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My brother was smacked once by my dad, it did absolutely nothing. Being grounded, however...that was hell :cry:

My mum was raised in an exceptionally abusive household so she never smacked and is completely anti-. She used time outs, groundings, and reasoning to keep us in line.
 

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Not a parent disclaimer, but if we want to teach kids that violence is not the answer, hitting them isn't really the best way to demonstrate this.
Also not a parent disclaimer...the other day I saw my cousin smacking her five year old on the arse saying "We DON'T HIT other people!"
 

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My brother was smacked once by my dad, it did absolutely nothing. Being grounded, however...that was hell :cry:

My mum was raised in an exceptionally abusive household so she never smacked and is completely anti-. She used time outs, groundings, and reasoning to keep us in line.
We were never hit my old man just didn't talk to you if you really f***ed up, and my mum, and I would have dragged out screaming matches when we wanted to lay into each other though, all of us have mellowed considerably with age though.
 

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We were never hit my old man just didn't talk to you if you really f***ed up, and my mum, and I would have dragged out screaming matches when we wanted to lay into each other though, all of us have mellowed considerably with age though.
When I was 15 I ****** up majorly. My parents had been separated for 3 years by then, but my mum took me over to my dad's house for a 'family meeting'. He gave me the "I'm not angry, just very disappointed" speech and it broke my heart. Never ****** up again.
 

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When I was 15 I stuffed up majorly. My parents had been separated for 3 years by then, but my mum took me over to my dad's house for a 'family meeting'. He gave me the "I'm not angry, just very disappointed" speech and it broke my heart. Never stuffed up again.
In a way I'm glad my folks pretended that they still had reasons for staying married while I was in my teens, it was a rough enough time as it was, without adding that to the mix.
 

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I've always been pretty torn on the whole smacking vs not smacking debate - on one hand I was beaten regularly and quite severely as a child and I would hate for any of my children to grow up in the state of fear that I and my siblings did; but on the other hand, I think it should be recognized that there is a massive difference between what my father did (which was straight up child abuse) and smacking, which my mother was guilty of from time to time. A lot of people seem to conflate the two, which I disagree with.

I guess the difference for me is - I was scared of my father as a child and as an adult I think he is/was a campaigner; I was never scared of my mother and have always viewed her as the most loving, caring person in my life, despite the fact that she smacked me on occasions.

So I would say that I am pro smacking (well, not pro - but I can understand it) and very much anti abuse.
 

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A few times my mum smacked me when I was young but being a absolute campaigner of a child. I deserved it no questions asked. I barely remember them though. Sometimes kids deserve a little smack, but no need to go OTT or hit them.
 

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My mum stopped hitting me when I was about 7 because it started hurting her more than me :D

My dad said to me once "If I hit you, you won't sit down for a week", he never did.

I was a pretty good kid for the most part.
 

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My family had a lot of issues out of their control to deal with growing up. Again, I was never abused, but mum and dad had a very short temper for a long time as life kept ******* them up the arse with bullshit that none of my mates families had to go through.
 

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At training these days it is so difficult to talk footy to people just for footy sake. Everything revolves around gambling, multis, dream team, supercoach... honestly, at half time during games when I get my phone out to check AFL scores and people would rather know what the fantasy scores are for each player instead of who is winning, it spoils it. Unless the winning margin is relevant to the multi of course, and when people don't want their team to kick more goals because it will ruin their bets... like, **** right off.

Definitely a big reason why I love coming to bigfooty and just being able to talk football.
What scores - barely any games are run concurrently these days.
 

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When I was 15 I stuffed up majorly. My parents had been separated for 3 years by then, but my mum took me over to my dad's house for a 'family meeting'. He gave me the "I'm not angry, just very disappointed" speech and it broke my heart. Never stuffed up again.
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Just about through the 'terrible twos' with my oldest. Haven't hit him yet and don't plan on it. I actually did a little course on it. Basically kids brains can't see the upside of anything when its not going theur way. They aren't developed enough to think 'ok, that didn't work. Maybe I should try this'.

They need to have outbursts and get it out. Almost exactly the same psychologically as road rage. I learned channeling that frustration into something else helps. My boy has an inflatable crocodile that he'll just smack down.
 

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Unfortunately, parenting requires the parent to come up with the solution, rather than the child.

Poppycock.

I used my problem solving abilities to develop a solution. Don't be a campaigner. I was well behaved thereafter.

**** being part of one of those sitcom families where parents sit you down and talk through things.

When it comes down to it everybody was raised differently but I look back at a childhood of physical discipline and can say I have suffered no ill effects from it.
 

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Love all these people in here commenting on how you should behave/discipline your children when you're not parents yourself. You don't know what it's actually like to be a parent, you wouldn't have a clue how you react on disrupted sleep and when you're up to your elbows in sh*t on a daily basis.


I don't have kids either, just thought I'd play the role of the you don't know what it's like to be a parent person. Carry on.
 

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I reckon edgie is somewhat right. Parents don't need to solve all kids problems. They won't learn to be resilient that way.

Hard to make general comments though because there are always different circumstances.
 

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I was rarely smacked as a kid but have seen it happen.

Smacking should only happen if the kid/s pushing the buttons and have gone over the limit.

That said, it should never be done willy nilly and used as a way of venting.
 
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Poppycock.

I used my problem solving abilities to develop a solution. Don't be a campaigner. I was well behaved thereafter.

**** being part of one of those sitcom families where parents sit you down and talk through things.

When it comes down to it everybody was raised differently but I look back at a childhood of physical discipline and can say I have suffered no ill effects from it.
And I can say I have.

And so have many others.

You don't know how the effect will leave on your child. Don't assume that just because it never affected you, your child will be the same.

Now obviously it's not 100% it will leave a bad mark, but not sure why you would want to roll that dice purely because you are too lazy to do anything else.
 
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