Why can’t I get a girlfriend?

[Exe Gesis]

No, we don't have wet dreams either...

I have news for you, sister

 

[CazC30]

I have news for you, sister

Pray, do tell...?

 

[Exe Gesis]

Pray, do tell...?

I wouldn't exist if it weren't true. Go talk to your peers, you'll see they do. Maybe you just dream of shoes.

 

[the_interloper]

No, we don't have wet dreams either...

Being honest reading most things not even wet (sorry).

 

[perthblue]

it is a mystery to me OP, all that talk of Sigmund Freud and 7th grade SAT scores had me burning at the thighs, had to sneak off the carpark and rub one out into a bin. Sadly, not the first time that has happened.

 

[TMFKAV]

it is a mystery to me OP, all that talk of Sigmund Freud and 7th grade SAT scores had me burning at the thighs, had to sneak off the carpark and rub one out into a bin. Sadly, not the first time that has happened.

Ummm, OK

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[por_please_ya]

In 7th grade, I took an SAT test without preparing for it at all, it was spur-of-the-moment, I knew about it about an hour ahead of time and didn't do any research or anything. I scored higher on it than the average person using it to apply for college in my area.

An IQ test has shown me to be in the 99.9th percentile for IQ. This is the highest result the test I was given reaches; anything further and they'd consider it to be within the margin of error for that test.

My mother's boyfriend of 8 years is an aerospace engineer who graduated Virginia Tech. At the age of 15, I understand physics better than him, and I owe very little of it to him, as he would rarely give me a decent explanation of anything, just tell me that my ideas were wrong and become aggravated with me for not quite understanding thermodynamics. He's not particularly successful as an engineer, but I've met lots of other engineers who aren't as good as me at physics, so I'm guessing that's not just a result of him being bad at it.

I'm also pretty good at engineering. I don't have a degree, and other than physics (my chosen major at this intellectually deplorable school) I don't have a better understanding of any aspect of engineering than any actual engineer, but I have lots of ingenuity for inventing new things. For example, I independently invented regenerative brakes before finding out what they were, and I was only seven or eight years old when I started inventing wireless electricity solutions (my first idea being to use a powerful infrared laser to transmit energy; admittedly not the best plan).

I have independently thought of basically every branch of philosophy I've come across. Every question of existentialism which I've seen discussed on Reddit or anywhere else, the thoughts haven't been new to me. Philosophy has pretty much gotten trivial for me; I've considered taking a philosophy course just to see how easy it is.

Psychology, I actually understand better than people with degrees. Unlike engineering, there's no aspect of psychology which I don't have a very good understanding of. I can debunk many of even Sigmund Freud's theories.

So why can't I get a girlfriend?

The reason probably is, and I quote Shania Twain:

I've known a few guys who thought they were pretty smart
But you've got being right down to an art
You think you're a genius—you drive me women up the wall
You're a regular original, a know-it-all

Oh-oo-oh, you think you're special
Oh-oo-oh, you think you're something else

Okay, so you're a rocket scientist
That don't impress me women much
So you got the brains, but have you got the touch?
Now, don't get me wrong—yeah, I they think you're alright
But that won't keep me them warm in the middle of the night
That don't impress me women much

 

[CazC30]

I wouldn't exist if it weren't true. Go talk to your peers, you'll see they do. Maybe you just dream of shoes.

Erm... WE do get aroused when asleep but not in the same way... I don't know how to explain it without getting banned.

 

[Papa Juggs]

What a weird thread. Did OP ever get exposed?

 

[CazC30]

What a weird thread. Did OP ever get exposed?

You seriously think I or anyone here read all the way through that s**t.... You are joking I almost died of boredom during the first paragraph. The general ethos is don't be a twat and talk to women more without sounding like a dickless wonder! Ends!!!

 

[PoppedCorn]

I'm not sure where this puts us in the order of things but....
I have about 16 pairs of sneakers
Mrs has about 18 pairs

 

[Carlton_Blues]

Never forget, women want men but don't 'need' one. Men need and want a women... !

I’m sure that logic doesn’t apply to all men.

Some men need and want men.

 

[CazC30]

I’m sure that logic doesn’t apply to all men.

Some men need and want men.

The same ethos sticks whether you are gay or straight 'don't be a twat and talk more'.

 

[CazC30]

I'm not sure where this puts us in the order of things but....
I have about 16 pairs of sneakers
Mrs has about 18 pairs

Both been on a few walking holidays?

Are you Woogie from 'Something about Mary'

 

[JoondalupJ]

In 7th grade, I took an SAT test without preparing for it at all, it was spur-of-the-moment, I knew about it about an hour ahead of time and didn't do any research or anything. I scored higher on it than the average person using it to apply for college in my area.

An IQ test has shown me to be in the 99.9th percentile for IQ. This is the highest result the test I was given reaches; anything further and they'd consider it to be within the margin of error for that test.

My mother's boyfriend of 8 years is an aerospace engineer who graduated Virginia Tech. At the age of 15, I understand physics better than him, and I owe very little of it to him, as he would rarely give me a decent explanation of anything, just tell me that my ideas were wrong and become aggravated with me for not quite understanding thermodynamics. He's not particularly successful as an engineer, but I've met lots of other engineers who aren't as good as me at physics, so I'm guessing that's not just a result of him being bad at it.

