Family & Relationships Turn-offs

[Nibbler_]

Yeah, nah. You must think you're the only guy out there who ever "tells them all the time how much you love them, buy her gifts, take her places and be affectionate." You must be rather naive to hold the view you do.

Why would a woman be clingy to a guy that doesn't do these things for her, other than being desperate?

Your experience is just that: yours alone. It's not the standard; as one woman isn't the same as the next. If you think there's a one size fits all solution to every woman, you likely haven't dated enough women to come across and experience how clingy some women can be.

True I guess tesseract.


In the meantime, I've thought of a good anti-cling method.

why would a girl be clingy to a guy that already showers her with lovey dovey love all the time? She'd start to get sick of it happening aaall the tiiime. And she'd want to get some space too. After that phase (once you're settled), let her know you'll be there for her, and proceed to turn down the romance a bit.

I've seen clingy women everywhere, wanting to hang with their bf's 24/7. If the bf takes up a little too much of her space for a bit, she'll back off a little. For those that are just
Too clingy and don't mind her bf "being" clingy, I suggest you end that. She's way too reliant on you.

 

[tesseract]

True I guess tesseract.


In the meantime, I've thought of a good anti-cling method.

why would a girl be clingy to a guy that already showers her with lovey dovey love all the time? She'd start to get sick of it happening aaall the tiiime. And she'd want to get some space too. After that phase (once you're settled), let her know you'll be there for her, and proceed to turn down the romance a bit.

I've seen clingy women everywhere, wanting to hang with their bf's 24/7. If the bf takes up a little too much of her space for a bit, she'll back off a little. For those that are just
Too clingy and don't mind her bf "being" clingy, I suggest you end that. She's way too reliant on you.

Women like the lovey-dovey stuff, but they also expect their man to act as a man. Men aren't as lovey-dovey as women; so if the man takes the lovey-dovey stuff too far, it becomes evident that it's an unsustainable put-on as an act of desperation. Guys have to play it cool, but not to the point where they don't make any effort in regards to the lovey-dovey stuff either. It's a balancing act. Experience teaches how to manage that balance.

I'm married now, but in my experience since marriage: the turning down of the romance aspect of the relationship isn't a great idea. Things do settle down into seeming normalcy after the initial getting to know / lust phase, but my wife, and I'm sure many women, crave for the romance aspect. It reinforces to them that they're not only loved, but their husband / BF remains in-love with them.

The bible even has something to say on this matter. In Genesis 3:6, God is speaking to the first woman Eve, where He states: "...Your desire will be for your husband..." In other translations, it also uses the word "long/ing" instead of "desire."
So, it's woman's nature, to a degree, to cling to her man. A problem, IMO, arises when that clinging goes too far, to the point of being extremely needy and pathetically desperate.

 

[FootyJunkie]

attractive girls who suddenly decide to cut their long hair and look lesbian... think hayden panettiere in Scream 4

also, the tramp stamp, or tattoos in general

 

[Kcrack]

I can't stress this enough. And one's that don't let you catch up with mates etc.

I always die a little inside when I ask a mate if he wants to catch up and he replies, "my missus won't let me". Seriously..

 

[ThePuppetMaster]

I always die a little inside when I ask a mate if he wants to catch up and he replies, "my missus won't let me". Seriously..

This.

One of my best mates had virtually disappeared into a relationship.

He never realized how close he was to losing his friends.

Luckily that's pretty much over.