats, and i know how cringe it is when guys hit on them when there training and how much they hate it. (In there defense, when i'd train with them, couple of times i'd have a meathead asking if we were together, and i'd reply "Nah mate, go for it...." but i'm a jerk like that :D
Good call on the timing, but i payed for a casual session, so I wanted to finish my workout :p
 
Hadn’t heard anything since her last message so sent her one last night to see if she’d like to bring our date forward to tonight or tomorrow since I wasn’t doing anything.

Just checked Tinder then and she’s vanished. So yeah, been blocked.
 
BuddysBiggestFan said:
Hadn’t heard anything since her last message so sent her one last night to see if she’d like to bring our date forward to tonight or tomorrow since I wasn’t doing anything.

Just checked Tinder then and she’s vanished. So yeah, been blocked.
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By the time you're asking whether they want to grab dinner with you, are you messaging them via text or on the app?
 
BuddysBiggestFan said:
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I always ask for her number and talk details for dates over text message

1. If she gives you her number, she's at the very least somewhat interested. If she doesn't, then cut your losses right there
2. It's just a tad bit more difficult for them to flake on a date
3. You get her momentarily off the app for a bit, which is time she can't be replying to hundreds of other messages she might be getting

If things are going well between you through text, she has less reason to check the app and reply to the other guys... meaning she'll be less likely to flake on your date for another date
 

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It’s worth getting a second phone number for that purpose , according to friends who are more experienced in online dating than I am
(Prepaid sims are cheap. The spare number is also useful for signup processes)
 
MWPP said:
It’s worth getting a second phone number for that purpose , according to friends who are more experienced in online dating than I am
(Prepaid sims are cheap. The spare number is also useful for signup processes)
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What kind of people are you messaging that having a second phone number is necessary...
 
owen87 said:
What kind of people are you messaging that having a second phone number is necessary...
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I don’t have one
But if I was in the online dating scene and was regularly giving out my number to strangers I have never met , I’d get one for security reasons .
 
MWPP said:
I don’t have one
But if I was in the online dating scene and was regularly giving out my number to strangers I have never met , I’d get one for security reasons .
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It saddens me that our society has come to this and can completely understand your reasoning for doing so.
 

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BuddysBiggestFan said:
Hadn’t heard anything since her last message so sent her one last night to see if she’d like to bring our date forward to tonight or tomorrow since I wasn’t doing anything.

Just checked Tinder then and she’s vanished. So yeah, been blocked.
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Do you think she's actually a girl?
 
Thoughts on how recent photos have to be?
Out of the 5 or 6 I have the main one which I'm 90% sure gets most of my matches would almost be 2 years old. The other ones are mostly within the last year I think but what's the limit here. I think I've gotten better looking with age but this just a really good photo for whatever reason
Exchanged it for another photo and didn't get nearly as many matches.
Considering these days my sex life is very tinder based, it's bloody important....
 
Stratton_Gun said:
Thoughts on how recent photos have to be?
Out of the 5 or 6 I have the main one which I'm 90% sure gets most of my matches would almost be 2 years old. The other ones are mostly within the last year I think but what's the limit here. I think I've gotten better looking with age but this just a really good photo for whatever reason
Exchanged it for another photo and didn't get nearly as many matches.
Considering these days my sex life is very tinder based, it's bloody important....
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At my time of life, any photos would have to be 20 years and 20 kilograms ago. Good news, late 90s fashion is coming back.
 
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