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Hatchy1992 said:
Matched with a girl a few weeks ago... we start chatting... very easy flowing conversations and genuinely seemed enthusiastic and had an amazing connection... seemed genuinely interested in pursuing something with me. After a few days we progress to facebook messager and given that I had just recently moved to Brisbane she suggests we catch up for drinks, naturally I was in agreement.

Anyway as the days progressed she said she was heading camping over that weekend and had night shits after so we organise lunch and drinks after she got back before her shifts. She returns from camping, I message her to confirm we're still good for lunch and drinks, she's still keen, but reschedules it to breakfast instead as the camping group made plans for that afternoon. I agreed, although I wasn't to keen on a breakfast date.

Anyway, we meet up as planned, naturally wanting to impress her but with anxiety i'm nervous as hell, compliment her that she looked nice, found a good cafe. We sit down, and I start sensing she's not interested in being there, suggests we order immediately without even having a chat, we go up to order, I strike up a conversation while waiting... we were getting along well at times and making eachother laugh, but there was little to no eye contact from her, and checked her phone at times. The meals come and just complete silence while she ate. When we finished she immediately suggests we head off saying something like I need to clean up after camping. I start walking with her to her car with awkward conversation.

I message her later in the day being polite thanking her for the date and hope we can meet up again sometime. She messages back a few hours later saying im sorry, you're a great guy, but I just didn't see a romantic connection and I wish you all the best, but i'd still like to chat and do drinks sometime as friends as I do like our friendship.

I ask what the issue was and she's like I kinda knew straight away sorry. You remind me of my brother with how nervous you were :huh:
Umm... ok.... Yeah nah.
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Her brother gets nervous when the 2 of them go on dates?
 
Catfish Alley said:
Mannerisms and personality clash I guess. Probably a turn off no matter what so nothing you could do.
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In hindsight I think its more the fact how rude she was on said date, not paying attention etc etc. If you're not interested from the start, at least be polite and give someone respect.
 
Hatchy1992 said:
Matched with a girl a few weeks ago... we start chatting... very easy flowing conversations and genuinely seemed enthusiastic and had an amazing connection... seemed genuinely interested in pursuing something with me. After a few days we progress to facebook messager and given that I had just recently moved to Brisbane she suggests we catch up for drinks, naturally I was in agreement.

Anyway as the days progressed she said she was heading camping over that weekend and had night shits after so we organise lunch and drinks after she got back before her shifts. She returns from camping, I message her to confirm we're still good for lunch and drinks, she's still keen, but reschedules it to breakfast instead as the camping group made plans for that afternoon. I agreed, although I wasn't to keen on a breakfast date.

Anyway, we meet up as planned, naturally wanting to impress her but with anxiety i'm nervous as hell, compliment her that she looked nice, found a good cafe. We sit down, and I start sensing she's not interested in being there, suggests we order immediately without even having a chat, we go up to order, I strike up a conversation while waiting... we were getting along well at times and making eachother laugh, but there was little to no eye contact from her, and checked her phone at times. The meals come and just complete silence while she ate. When we finished she immediately suggests we head off saying something like I need to clean up after camping. I start walking with her to her car with awkward conversation.

I message her later in the day being polite thanking her for the date and hope we can meet up again sometime. She messages back a few hours later saying im sorry, you're a great guy, but I just didn't see a romantic connection and I wish you all the best, but i'd still like to chat and do drinks sometime as friends as I do like our friendship.

I ask what the issue was and she's like I kinda knew straight away sorry. You remind me of my brother with how nervous you were :huh:
Umm... ok.... Yeah nah.
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At least she went through with the date and communicated afterward.

Most make up an excuse half way through and/or completely ghost without much closure.

Good learning experience for next time imo.
 

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Hatchy1992 said:
Matched with a girl a few weeks ago... we start chatting... very easy flowing conversations and genuinely seemed enthusiastic and had an amazing connection... seemed genuinely interested in pursuing something with me. After a few days we progress to facebook messager and given that I had just recently moved to Brisbane she suggests we catch up for drinks, naturally I was in agreement.

Anyway as the days progressed she said she was heading camping over that weekend and had night shits after so we organise lunch and drinks after she got back before her shifts. She returns from camping, I message her to confirm we're still good for lunch and drinks, she's still keen, but reschedules it to breakfast instead as the camping group made plans for that afternoon. I agreed, although I wasn't to keen on a breakfast date.

Anyway, we meet up as planned, naturally wanting to impress her but with anxiety i'm nervous as hell, compliment her that she looked nice, found a good cafe. We sit down, and I start sensing she's not interested in being there, suggests we order immediately without even having a chat, we go up to order, I strike up a conversation while waiting... we were getting along well at times and making eachother laugh, but there was little to no eye contact from her, and checked her phone at times. The meals come and just complete silence while she ate. When we finished she immediately suggests we head off saying something like I need to clean up after camping. I start walking with her to her car with awkward conversation.

I message her later in the day being polite thanking her for the date and hope we can meet up again sometime. She messages back a few hours later saying im sorry, you're a great guy, but I just didn't see a romantic connection and I wish you all the best, but i'd still like to chat and do drinks sometime as friends as I do like our friendship.

