Computers & Internet Tinder

[Perth gal]

Match with super attractive girl on Hinge. Send a stupid opener that she absolutely ate up. Spend the next 3 days talking, exchanging long ass messages. Both from the same area. Both find each other attractive. Vibing really well.

Ghosted. Someone better came along.

You dodged a bullet.

 

[Sharks On A Plane]

Match with super attractive girl on Hinge. Send a stupid opener that she absolutely ate up. Spend the next 3 days talking, exchanging long ass messages. Both from the same area. Both find each other attractive. Vibing really well.

Ghosted. Someone better came along.

In my experience long app conversations rarely lead to a date.

Two keys to the dating apps: transition the conversation away from the app itself, tee-up a date by the end of the first conversation.

 

[AFDogs]

In my experience long app conversations rarely lead to a date.

Two keys to the dating apps: transition the conversation away from the app itself, tee-up a date by the end of the first conversation.

Bit hard to when she stopped replying

 

[ash_1050]

Bit hard to when she stopped replying

3 days of long ass messages is way too long in 2022. Should have teed something up inside 36 hours for that weekend and kept the long ass messages going until you meet up. Also try shift it to another platform after 24 hours or so if the vibe is there and it's going well, Snapchat, Whatsapp, text messages or whatever. Another option is to do a voice call and see if the chemistry carries over.

There's a certain inflection point where if you haven't instigated any of these options she'll probably bail as it's a time sink when there's so many other options out there that want to progress things beyond talking on Tinder.

Also to a lesser degree it may have been your response times may have made you come across as a bit desperate or having nothing better to do if you were responding pretty much straight away all the time. But that's a whole other line of thinking, I suspect it was the above instead.

 

[AFDogs]

3 days of long ass messages is way too long in 2022. Should have teed something up inside 36 hours for that weekend and kept the long ass messages going until you meet up. Also try shift it to another platform after 24 hours or so if the vibe is there and it's going well, Snapchat, Whatsapp, text messages or whatever. Another option is to do a voice call and see if the chemistry carries over.

There's a certain inflection point where if you haven't instigated any of these options she'll probably bail as it's a time sink when there's so many other options out there that want to progress things beyond talking on Tinder.

Also to a lesser degree it may have been your response times may have made you come across as a bit desperate or having nothing better to do if you were responding pretty much straight away all the time. But that's a whole other line of thinking, I suspect it was the above instead.

Yeah when I tried to move the conversation to phone # that's when the ghosting occurred. Everything leading up to that point was all roses. Anyway, it happens. We were on the same wave length with what we were both looking for in life. It's just a shame as she was stunning, seemed like she was interested and was local.

We move on.

 

[74561347]

I'm thinking with all the criticism of dating apps in here I'm going to talk to strangers 80s style

 

[Over The Post]

racist

 

[Billy ray]

 

[faible]

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I’ve never even heard of Badoo or Tantan

 

[tandino]

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What about Facebook marketplace?

 

[Over The Post]

Funny you should mention that, I've been having a look at the singles groups on fb recently. Interesting dynamics.

 

[Jack Richards]

I have a couple full body shots (in suits or dressed up nicely), a couple selfies and a couple pics with mates (out having fun). I think a full body shot is important for both men and women. I'm always skeptical of profiles that consist fully of selfies. We need to see what we're getting into.

I know of a few bigger single ladies (and some men) who only take selfies just to hide their weight.

Big tell tale sign. Especially if they are sticking their next out or having the camera up so they hide their double chin.

 

[mr bagcroft]

I know of a few bigger single ladies (and some men) who only take selfies just to hide their weight.

Big tell tale sign. Especially if they are sticking their next out or having the camera up so they hide their double chin.

I used to laugh at this shit, it was hilarious.
Like, your never going to meet anyone?

 

[ash_1050]

I used to laugh at this sh*t, it was hilarious.
Like, your never going to meet anyone?

Was talking to a friend on the weekend and we were discussing obvious lies. She went on a date with a guy who listed himself as 175cms in his profile and when he turned up he was the same height as her (160cms). It baffles me that people would lie about something so completely trivial and think potential partners are willing to overlook this.

