Computers & Internet Tinder

[perthblue]

It works the other way too. Lots of women won't date guys who earn less than they do. And it's not about them being gold digging harpies either, it's the power imbalance that money inevitably leads to, as well as the practicality of losing the larger portion of the earnings when she takes time off work to look after a child.

 

[craigos]

Because every health professional will gladly jeopardise their career and invite criminal charges just to feed your recreational curiosities or addiction, right?

If they truly loved you, yes.

 

[magic_johnson!]

Lol, some blokes actually think this way, and women play along with it? That thought never even crossed my mind TBH.

I would actually be kind of proud if a woman I was dating had a "better" job than me, happy for them that they've achieved something which likely took a lot of time and effort.

The doubt I would have around dating a doctor (or nurse) would be a bit more practical, around their availability (both physically and emotionally). Given that they work long, shifting hours in a stressful job, most probably don't have the time or patience for regular dating. But if they do, it's probably on a limited schedule that will make you feel like a patient booking an appointment to spend time with them, and you'd feel like every date and interaction needs to be a home run, so as you're not wasting their time or missing out yourself. Spontaneity probably goes out the window too. That is projecting and making assumptions though, so I would go in with an open mind, and see what happens.

Currently seeing someone who's a doctor (very happily), and I also live with a doctor. This isn't all that true in terms of dating or socialising for that matter: while it isn't always 9-5 (though sometimes it is), it's not as if they don't get a day off here and there. Spontaneity is actually increased by a long way in my opinion: it isn't just the same old after work/saturday night date, and a different time slot just gives a different vibe. It's not me booking around their important schedule, it's us working our schedules together and there's plenty of time left over.

 

[Duritz]

Currently seeing someone who's a doctor (very happily), and I also live with a doctor. This isn't all that true in terms of dating or socialising for that matter: while it isn't always 9-5 (though sometimes it is), it's not as if they don't get a day off here and there. Spontaneity is actually increased by a long way in my opinion: it isn't just the same old after work/saturday night date, and a different time slot just gives a different vibe. It's not me booking around their important schedule, it's us working our schedules together and there's plenty of time left over.

Obviously she’s not working hard enough. Get rid of her she doesn’t have any goals.

 

[bombersfan4000]

She was ashamed of actually being a doctor, so decided to pretend to be a less prestigious health care professional? Doesn't make sense.

No she is very modest about it. But a lot of guys do feel intimidated that the girl earns more than them aparently!

Tbh think is awsome. I’ve worked in O&G & mining most of my life and girls generally have the misconception that for that fact I need to pick up the tab on most occasions.

 

[GreyCrow]

Currently seeing someone who's a doctor (very happily), and I also live with a doctor. This isn't all that true in terms of dating or socialising for that matter: while it isn't always 9-5 (though sometimes it is), it's not as if they don't get a day off here and there. Spontaneity is actually increased by a long way in my opinion: it isn't just the same old after work/saturday night date, and a different time slot just gives a different vibe. It's not me booking around their important schedule, it's us working our schedules together and there's plenty of time left over.

MWPP your thoughts?

 

[MWPP]

Currently seeing someone who's a doctor (very happily), and I also live with a doctor. This isn't all that true in terms of dating or socialising for that matter: while it isn't always 9-5 (though sometimes it is), it's not as if they don't get a day off here and there. Spontaneity is actually increased by a long way in my opinion: it isn't just the same old after work/saturday night date, and a different time slot just gives a different vibe. It's not me booking around their important schedule, it's us working our schedules together and there's plenty of time left over.

MWPP your thoughts?

There are some exceptions (relating to specific specialities eg some surgical ones or career stages ie in the 12 months leading upto fellowship exams ) , but for the most part , I agree with what magic_johnson! said

There are many more junior doctors these days , so the amount of rostered overtime has reduced (and many areas of medicine have become a little more work-life balance friendly)

I’m certainly not as time poor as some of my former highschool classmates who ended up in other professional careers eg Law , Investment Banking, Consulting

I do get a fair few days off

I agree re: the different timeslots

Weekday nights out are the best

 

[MWPP]

But a lot of guys do feel intimidated that the girl earns more than them aparently!

This is very true, unfortunately
I wasn’t surprised to read the story about the girl who did not disclose that she’s a doctor - I know others who have done the same thing

The irony is that many of us are regularly mistaken for nurses at work anyway (even if we introduce ourselves as a doctor and/or are wearing scrubs or a badge which say doctor )

 

[Billy ray]

I would love to be with someone who earns more than me.
Anytime there is more money in the pot, life is just that little bit easier and stress just a little bit less.

 

[ChappyUK]

This thread needs more pictures.

How the **** am I going to live vicariously through the young folk without them.

 

[JW Frogen]

I can't use Tinder because I am such an egomaniac I keep clicking on my own picture.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

C'arn, no nipple pics you guys.

 

[ChappyUK]

C'arn, no nipple pics you guys.

PM me

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

 

[perthblue]

whatever happened to The Unforgiven. I need to know if junior ever got his happy meal.

 

[Scotland]

I'm not sure money would be as intimidating as personality. Dating a woman with some white collar role that is completely career obsessed would be different to dating a woman who had a cushy GP gig at a local medical centre but pocketed more coin.