I ask what the issue was and she's like I kinda knew straight away sorry. You remind me of my brother with how nervous you were :huh:
Umm... ok.... Yeah nah.
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Keep giving it a crack, you'll become less nervous the more you do it. And you'll be less nervous with the girls you are more suited too as well.
 
Hatchy1992 said:
Matched with a girl a few weeks ago... we start chatting... very easy flowing conversations and genuinely seemed enthusiastic and had an amazing connection... seemed genuinely interested in pursuing something with me. After a few days we progress to facebook messager and given that I had just recently moved to Brisbane she suggests we catch up for drinks, naturally I was in agreement.

Anyway as the days progressed she said she was heading camping over that weekend and had night shits after so we organise lunch and drinks after she got back before her shifts. She returns from camping, I message her to confirm we're still good for lunch and drinks, she's still keen, but reschedules it to breakfast instead as the camping group made plans for that afternoon. I agreed, although I wasn't to keen on a breakfast date.

Anyway, we meet up as planned, naturally wanting to impress her but with anxiety i'm nervous as hell, compliment her that she looked nice, found a good cafe. We sit down, and I start sensing she's not interested in being there, suggests we order immediately without even having a chat, we go up to order, I strike up a conversation while waiting... we were getting along well at times and making eachother laugh, but there was little to no eye contact from her, and checked her phone at times. The meals come and just complete silence while she ate. When we finished she immediately suggests we head off saying something like I need to clean up after camping. I start walking with her to her car with awkward conversation.

I message her later in the day being polite thanking her for the date and hope we can meet up again sometime. She messages back a few hours later saying im sorry, you're a great guy, but I just didn't see a romantic connection and I wish you all the best, but i'd still like to chat and do drinks sometime as friends as I do like our friendship.

I ask what the issue was and she's like I kinda knew straight away sorry. You remind me of my brother with how nervous you were :huh:
Umm... ok.... Yeah nah.
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That's a bit rough man, as someone who has been nervous on dates I can empathise. Sometimes you want the 2nd date just so they can see you a bit more relaxed.

Also another reason as to why I avoid eating meals for a first date. Awkward AF with someone you just met, waiting to talk between chews etc.
 
Sketi said:
That's a bit rough man, as someone who has been nervous on dates I can empathise. Sometimes you want the 2nd date just so they can see you a bit more relaxed.

Also another reason as to why I avoid eating meals for a first date. Awkward AF with someone you just met, waiting to talk between chews etc.
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I don’t mind a chewing break on a first date. Just gives you an extra moment to check with yourself before you speak that you’re not about to say something stupid.
 
Sketi said:
That's a bit rough man, as someone who has been nervous on dates I can empathise. Sometimes you want the 2nd date just so they can see you a bit more relaxed.

Also another reason as to why I avoid eating meals for a first date. Awkward AF with someone you just met, waiting to talk between chews etc.
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Exactly why I don't like breakfast dates. I much prefer dates where drinks are involved. Its alot more relaxed atmosphere and not as rushed.

Im taking her up on the drinks if she acts on her word, just so she can see me when the pressure is off.
 
Hatchy1992 said:
Matched with a girl a few weeks ago... we start chatting... very easy flowing conversations and genuinely seemed enthusiastic and had an amazing connection... seemed genuinely interested in pursuing something with me. After a few days we progress to facebook messager and given that I had just recently moved to Brisbane she suggests we catch up for drinks, naturally I was in agreement.

Anyway as the days progressed she said she was heading camping over that weekend and had night shits after so we organise lunch and drinks after she got back before her shifts. She returns from camping, I message her to confirm we're still good for lunch and drinks, she's still keen, but reschedules it to breakfast instead as the camping group made plans for that afternoon. I agreed, although I wasn't to keen on a breakfast date.

Anyway, we meet up as planned, naturally wanting to impress her but with anxiety i'm nervous as hell, compliment her that she looked nice, found a good cafe. We sit down, and I start sensing she's not interested in being there, suggests we order immediately without even having a chat, we go up to order, I strike up a conversation while waiting... we were getting along well at times and making eachother laugh, but there was little to no eye contact from her, and checked her phone at times. The meals come and just complete silence while she ate. When we finished she immediately suggests we head off saying something like I need to clean up after camping. I start walking with her to her car with awkward conversation.

I message her later in the day being polite thanking her for the date and hope we can meet up again sometime. She messages back a few hours later saying im sorry, you're a great guy, but I just didn't see a romantic connection and I wish you all the best, but i'd still like to chat and do drinks sometime as friends as I do like our friendship.

I ask what the issue was and she's like I kinda knew straight away sorry. You remind me of my brother with how nervous you were :huh:
Umm... ok.... Yeah nah.
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Clearly she harbours unlawful thoughts towards her brother, saw your profile and figured you were close enough to the real thing, but then when she met you in the flesh decided she couldn't go through with it.

Not your fault.
 
JezzasOnTheAsphalt said:
I don’t mind a chewing break on a first date. Just gives you an extra moment to check with yourself before you speak that you’re not about to say something stupid.
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I think it depends on the type of food also. Made the mistake on one of my first tinder dates of going out for burgers.

