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burge13 said:
I can understand girls who are 6 foot wanting a taller guy but I can't for the life of me understand a short girl expecting him to be 6 foot at a minimum. Then again I'm 6 foot 5 and it hasn't helped haha.
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My sister is 5'4, and her husband is 6'6 lol...
I also have two other friends whose partners are WAY taller than they are lol.

ETA: I don't think they expected their partners to be tall though. But it's just kind of funny it ended up that way.
 
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dales.girl38 said:
I had just started opening the apps again when the crisis was about to hit, haven't bothered since.

I've been single for 2 years now, time flies.
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I was single for 4 years before I met my boyfriend. I dunno if you count a 4 month stint, and then 2 month stint, in that time... rest was just dates as I said above.
 
HaroLad said:
Thinking of swiping in India next.

The reverse bob and vagene.
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Think it was Kiev I swiped in and virtually every girl I matched with was a 10 lol. Ah to go to Ukraine
 
why's it okay to make bob and vegene jokes about Indians (a country of so many regions, classes etc that are more unique than Australians v Poms v even Canadians)? Indian girls can be very sexy but also very nice, gentle, compassionate, calm people.

also as I said on the last page or so: hot girls in shitholes are probably swiping right because they can see you're somewhere far away. there's no magical place where some bloke with a boxed in head can **** 10s every third night. enjoy it for a good wank but that's all itll be and all it means.
 
Minidisc MD said:
why's it okay to make bob and vegene jokes about Indians (a country of so many regions, classes etc that are more unique than Australians v Poms v even Canadians)? Indian girls can be very sexy but also very nice, gentle, compassionate, calm people.
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Isn't it more taking a piss out of the blokes?! I've never encountered it personally, but I've seen many posts on the internet where a woman has been talking to an Indian guy and he's been like "show bobs and vagene" lmao.

Here's a good video:
 

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por_please_ya said:
Isn't it more taking a piss out of the blokes?! I've never encountered it personally, but I've seen many posts on the internet where a woman has been talking to an Indian guy and he's been like "show bobs and vagene" lmao.

Here's a good video:
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you said your ex-boyfriend was Indian but put that in as a disclaimer. would you have said that if he was Swedish? the implication is Indians are creeps.

if I had an ex-girlfriend from China I wouldn't say "no she didnt eat bats" and if I did, if someone said "sheesh bit racist" I'd cop it. Indians cop a lot of negative stereotypes but are some of the hardest working and well integrated migrants this country has had.
 
Minidisc MD said:
you said your ex-boyfriend was Indian but put that in as a disclaimer. would you have said that if he was Swedish? the implication is Indians are creeps.

if I had an ex-girlfriend from China I wouldn't say "no she didnt eat bats" and if I did, if someone said "sheesh bit racist" I'd cop it. Indians cop a lot of negative stereotypes but are some of the hardest working and well integrated migrants this country has had.
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Wouldn't call him an exbf by any stretch. We only went on two dates I think before he disappeared.
It was a stereotypical offhanded comment and I didn't mean anything by it, but I apologise if I've caused offence. Plenty of stereotypes out there and we use them without realising. I definitely do not think Indian men (in general) are creeps. Now that I know more of the background about why they say bobs and vagene etc from watching that video, it kind of makes me sad actually. And please don't make assumptions about me - I know a lot about Indian culture because a) I've got several Aussie Indian friends and b) I've watched over 130 Indian language films :)

In my dating life I ended up going on dates with four different Indian men (and only one was born here, and in actual fact he was the biggest dickhead of all of them).
 
It is a general stereotype. But it is a true stereotype of men from India. Personal experience. Due to lack of knowledge and cultural norms it has become this way.
You won’t see it as much in Indian men that have grown up abroad, but those that we’re brought up in India and exposed to Indian media move abroad and don’t know the customs.
Indian movies have always portrayed the “male gaze”, sexualising women and playing loose with what would be considered as normal behaviour in society. A common plot line in movies shows the stalking and pestering of the love interest until she gives in a falls in love with the hero. Songs feature Western backup dancers, and the lead actress in nothing but a bra and short skirts. There’s a song 1993 song called “Choli Ke Peeche Kya Hai?”, which translates to “What’s under your blouse?”. I have heaps of examples.
Even in finding partners, Indians are always looking for fairer skin, known as “wheatish”. There’s a beauty product in India called “Fair & Lovely”, with the main aim of the product to make the users skin fairer in tone.
Have a read of this article from a few years ago, about an Indian man that was charged for stalking. And see what his defence was:
www.google.com.au

Security guard avoids jail by blaming Bollywood for stalking habit

Australian lawyer defending Indian man says obsessively pursuing uninterested women is ‘quite normal behaviour’ for those who take their cues from Bollywood movies
www.google.com.au www.google.com.au

This stereotype doesn’t help the Indians that have been brought up here. Because girls do end up lumping us all into the one category.
This goes with Oriental Asians as well, how many Asian female / White male couples do you see compared to Asian male / White female couples.
 