 

[faible]

Was talking to a friend on the weekend and we were discussing obvious lies. She went on a date with a guy who listed himself as 175cms in his profile and when he turned up he was the same height as her (160cms). It baffles me that people would lie about something so completely trivial and think potential partners are willing to overlook this.

That's always been a confusing one to me, like I get maybe people fudging a cm or two so they come up as the inch above what they are, but 15cm?

 

[phantom13]

Was talking to a friend on the weekend and we were discussing obvious lies. She went on a date with a guy who listed himself as 175cms in his profile and when he turned up he was the same height as her (160cms). It baffles me that people would lie about something so completely trivial and think potential partners are willing to overlook this.

If its trivial then why wouldnt they overlook it?

The reason they lie is the same as the reason most wont overlook it (im not advocating for said person lying by the way just pointing out the fallacy in the argument)

 

[chunkylover53]

Yeah when I tried to move the conversation to phone # that's when the ghosting occurred. Everything leading up to that point was all roses. Anyway, it happens. We were on the same wave length with what we were both looking for in life. It's just a shame as she was stunning, seemed like she was interested and was local.

We move on.

Tried voice memos?

I know of a few bigger single ladies (and some men) who only take selfies just to hide their weight.

Big tell tale sign. Especially if they are sticking their next out or having the camera up so they hide their double chin.

The "Tinder Trap" I believe it is called.

 

[ash_1050]

If its trivial then why wouldnt they overlook it?

The reason they lie is the same as the reason most wont overlook it (im not advocating for said person lying by the way just pointing out the fallacy in the argument)

Trivial in the sense that it's one of many facts about him in the entire bio and he's felt a need to lie about it, the whole bio itself may be entirely truthful except for that one fact.

People would be more willing to accept your stated height of 160cms than they would be to accept you saying you're 175cms and then turning up and you're actually 160cms. It's like if a woman had photos on her bio of her being 50-60kgs and then when you met she was actually 100kgs and those photos were from 5 years ago.

 

[phantom13]

Trivial in the sense that it's one of many facts about him in the entire bio and he's felt a need to lie about it, the whole bio itself may be entirely truthful except for that one fact.

People would be more willing to accept your stated height of 160cms than they would be to accept you saying you're 175cms and then turning up and you're actually 160cms. It's like if a woman had photos on her bio of her being 50-60kgs and then when you met she was actually 100kgs and those photos were from 5 years ago.

Oh i dont disagree with you at all, just noting that the reason he lied is the same reason your friend raised it.

I would assume old mate thought if i can just get her to meet me she'll overlook my height (pardon the pun)

 

[royboy2]

Watched a doco called The Tinder Swindler on the weekend, about

Spoiler: Spoiler

a conman meeting woman ang getting money out of them. He got close to $300,000 out of one in Norway, another 30k from a woman in Sweden.
These women were actually taking out loans to give this bloke cash

 

[Over The Post]

Wow, thanks man for ****ing it up for the rest of us

It was discussed on a couple of fb groups, must have a look to see if its worth watching.

 

[faible]

Watched a doco called The Tinder Swindler

Might want to spoiler tag the rest of the words for people who haven't seen it yet.

Worth a watch though

 

[royboy2]

Fair call, apologies

 

[Scotland]

I know of a few bigger single ladies (and some men) who only take selfies just to hide their weight.

Big tell tale sign. Especially if they are sticking their next out or having the camera up so they hide their double chin.

5 head shots only = guaranteed... larger individual. Hard to get much more in taking a selfie unless you have one of those stupid sticks, but if photos are cropped to head only it's a definite red flag.

 

[Over The Post]

It doesn't bother me as much as it obviously does many others, certainly one of the telltales is how round their (or my!) face is in the pic. And you're right, 5 headshots is a giveaway.

One advantage fb has is that you can quickly look at their profile (if it isn't locked down) and you can generally tell how old their profile pic is by the date it was first used. There's a couple on the groups I'm looking at that are much bigger in temporary pics from Christmas than they are in the "current" profile pics which are clearly from 3-5 years ago.

Insecurity and poor self image. Happens to us all.