 

[Stratton_Gun]

Does anyone else see actually think tinder, bumble etc are bad for self esteem etc etc

When I first joined tinder maybe a bit more than 2 years ago, had really poor photos and got not that many matches but the ones I did really gave me a bit of a boost self esteem wise that out there these women are attracted to me. I would say made me feel better about myself not that I'm one who's ever had low self worth

These days have much better photos and obviously get better matches but you work out the more you have the more you want. No e-brag but had a solid 7.5-8 come over for a quickie a few days ago and a couple of years ago that would have made my week if not month. But fast forward to tonight I'm swiping for a good 10 minutes and maybe got 3 matches all borderline right swipes and suddenly start thinking whether I need to find better photos etc etc

Just a thought. I guess that's life though. No matter how much you have of something you always want more

 

[Hank93]

Does anyone else see actually think tinder, bumble etc are bad for self esteem etc etc

When I first joined tinder maybe a bit more than 2 years ago, had really poor photos and got not that many matches but the ones I did really gave me a bit of a boost self esteem wise that out there these women are attracted to me. I would say made me feel better about myself not that I'm one who's ever had low self worth

These days have much better photos and obviously get better matches but you work out the more you have the more you want. No e-brag but had a solid 7.5-8 come over for a quickie a few days ago and a couple of years ago that would have made my week if not month. But fast forward to tonight I'm swiping for a good 10 minutes and maybe got 3 matches all borderline right swipes and suddenly start thinking whether I need to find better photos etc etc

Just a thought. I guess that's life though. No matter how much you have of something you always want more

Girl I asked about her ratio of right swaps and she said she only swiped right on about 1 in 10 dudes. Not everyone is going to be like that but they are far more selective than dudes.

 

[perthblue]

Does anyone else see actually think tinder, bumble etc are bad for self esteem etc etc

When I first joined tinder maybe a bit more than 2 years ago, had really poor photos and got not that many matches but the ones I did really gave me a bit of a boost self esteem wise that out there these women are attracted to me. I would say made me feel better about myself not that I'm one who's ever had low self worth

These days have much better photos and obviously get better matches but you work out the more you have the more you want. No e-brag but had a solid 7.5-8 come over for a quickie a few days ago and a couple of years ago that would have made my week if not month. But fast forward to tonight I'm swiping for a good 10 minutes and maybe got 3 matches all borderline right swipes and suddenly start thinking whether I need to find better photos etc etc

Just a thought. I guess that's life though. No matter how much you have of something you always want more

Yes dating apps, and social media in general, pervert your worldview to the point where you are barely human anymore. Best to get off them and just stare at women through binoculars like a true G

 

[iluvparis]

Yes dating apps, and social media in general, pervert your worldview to the point where you are barely human anymore. Best to get off them and just stare at women through binoculars like a true G

Get off on them?

Waaaaaaaaay ahead of you pal.

 

[Harvey Leadpipe]

After a while together (say 6 months) and pre-kids, a missus with a high-demanding, long-houred job is the best. My wife was a M&A lawyer.

Me - "you want to go out for dinner on Fri night?"

Her - "I'm sorry hon, but I've gotta get this proposal done. This weekend no good for me. I'm soooooooo sorry."

Me (out loud) - "No probs"

Me (in my head) - Hellllllo footy at the 'G on Fri night, quietly read the form guide with a little hangover on Sat morning, quickly drop into the pub on the way to golf, might dump the car and have a couple at the local footy club after the round before heading around one of the single lads house for table tennis, pizzas, footy on tv etc. All without hearing the following words/terms all weekend - does this look alright, are you wearing that, just let me run in and grab my ......, the names of any of her annoying girlfriends, or the name any furniture/clothes store.

Fully endorse hard-working women.

 

[HirdyLannister]

After a while together (say 6 months) and pre-kids, a missus with a high-demanding, long-houred job is the best. My wife was a M&A lawyer.

Me - "you want to go out for dinner on Fri night?"

Her - "I'm sorry hon, but I've gotta get this proposal done. This weekend no good for me. I'm soooooooo sorry."

Me (out loud) - "No probs"

Me (in my head) - Hellllllo footy at the 'G on Fri night, quietly read the form guide with a little hangover on Sat morning, quickly drop into the pub on the way to golf, might dump the car and have a couple at the local footy club after the round before heading around one of the single lads house for table tennis, pizzas, footy on tv etc. All without hearing the following words/terms all weekend - does this look alright, are you wearing that, just let me run in and grab my ......, the names of any of her annoying girlfriends, or the name any furniture/clothes store.

Her (in her head) - yes can't wait to see my toy boy again on Friday night, the hubby took that bullshit line and he will be gone.

Fully endorse hard-working women.

EFA

 

[IKnowtheDog]

what is it with Bigfooty and M&A Lawyers

 

[Milang_Panthers]

There are some exceptions (relating to specific specialities eg some surgical ones or career stages ie in the 12 months leading upto fellowship exams ) , but for the most part , I agree with what magic_johnson! said

There are many more junior doctors these days , so the amount of rostered overtime has reduced (and many areas of medicine have become a little more work-life balance friendly)

I’m certainly not as time poor as some of my former highschool classmates who ended up in other professional careers eg Law , Investment Banking, Consulting

I do get a fair few days off

I agree re: the different timeslots

Weekday nights out are the best

Nurses definitely have it worse in terms of working more random hours (I married one) but i think its a good thing tbh. I would personally rather have different shifts every week than the same 5 days over and over.

 

[revo333]

'No hook ups or pen pals'