I may be way off-base here, but a thought which has occurred to me about the "Indian men on facebook" thing is that arranged marriages have been and continue to be quite a strong tradition in some parts of the country, and given how populous the country is overall you have a lot more people who are wholly unfamiliar with approaching flirting and approaching courtship as an individual romantic thing, hence you get grown men acting like horny 14 year old's.
 

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I worked with a group of Indians a while ago, all were over 30 years old and the way they talked about females was very schoolyard banter and came across as a little creepy and disturbing at first until I got to know them better and realised it is a result of their culture and upbringing.

One by one they left the country to go back to India and get married, all of them arranged.
 
Minidisc MD said:
you said your ex-boyfriend was Indian but put that in as a disclaimer. would you have said that if he was Swedish? the implication is Indians are creeps.

if I had an ex-girlfriend from China I wouldn't say "no she didnt eat bats" and if I did, if someone said "sheesh bit racist" I'd cop it. Indians cop a lot of negative stereotypes but are some of the hardest working and well integrated migrants this country has had.
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Lighten up
 
revo333 said:
I worked with a group of Indians a while ago, all were over 30 years old and the way they talked about females was very schoolyard banter and came across as a little creepy and disturbing at first until I got to know them better and realised it is a result of their culture and upbringing.

One by one they left the country to go back to India and get married, all of them arranged.
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Pretty easy to not bother taking women or dating here seriously if you know you've got an arranged marriage lined-up back home.
 
I have friends that have got arranged marriages. One friend completed her postgrad in psych, next thing I hear is she’s moving to the US after marriage. This is common practice when it comes to setting up arranged marriages, parents don’t waste time for the girl leaving Indian guys to work the dating system without the abundance of Indian girls.
The girls parents expect the boy to own a house, have a professional job and be able to support the girl. So guys go overseas to attain this, and such is the problem.

Also, there is a large number of cases of domestic abuse and lack of equal rights in a household, which follows on from generations of traditions and culture. Husbands are gonna beat on their wives, and parents beat on their children. It just happens, and we learn not to notice or care. That type of behaviour is not appropriate outside the subcontinent, leaving Indian guys on the outside when it does come to forming relationships.
 
por_please_ya said:
Woman perspective here lol... I did post in this thread ages ago and can't remember what I said so sorry if I'm repeating myself.

I tried lots of bloody apps when I was looking for a man. Tinder, RSVP, eHarmony (don't bother unless you want to be ripped off), Oasis (briefly cause creepy old men kept interacting with me lol), Plenty of Fish, OkCupid.... In fact the only one I never had a chance to use was Bumble because I met my current boyfriend on Tinder back in November 2017.

I met up with surely at least 20 different guys over the time. Most of them only lasted between 1 and 3 dates. Ghosting was common. Sometimes I didn't feel any chemistry at all and that's fine.
But also, sometimes it took ******* ages before you met up. I got addicted to swiping. I would see some awesome guys and feel despair when they never swiped back, it can take a hit on your self esteem. I actually didn't chat to many dickheads, luckily. But I refused to swipe for guys who had all their friends in their pics and you didn't know which one it was....guys who said they were gym junkies cause that isn't my thing. I dunno you could just tell when they were there for fun and a laugh. I liked when they were straight up honest about why they were there.

I'm about 167cm (5'5 and a half). I actually don't like it when the guy is too tall hahaha. My current bf is just shy of 6'0 and that's enough. The shortest guy I dated was a little taller than me, maybe 5'7. He was a very attractive guy, originally from Gujarat in India. (And no he didn't ask for bobs and vagene LOL). I don't understand why there isn't any love for shorter men. I love seeing couples where the woman is taller. A friend of mine is 5'11 and she has been single forever. She refuses to date anyone shorter than her. She's missing out imo. But then again, she reckons tall guys don't want tall women and only go for shorties. I can kind of see her point....

It is a real shit time for dating right now I imagine. I've seen some interesting stories about people connecting by video call and having dates like that lol. Not the same but it means you connect on an intellectual level rather than physical.
To the guys in here, don't give up. I never once gave up (I consider myself average in looks really), even when I was ghosted like three times in a row, or slept with a guy who had a girlfriend and I didn't know until afterwards (arseh*le). And the guy I'm with now, turned out he lived in Victoria lol. Long distance for two years 4 months now. Covid has meant we can't see each other anymore which sucks. But I wouldn't change anything to be honest.

Shit that was long .... TL : DR; don't give up lads, be yourself, fu** height elitism.
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I must be the odd one out.

Can you please tell your friend she is wrong. I am 6'4, and prefer taller women. Though am not against shorter women. My ex was only 5'5. I don't proclaim to talk for all tall men, but I know I, and am certain there are others who prefer taller women.

There are far important things to worry about i.e. crows supporter, non smoker etc.
 
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