I'm also pretty good at engineering. I don't have a degree, and other than physics (my chosen major at this intellectually deplorable school) I don't have a better understanding of any aspect of engineering than any actual engineer, but I have lots of ingenuity for inventing new things. For example, I independently invented regenerative brakes before finding out what they were, and I was only seven or eight years old when I started inventing wireless electricity solutions (my first idea being to use a powerful infrared laser to transmit energy; admittedly not the best plan).

I have independently thought of basically every branch of philosophy I've come across. Every question of existentialism which I've seen discussed on Reddit or anywhere else, the thoughts haven't been new to me. Philosophy has pretty much gotten trivial for me; I've considered taking a philosophy course just to see how easy it is.

Psychology, I actually understand better than people with degrees. Unlike engineering, there's no aspect of psychology which I don't have a very good understanding of. I can debunk many of even Sigmund Freud's theories.

So why can't I get a girlfriend?

You ever had a look in the Mirror. heh heh !

 

[DaRick]

Could be a question of:
- Demographics in your local area (if single men far outnumber single women then you will have a hard time)
- Compatibility (or lack thereof) with the women who are in close proximity

It isn't always your fault.

 

[CazC30]

You ever had a look in the Mirror. heh heh !

The one that hasn't broken or talks back?

 

[Procrastinator35]

I don't think about shoes ever.

I do when I'm buying them, or when they hurt my feet.

But shoe fetishes appear to be a feminine thing for the most part....Other than them basketball freaks.

 

[CazC30]

I do when I'm buying them, or when they hurt my feet.

But shoe fetishes appear to be a feminine thing for the most part....Other than them basketball freaks.

I wouldn't use the term 'fetish' just a bit odd saying that. We buy clothes to match and to mix and match so buying more of the same thing to match different outfits is so very normal. To the average male the same pair of trainers would go with anything and so it goes with shoes, how does the metroxsual male see this? We see that certain shoes don't go with certain trousers or skirts and shoes don't go when sandals would be better. Boots go with shorter skirts and those shoes won't go with tights but will go with jeans... It's a mad world. I admit it but happily live it, just.

 

[Procrastinator35]

I wouldn't use the term 'fetish' just a bit odd saying that. We buy clothes to match and to mix and match so buying more of the same thing to match different outfits is so very normal. To the average male the same pair of trainers would go with anything and so it goes with shoes, how does the metroxsual male see this? We see that certain shoes don't go with certain trousers or skirts and shoes don't go when sandals would be better. Boots go with shorter skirts and those shoes won't go with tights but will go with jeans... It's a mad world. I admit it but happily live it, just.

It's not just the size & range of women's shoes collections though, it's the cost of the things.....astronomical.

And when I say 'fetish' I'm talking Imelda Marcos kind of territory here, which is not as unusual or as rare as you might imagine.



And don't get me started on hand-bags either.....1 hand-bag per person should really suffice in my books.....I mean, I've only got one wallet, because that's all I need, for crying out loud.

 

[CazC30]

It's not just the size & range of women's shoes collections though, it's the cost of the things.....astronomical.

And when I say 'fetish' I'm talking Imelda Marcos kind of territory here, which is not as unusual or as rare as you might imagine.



And don't get me started on hand-bags either.....1 hand-bag per person should really suffice in my books.....I mean, I've only got one wallet, because that's all I need, for crying out loud.

Let's just say Imelda Marcos was a proper dick and took the piss!

Cost? You just shop around and look for bargains... Being honest I do think my husband has more shoes than me.

 

[PoppedCorn]

Both been on a few walking holidays?

Are you Woogie from 'Something about Mary'

No

No

 

[tigertigertiger]

most common reason for single men is small wang

 

[Run n Spread]

While the philosophy and all the high IQ is great that is only one perspective.

Now obviously the most obvious reason is women simply aren't attracted to you for whatever reason. If they were you'd have a GF

If that can be easily fixed (hit the gym, bit shy, work too much don't socialise, even as simple as a dodgy personality trait that manifests itself too easily etc) then it is simply a matter of working out what you enjoy doing that and coming out of your shell. Also if you can get a in demand high paying job with your skills that can help. All this will develop you as a person and you'll hopefully evolve.

Now if it is something not easily fixed (your not physically attractive, are shy, unemployed, have mental health issues, are disabled) then you might have to accept the fact that it will be difficult for you. In that case you may have to just focus on the physical and get a friend with benefits (or a couple <of friends I mean>), pay for it if desperate or if you are gregarious become a pick up artist. Or do some travelling, start a new course or hobby, just focus on being independent and living life on your terms and been as positive as possible. Hopefully this attracts people to you and you can go from there.

You seem young so you have oodles of time. Just accept in the short term it will likely be a struggle and build the life you want on your terms. Then if it is still a problem at 30 say you will have more options.

 

[CazC30]

most common reason for single men is small wang

Or, they can't communicate effectively.