Society & Culture Turning 27

[fairdinkum]

The main problem with hitting your late 20s being single, it probably is good advice for people reading this, is that its not so much your looks or status that are the problem its opportunity. The majority of my friends are now in settled relationships or working FIFO so there are little chance to go out and socialise. Its not like when you were 18 and picking up was the norm. Very hard to find a single girls these days. I honestly cant remember the last time I bumped into one.

Sounds like you aren't that fussed about not meeting women and if so, don't let me convince you to change your mind. If anything I envy you. I think it was Alain de Botton who recently mused that if it weren't for our desire for sex, we'd be much more productive and, likely, much happier people. I think there's something in that.

That said, if you ever do want to meet women, there are places you can go. My first recommendation is to look up casual dance classes in your area. There are sometimes free ones but also paid ones (still cheap, like $10/lesson or something). Women everywhere, and most people at beginners' classes don't know how to dance, so don't be afraid if you don't either. I think the one I went to was salsa dancing or something but I can't remember. They are often held in the function rooms of pubs and this allows for a perfect segve into a casual drink at the bar.

I was pretty ticked off when my timetable this semester had a clash with the uni dance club. Again. If it happens once more next semester I'm just going to drop that course. Not putting up with that shit three semesters in a row.

 

[DESTRUCTOR]

Become an alcoholic, get kicked out of home because you're a bum with nothing going for you and then blow your brains out infront of politician just to scar the bastard for the rest of their life.



Or you could win the lotto.

 

[fairdinkum]

This thread deserves more attention imo.

 

[crownie]

The main problem with hitting your late 20s being single, it probably is good advice for people reading this, is that its not so much your looks or status that are the problem its opportunity. The majority of my friends are now in settled relationships or working FIFO so there are little chance to go out and socialise. Its not like when you were 18 and picking up was the norm. Very hard to find a single girls these days. I honestly cant remember the last time I bumped into one.

you are not looking hard enough. no problems finding single girls when i go out.

 

[CLUBMEDhurst]

I got this idea from another thread. What do you think is important to have achieved by the age of 27?
I'm turning 27 in a few months but I really don't feel like I've done alot in life compared with some people.

In general, I have found that since I was 27 or 28, each year has got better. By the time you get that age, you are fairly self aware and knowing of the strengths and weakness' of your own personality. As a result you make better decisions and avoid the **** ups that tend to happen when you are in your late teens/early 20's.
I've always tended to approach the aging process as a positive one. Apart from hangovers which suck a lot harder the older you get.

This has been my experience. I always consider the years between 27 and mid-30's as the best years of my life for similar reasons as Gough. I was kinda lucky, having done most of my "****ing up" in my teens and early 20's. At 27 I was newly single, commencing tertiary study in a foreign country, fit and healthy, life was sweet.

 

[jethro11]

I'm turning 27 in a few months, and I'm pretty happy with where I am right now.

Good qualifications
Decent and fulfilling job that can take me places.
About to move to London working bits at the Guardian.
Also part-owning a house in inner-city Melbourne which I can fall back on.

I'm pretty happy with life.

 

[alter_ego]

imo more interesting than the "what you should do as a teenager" topic. I think a lot of the decisions you make late teens early 20's pretty much set the direction of your life. By the time your 27, that direction should be pretty well set. In my high-school friendship group (if you like) got a bunch of people who have all made fairly different life decisions (if you like), be interesting to see how it all plays out by the time we're 27...

So I have 5 years. Roughly in order

- Finish uni (less than one year)
- Travel (Done 6 months in Europe, planning similar trip to US)
- Get full-time work (Not even close at the moment)
- Move out
- Marriage and a kid towards the end of that time-span (If given a choice between being 37 and your kid is 10 vs being say 42 and your kid is 10, take being 37)

 

[SwampCreature]

Some great advice from fairdinkum in this thread.

 

[benchwarmer5]

I dunno how you guys get the energy

 

[BEEG]

Slay heaps of bitches

 

[brooklyn]

quit your job
6 month drug bender in south america
slayed all manner of exotic babes
sailed through the caribbean
lived in new york
bought a cafe racer

 

[brooklyn]

The main problem with hitting your late 20s being single, it probably is good advice for people reading this, is that its not so much your looks or status that are the problem its opportunity. The majority of my friends are now in settled relationships or working FIFO so there are little chance to go out and socialise. Its not like when you were 18 and picking up was the norm. Very hard to find a single girls these days. I honestly cant remember the last time I bumped into one.

the best part about being a male and 27 is that 18-22 year old girls are still perfectly ok, and they're definitely up for it.

**** 26yr old girls, get one in her prime...

 

[CoZi36]

I'm 24 in August and I've been concerned about my life direction lately too (I'm a female by the way).
* Brought a second hand car outright Oct '11
* I've been working part-time at Dan Murphy's since Oct '08
* Graduated from Uni in Jul '10 with a Bachelor of Business (Sport Management), minor: Employment Relations degree
* Found it hard gaining employment in those areas, living in Brisbane
* At the end of my first semester completing a Master of Nursing Studies degree (degree is two years), finding the course a bit difficult and not liking the course organisation. Half the course has dropped out during the semester too, down from just over 60 enrolments to 33
* Not knowing what to do now, continue with the annoying course structure (which has limited my hours at work due to heavy contact hours and ability to gain $) or attempt to find a business job

 

[brooklyn]

^^ women have it surprisingly easy in business imo. several friends have prime jobs at major international companies as personal assistants (or similar roles). if you work hard or at least look like you're working hard and learning the ropes, companies will often put you in to pitch hit for people who may be on leave etc, then bang, you have your own role without even having finished a degree. equal opportunity laws safe guard your new position, and give you a better than equal chance of promotion.

pretty girls = free rides

 

[Brad Goodman]

Plus if you have a baby your employer has to hold your job for you or invent a new one when you come back.

