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There's a lot of wild shit on tinder these days. I don't use it anymore but I get screenshots from mates and apparently it's full of all sorts of experimental things. Guys on there with pigs ears on, chicks in full rubber and whips, but the big one for me is the amount of 18-22 year old young people with threesome profiles. And not just you're KFC casual, chubby, lank hair un-sexy 'let's cuck my boyfriend' sorts but genuinely fairly attractive girls. First photo them at a festival, second in some active wear, third in a dress for a footy ball... then the last two is her and a bloke and then the bio is some 'I have a boyfriend and we're looking for male partners.'

Dunno but back in the day I used to feel self-conscious about using it at uni, in case some girl from a tute saw me and recoiled at some shitty bio. Imagine if your workmates or mates saw your face on there looking for another bloke to go your missile?
 
Silent Alarm said:
Imagine if your workmates or mates saw your face on there looking for another bloke to go your missile?
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I'd say it's probably more likely she's looking to have more than one missile at a time than that.
 

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Daniel1812 said:
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One thing I do not get.

The profiles that say in the first line.......Not looking for sex...................................................

So what exactly are you doing on tinder then?????????
 
Run n Spread said:
One thing I do not get.

The profiles that say in the first line.......Not looking for sex...................................................

So what exactly are you doing on tinder then?????????
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You always find that which you are not looking for, yet you never find that which you are looking for
 
james Dean said:
Tinder around 30 is just depressing. Anyone who I match with is either a single parent or is psychologically ****** from their last relationship.
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Avoid both. Who wants to raise someone else's kid? Plus u will always be last priority
I don't ask about past partners or the last Ex.
Don't ask and its rarely brought up
If you get unlucky and she starts talking about her ex....just move on
 
CheapCharlie said:
I have a standard response i cut and paste to everyone on initial contact
Works fairly well
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Pls share. Have no interest in coming up with anything profile specific so an effective generic opening salvo would certainly be a big help.

Seriously do women go on there and look at each other's profiles? A reference to "Good vibes/420/No ONS or hook-ups/Yogi." would have to be in 80% of bios. I reckon I would be swiping right once out of every 100 profiles, it's a total shitshow out there currently.
 
Sharks On A Plane said:
Pls share. Have no interest in coming up with anything profile specific so an effective generic opening salvo would certainly be a big help.

Seriously do women go on there and look at each other's profiles? A reference to "Good vibes/420/No ONS or hook-ups/Yogi." would have to be in 80% of bios. I reckon I would be swiping right once out of every 100 profiles, it's a total shitshow out there currently.
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I can't share it word for word but what's works for me is..

I keep the message simple
I give three compliments that are non sexual
I don't mention anything about myself and I don't ask to chat soon or if they'd like to chat.

Only the blackest of hearts won't respond
 

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james Dean said:
Tinder around 30 is just depressing. Anyone who I match with is either a single parent or is psychologically ****** from their last relationship.
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Well by 30 most will have kids or be in a stable relationship (unless they have issues). Irony would be 40's you'd be striking those with kids out of home (in some cases), plus usually more stable. Going for the massive generalisation, but the 30's, IMO, is when women are the most insecure and have issues. They realise (even if they won't admit it to themselves), that they can't compete (in general) on looks with those in their 20's anymore. Yet they aren't at the point where they will accept it. Call it early mid-life crisis for the ladies. Men in their 30's suffer the same delusion, but as men 'catch' the eye more with their bank balance / power / career prospects then women do, the 30 something guy has an edge over the 20 somethings, at least in that regard, that 30 something women don't have over 20 something women.

At 30 are you still using Tinder for just hook ups though? If you are should it matter if they are a single parent or unstable? If you want something more meaningful at 30, shouldn't you be migrating to RSVP or e-Harmony? Or is that an admittance to yourself you're getting older you don't want to make?
 
Andre said:
Well by 30 most will have kids or be in a stable relationship (unless they have issues). Irony would be 40's you'd be striking those with kids out of home (in some cases), plus usually more stable. Going for the massive generalisation, but the 30's, IMO, is when women are the most insecure and have issues. They realise (even if they won't admit it to themselves), that they can't compete (in general) on looks with those in their 20's anymore. Yet they aren't at the point where they will accept it. Call it early mid-life crisis for the ladies. Men in their 30's suffer the same delusion, but as men 'catch' the eye more with their bank balance / power / career prospects then women do, the 30 something guy has an edge over the 20 somethings, at least in that regard, that 30 something women don't have over 20 something women.

At 30 are you still using Tinder for just hook ups though? If you are should it matter if they are a single parent or unstable? If you want something more meaningful at 30, shouldn't you be migrating to RSVP or e-Harmony? Or is that an admittance to yourself you're getting older you don't want to make?
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I can't really justify paying for a dating site when Tinder is free. I have used POF in the past, and **** me that was a cesspool.