It was probably my worst one ever overall. I was a noob and hadn't yet learned about the tinder warning signs such as no body pics. Solidly cat-fished in the weight department, to the point where it didn't even look like her.

No idea why people do this. It seemed like she was very aware of it when we met and we both felt awkward about it, so why do it when the end result is like this?

Then of course the burgers were messy af and there was sauce dripping down all over our hands lol.
 
Hatchy1992 said:
I ask what the issue was and she's like I kinda knew straight away sorry. You remind me of my brother with how nervous you were :huh:
Umm... ok.... Yeah nah.
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Hatchy1992 said:
Exactly why I don't like breakfast dates. I much prefer dates where drinks are involved. Its alot more relaxed atmosphere and not as rushed.

Im taking her up on the drinks if she acts on her word, just so she can see me when the pressure is off.
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Hmmm yeah sounds like you need to let it go- she said no (and saying be just friends usually is a nice way of saying i dont really want to see you again) But eh wtf would i know.
 
I caught up for lunch with one of my best mates yesterday...
Her Tinder went off with an opening message that just read:
Anal?

The amount of unsolicited dick pics she gets on her insta etc is mind boggling. Guys are horrendous.
I've decided I'm not having a daughter..... With a boy I only have to worry about one penis.... With a daughter, i have to worry about aaaaaaall the penises :tearsofjoy:
Although one of my favourite dating convos are App dating Horror stories :tearsofjoy: :tearsofjoy:
 
SnakeMan86 said:
I caught up for lunch with one of my best mates yesterday...
Her Tinder went off with an opening message that just read:
Anal?

The amount of unsolicited dick pics she gets on her insta etc is mind boggling. Guys are horrendous.
I've decided I'm not having a daughter..... With a boy I only have to worry about one penis.... With a daughter, i have to worry about aaaaaaall the penises :tearsofjoy:
Although one of my favourite dating convos are App dating Horror stories :tearsofjoy: :tearsofjoy:
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Look 100% agree with you no question.

But sadly dick pics are not the worst thing that can happen to you as a woman. I'd be very happy if dick pics were the only form of harrassment id ever experienced.*


*fwiw never gotten one, unwanted. But did have some skid mark of a human make a comment to me at the gym over 10 years ago, that ive never forgotten. Never. Stupid fking prick.
 
Shell said:
Look 100% agree with you no question.

But sadly dick pics are not the worst thing that can happen to you as a woman. I'd be very happy if dick pics were the only form of harrassment id ever experienced.*


*fwiw never gotten one, unwanted. But did have some skid mark of a human make a comment to me at the gym over 10 years ago, that ive never forgotten. Never. Stupid fking prick.
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Oh absolutely!! I've heard some absolutely horrid stories from girls on dates that have been Catphished on dates, abused on them, stalked afterwards etc.
It can be a scary world out there, sorry you had to be subjected to that
 

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SnakeMan86 said:
Oh absolutely!! I've heard some absolutely horrid stories from girls on dates that have been Catphished on dates, abused on them, stalked afterwards etc.
It can be a scary world out there
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I actually said this to my mate the other day (was sort of discussing this topic) I said "omg i was so happy when I moved into my apartment- i could finally leave my windows open overnight on a hot night- i couldnt do that before as ive always lived on the "ground floor".

How pathetic is that. Srsly. Here in Melbourne, Australia.
 
back in the day for me, shared care mums were a gold mine ... they get there couple of nights off a fortnight and they don’t want to waste it.

but to clarify i was also a shared care dad so i had limited times i could go out, and I was always upfront and said from start that I was not looking for anything serious just bit of fun and some time off of "real life".
 
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Shell said:
Hmmm yeah sounds like you need to let it go- she said no (and saying be just friends usually is a nice way of saying i dont really want to see you again) But eh wtf would i know.
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We've parted ways overnight. Bit of a mutual thing if im honest. I told her I felt disrespected at the breakfast. She apologised to her credit but we can't kid each other about being friends.
 
Hatchy1992 said:
We've parted ways overnight. Bit of a mutual thing if im honest. I told her I felt disrespected at the breakfast. She apologised to her credit but we can't kid each other about being friends.
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Just go for a coffee or drink drink, next time.
 
Hatchy1992 said:
We've parted ways overnight. Bit of a mutual thing if im honest. I told her I felt disrespected at the breakfast. She apologised to her credit but we can't kid each other about being friends.
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Any time someone says "I'd like to still be friends". They don't actually want to still be friends.

It's rough, but you'll have dates that don't go well for whatever reason, just have to pick yourself up and move on.

As others have said; drinks or coffee are usually a good option because they can be a 30 minute or 3 hour activity depending on how things develop. Drinks is a bit easier because generally it's later, which means darker and slightly more intimate, plus a couple of drinks can relax both parties.

You'll find that if you meet the right person, the nerves settle pretty quickly and they'll also generally be more forgiving if it's a little awkward anyway. It's a tough putting yourself out there on dates, so give yourself some credit for giving it a go and meeting a total stranger even if it didn't go as well as you might have hoped.
 
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