 

[J_Moore]

^^ women have it surprisingly easy in business imo. several friends have prime jobs at major international companies as personal assistants (or similar roles). if you work hard or at least look like you're working hard and learning the ropes, companies will often put you in to pitch hit for people who may be on leave etc, then bang, you have your own role without even having finished a degree. equal opportunity laws safe guard your new position, and give you a better than equal chance of promotion.

pretty girls = free rides

Yeah, that's borne out in the statistics.

 

[brooklyn]

statistics dont show that most girls dont actually want to work in business...

 

[Scallop Industry Thug]

Turning 29 this year, and anyone who wants a kid at 27 is not right in the head.

Got a good job, financially secure, plenty of spare time.

Why anyone would want to compromise that with kids is beyond my ability to understand.

 

[Poetic Justice]

Perhaps they're maternal/paternal and see the value in it?

 

[Scallop Industry Thug]

Perhaps they're maternal/paternal and see the value in it?

Other than the perpetuation of the species, I see no value in it.

Im just glad other poor saps will do it so I wont have to.

 

[Poetic Justice]

Fair enough that you don't see it as important or a necessity, but to suggest people are not right in the head for sharing a different view to yours is a little off.

 

[sabre_ac]

27 is/was a great year and every year since seems to be getting better (Currently 29)

No property to speak of but pretty much all other boxes checked

1. Degree and further studies completed
2. Travelled extensively (South America/Europe/Asia)
3. Multiple groups of friends (High school, work etc)
4. Confidence with the ladies (Allot more than I ever had at 18 or 21)
5. Long term gf (Admitedly that kickd in at 28)
6. Great relationship with the parents and finally getting along with the sibling.

I'm actually kind of looking forward to my 30's..weird.

 

[sabre_ac]

The main problem with hitting your late 20s being single, it probably is good advice for people reading this, is that its not so much your looks or status that are the problem its opportunity. The majority of my friends are now in settled relationships or working FIFO so there are little chance to go out and socialise. Its not like when you were 18 and picking up was the norm. Very hard to find a single girls these days. I honestly cant remember the last time I bumped into one.

Can't agree with that, even in Perth (Nortorious dude ranch), plenty of bars with chicks in their mid 20s + looking for whatever takes your fancy. If drinking isn't your scene check out salsa dancing or mixed sporting teams.

Late 20's guys are hitting their peak with coin behind them and enough runs on the board with the ladies to know what their doing.

 

[The Passenger]

regarding the talk earlier about single chicks, in my work there are 7 girls, 6 between 23-27, the other the managing director who'd be mid 40's... 4 are married (MD being one of them), 1 is in a relation of unknown time to me but they do live together, 1 is in a relationship serious enough that she is following him back overseas in a couple of weeks, and the other is in a pretty serious relationship with one of the guys in the office....

small sample size i know....

 

[Miqar_Baqfhied]

Can't agree with that, even in Perth (Nortorious dude ranch), plenty of bars with chicks in their mid 20s + looking for whatever takes your fancy. If drinking isn't your scene check out salsa dancing or mixed sporting teams.

Late 20's guys are hitting their peak with coin behind them and enough runs on the board with the ladies to know what their doing.

At 27 I had finished uni, finished post grad, was working full-time, bought a brand new car, living by myself and just got out of a long term relationship, and was getting to ready to buy a house. Had travelled to Japan, USA and Hongkers and Canada.

27 your mind should be career orientated. Family orientated stuff can happen from 30s for the rest of your life.

If your married and expecting children I really feel sorry for you. Thats crazy. Each to their own but - relgieon, family values play a big part I guess....But the stats show that if you get married in your 20's.....

My advice if your single in your 20's. Get slaying. Slaying brings confidence in all aspects of your life. In your job, socialising, on the sporting field. Everything. Forget wasting your time cracking on to birds in noisy bars and clubs. This time could be spent slaying. How you ask? Online dating. EVERYONE is doing it, and from experience it is the best thing since sliced bread. I have slayed many a pretty women Ive met online. Make sure you got a good profile, decent pics, decent ability to make conversation and away you go. Have had some awesome dates, met great chics, and its great for your confidence going on dates - you work out what chics like and dont like, what works and what doesnt. And saying this, youll be able to meet chics outside of online dating much easier.

Dont know why online dating has this bad wrap. Sure there are dodgy bastards and mingers, but if you choose the right site and no what to do you can easily avoid them. And yes there are absolute babes on there.

All my mates that are single are on it - every day and every night slaying away. If your single and not doing it your crazy.

I met my GF online. We live together now and buying a hosue together. And the back of my mind I know that if anything goes pear shaped Ill just jump straight back online to pick up roots.

Rant over.