Of course Tinder is 90% hang and bang, but where else am I going to go to meet girls? My mates are all tied down so don't want to go clubbing, I'm not joining a church group or any weird cult shit, my role at work means getting with a girl would be a pretty big conflict of interest, so Tinder is the only option really.

I've met (what I thought where) some pretty awesome people on Tinder and then by date 3-4 the breakdown happens and the suppressed feelings for their ex comes out and it's over in a flash.
 
31 y/o dude here and I'm probably in the psychologically damaged camp, not because I still have feelings for my ex but because I am completely unkeen on the idea of another relationship for a good while.

So I am here for the "hang and bang" as you put it, problem is most girls around my age I get the vibe they are looking for a hubby or racing against the maternal clock to have kids. So I'm kinda trying to aim a bit younger ie mid 20s so it's less of an issue.

The moral issue I'm grappling with is how upfront should I be about not wanting a relationship, whether it be in my bio or early in conversation. On one hand I don't want to lead people on, and on the other I don't want to drastically decrease my chances of hanging and banging.
 
Sketi said:
31 y/o dude here and I'm probably in the psychologically damaged camp, not because I still have feelings for my ex but because I am completely unkeen on the idea of another relationship for a good while.

So I am here for the "hang and bang" as you put it, problem is most girls around my age I get the vibe they are looking for a hubby or racing against the maternal clock to have kids. So I'm kinda trying to aim a bit younger ie mid 20s so it's less of an issue.

The moral issue I'm grappling with is how upfront should I be about not wanting a relationship, whether it be in my bio or early in conversation. On one hand I don't want to lead people on, and on the other I don't want to drastically decrease my chances of hanging and banging.
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I think it'd be better to risk drastically decreasing your chances of the latter than risking the former at all but that might just be me. Don't people appreciate honesty these days? Just say you're not looking for anything serious and just want to have some fun.. or something.
 
Sketi said:
The moral issue I'm grappling with is how upfront should I be about not wanting a relationship, whether it be in my bio or early in conversation. On one hand I don't want to lead people on, and on the other I don't want to drastically decrease my chances of hanging and banging.
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Are you interested in just shagging them and never speaking/seeing them again? Or are you looking for a regular **** buddy?
 

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Sketi said:
31 y/o dude here and I'm probably in the psychologically damaged camp, not because I still have feelings for my ex but because I am completely unkeen on the idea of another relationship for a good while.

So I am here for the "hang and bang" as you put it, problem is most girls around my age I get the vibe they are looking for a hubby or racing against the maternal clock to have kids. So I'm kinda trying to aim a bit younger ie mid 20s so it's less of an issue.

The moral issue I'm grappling with is how upfront should I be about not wanting a relationship, whether it be in my bio or early in conversation. On one hand I don't want to lead people on, and on the other I don't want to drastically decrease my chances of hanging and banging.
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It's a challenge not to get sucked into the differing agenda of a potential date
 
Beerfish said:
I think it'd be better to risk drastically decreasing your chances of the latter than risking the former at all but that might just be me. Don't people appreciate honesty these days? Just say you're not looking for anything serious and just want to have some fun.. or something.
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I think you are probably right. It would be the right thing to do and could save a lot of peoples time, including mine.

james Dean said:
Are you interested in just shagging them and never speaking/seeing them again? Or are you looking for a regular **** buddy?
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Probably closer to the latter, don't really see the point of just a one nighter unless you are seriously incompatible. If you enjoyed each others company may as well revisit. Having said that one nighters have their place as well.
 
Sketi said:
Probably closer to the latter, don't really see the point of just a one nighter unless you are seriously incompatible. If you enjoyed each others company may as well revisit. Having said that one nighters have their place as well.
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You're going to find it difficult to convince a girl to **** you out of the blue unless you're extremely attractive. Your best bet is to just be open from the beginning and say you are looking for someone to date but you really aren't in a position to get involved in anything too serious.
 
james Dean said:
You're going to find it difficult to convince a girl to **** you out of the blue
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I've managed it a couple of times so far haha. But at the same time I find myself engaged in long conversations/dates with people who seem like they probably want something more so on those instances it's a bit of a waste of time.

Thinking a quick note on the bio is probably the best bet as you guys suggested...
 
Sketi said:
I've managed it a couple of times so far haha. But at the same time I find myself engaged in long conversations/dates with people who seem like they probably want something more so on those instances it's a bit of a waste of time.

Thinking a quick note on the bio is probably the best bet as you guys suggested...
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Keep it vague
You don't have to declare your long term intentions even when asked
 
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