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There's an old proverb that goes something like.... the gods punish us by granting our wishes, or by blessing us. Something like that.
Soooo GG.exe , how tiny is it? You’re amongst friends here.
Your jealousy is evidentWell yea I did piss my pants reading your posts
Women are pretty harsh on stuff that attracts a social stigma. If you're between jobs in your late 20s or 30s then a high percentage of women will rule a line through your name. I've seen it personally and with others. Even if it's only a short-term thing and your life is completely on track it's a big red flag.
Who would want to date up or down anyway? It's been shown this can cause unhappy relationships, the partner dating down holds most of the power, they're less likely to get as invested as there are greener pastures available for them, and they often can start to resent their partner once they realise they can do better. The partner dating up can become insecure, and get too invested as they realise they will never be able to do better. This happens a lot in long term couples, when one partner improves themselves (looks, jobs, health, personality) the other is supportive at the start, however when they see the writing on the wall that they are now 'beneath' their partner on the dating market, they start to become insecure and resentful, rather than improving themselves.
I moved out a week before I turned 18 and moved back in at 23. It’s been a year or so and I’m still there but it was a cross roads thing: degree done, lease up, job quit, ticket to Italy booked. I came back and saved back up and got to hang out with the olds. I’ve dropped almost 10 kilos, gotten healthy, quit a heap of diary and sugar and carbs, and now have 20 dishes I could cook for a chick and be confident she’ll like it. Not the coolest thing ever and when people ask my go I say ‘yeah, got a degree in Melbourne, did some travel, now I’m living back at home at 24... impressive right?’ and make a joke out of it.I don't regret moving out at 18. Even if you end up moving back in with them (which I did for about 6 months at 20) it doesn't feel the same. Being there the whole time until you're 30 like this Cashie guy? Eh... maybe he's saved a lot but possibly at a big social cost. There could be things in your 20s you can't do later. That's probably exaggerated by people but it's not completely false either. Given how much home ownership costs now is it really that much of an edge? Besides he sounds like an only child who'll get the house when they die anyway.
The way I think of it is, some chicks might be 35 and latch on because you’ve got money or whatever but who wants that? Would you rather be this dull Snapchat flog or Orlando Bloom who got Miranda Kerr? You know?
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I think a lot of people overthink this s**t, and not just dating, but everything.
But if someone has something (and it can be anything) go wrong in life thinking about it is only natural and in most cases healthy.
I'd say for men it's more 'Yeah, I can travel now, but then I've got to also hope that time / money spent doesn't come back to bite me later'. As (generalisation alert) women can do the travel thing, come back and be less financially secure at (say 30) and it's not going to be very detrimental to the 'level' of guys they can hook up with, all else being equal (comparative levels of looks, intelligence, personality).Very true.
But good on Cashie. Probably not the approach I'd go for but each to their own.
The trap us men can fall into is yeah: Should have travel by now, job by then, family by then etc but you are still playing to someone elses tune. (As in what might a future woman who you may never meet think).
This is very true. I've done plenty of travelling and I'm at an age where I'm very weary of spending any significant amounts on travelling again as I don't want to hit my late twenties having no financial security behind me, other than my job. I've met a girl recently who also is a keen traveller, so unsure of what sort of lifestyle path 'we' might take from here.I'd say for men it's more 'Yeah, I can travel now, but then I've got to also hope that time / money spent doesn't come back to bite me later'. As (generalisation alert) women can do the travel thing, come back and be less financially secure at (say 30) and it's not going to be very detrimental to the 'level' of guys they can hook up with, all else being equal (comparative levels of looks, intelligence, personality).
I'd say for men it's more 'Yeah, I can travel now, but then I've got to also hope that time / money spent doesn't come back to bite me later'. As (generalisation alert) women can do the travel thing, come back and be less financially secure at (say 30) and it's not going to be very detrimental to the 'level' of guys they can hook up with, all else being equal (comparative levels of looks, intelligence, personality).
Guys do that and put themselves year / year(s) behind guys who didn't do that, find themselves rated much lower then guys who are otherwise on a similar level (looks, intelligence, personality). I'm not talking traveler versus 30 year old living in the parents basement, just guy who traveled for some time, maybe instead of uni or a trade, versus a similar guy who went 'study first, travel can be once financially secure when older'. In this case I'd say it's definitely more women who can 'have everything', with it harder for guys to win whilst young AND older.
It's ironic, that after men have been blasted for so long, for being shallow for picking women based on looks, that now women are financially independent, so many men are crossed off from consideration based on their wallets, despite everything else about them. I'd say the sexes aren't really that different, just now women have the ability to show they are as shallow as men without it leaving them struggling to survive.
Plenty of them, but most would be from the woman initiating break ups. Women initiate around 70% of divorces. It's not surprising those who were willing to stay / make things work and pushed aside aren't happy. You're right on guys compromise / change. Men don't try and 'fix up' women anywhere near to the opposite degree.As younger guys most of us compromise in relationships and are easily changed into the image the woman wants us to be.
How many angry , resentful guys do you meet in their 30s and 40s who have been in a long relationship or just come out of one
Plenty of them, but most would be from the woman initiating break ups. Women initiate around 70% of divorces. It's not surprising those who were willing to stay / make things work and pushed aside aren't happy. You're right on guys compromise / change. Men don't try and 'fix up' women anywhere near to the opposite degree.
As you say it shouldn’t matter a great deal the financial prospects in this country, as even unskilled people can earn a good living and enjoy life.
Stick to it CashieReading back the general consensus paints me as a tight arse. $12 on Beef teriyaki udon and it’s really bugging me. Throw in some Maltesers on special and Smiths originals and it’s $16 something.
Last few pages seriously read like a men’s “can’t get laid” self help group.
A majority of the time it's just not the case though. Good luck to them if so, but more likely it's a woman settling because she can't secure a higher quality male.Why don't we give some credit and just think, hey they actually have feelings for each other and might be in love.