Family & Relationships worst breakups

[Power King]

Interesting (albeit disturbing at times) thread.

Have a similar story Shell. I have always had the odd lady friend, just friends.

She has always used me as a bit of a crutch. Disappeared but came back when she needed someone to help her out or prop her up. She would be very flirtatious with me and I really did have the hots for her for years. I just started noticing how when I tried to get my life together, she would step up her flirtatious ways, and I would come running thinking something might happen. Something did happen once but alcohol was involved and it was clear it was swept under the carpet quickly. I stopped calling her, she stopped calling me, then some unattainable guy broke it off with her, she would fall to pieces and need me to rush over again and console her. The last dealings I had with her, she asked me to borrow money, but I was now engaged and that is a no-no, and asked me to put a word in for to keep some job. I sent her a message inviting her to my wedding a little while later, got no response and haven't heard from her for about 18 months.

It really was such a one way friendship for the best part of 18 years.

I agree though that friendship breakups can be just as difficult as relationship breakups and unrequited love is the pits.

She put you in the friends zone and was using you / playing mind games with you. Stereotypical.

My first serious relationship is currently married to my brother.

Funnily, I didn't get an invite to the wedding- who'da thunk?

It is beyond my comprehension how people can so easily go out with their best mate or relative's ex. Bloody hell. The power of the pussy for whipped blokes I suppose (and penis for females).

I'm sorry to hear that story. She was taking advantage of you and your feelings, which is not on.

And yeah friendships ending are difficult. I am 100% happy with my bf, and adding someone on your FB is hardly getting back in touch with the person (seriously, do you actually TALK to old high school mates, etc etc on FB- I know I dont, just read their posts and look at their photos, lol)... but yeah somethings just holding me back.

I do miss the friendship tho. We used to work together like when we were younger at a part time job. Were fun times.. but you just cant go back can you??

Old Navy's wrote a good explanation, but really, if you're not going to talk to them, then you're only in it to snoop around their photos and latest occurrences in life. This really is where the 'move on' concept kicks in, as hard as it may be for some people.

Kind of sucks for her friend, she didn't do anything to you and you ruined her best friendship.

Her friend knowingly slept with a dude immediately after her best friend and him broke up. It blew up in her face. No pity for her.

I would break it off with a psycho I was going out with about once every couple of weeks. She'd scream, cry, follow me across town, threaten to kill herself and do just about anything else she could until I'd take her back.

In the end I moved cities. She phoned my friends and family at all hours of the night and day for a year afterward alternatively crying or threatening to kill them or me. In the end most of them changed their phone numbers.

gee...

 

[Smoooothy]

It was hawkeye23 (she doesn't post here anymore) and she was complaining about something i said to bombers2003.

That's right, i posted some disgusting messages he sent me (they were really dirty) and we were all having a laugh over them so she reported me, claiming "i'm not one to report people but posting pm's is against the rules... surely"

I just liked the fact that i got hold of the report post because it shows what a corrupt place big footy is.

The moderator who passed it along to me shall remain nameless.

that was a golden age of the GD board... sigh

 

[kwame]

was with a girl that i lent money to for a bed frame coz she was sleeping on a matress on the floor of her flat. anyways relationship ended.......then started to avoid me when i asked about the money.....confronted her at her work and flinders st staion one day just happened to see her. never got the money......fu**ing ****.

 

[magic_johnson!]

was with a girl that i lent money to for a bed frame coz she was sleeping on a matress on the floor of her flat. anyways relationship ended.......then started to avoid me when i asked about the money.....confronted her at her work and flinders st staion one day just happened to see her. never got the money......fu**ing ****.

Cheapo. You gave her the money, don't expect that back. Gonna go chasing her up over the meals you baught her aswell?

 

[kwame]

Cheapo. You gave her the money, don't expect that back. Gonna go chasing her up over the meals you baught her aswell?

it was made clear at the time it was a loan, she knew it was and was very appreciative ............at the time

 

[r dub 19]

My first ever GF cheated on me, we were together for about 18 months. Towards the end it got pretty spiteful but she cheated on me. So to get her back i picked up her best friend. She had always had a crush on me, was a big **** and her dad got me my first job at his car yard. So i spent a bit of time with her and when things cooled off with my ex i picked her up at a club one night. Took her home, knobed her and moved on. She felt terrible (as they do) and told my ex, they now hate eachother, i got a better job and i am glad i got the bitch back! Hahaha! Happy times!!

You stay winning.

 

[magic_johnson!]

it was made clear at the time it was a loan, she knew it was and was very appreciative ............at the time

Oh ok that sounds better then

 

[nicky]

Oh ok that sounds better then

I was seeing a guy who was a knob hence we didn't get too serious. Anyway when i broke up with him he kept sending me spiteful messages etc, he was really horrible.

One thing i remember about him was i lent him money and i had to chase him to get it back. When he finally repayed me he with held $23 for socks that i borrowed from him and didn't return

 

[WALL-e]

How did he come to the figure of $23.00?

 

[nicky]

I don't know if it was

a. arbitrary
b. that's how much the socks cost
c. he was short $23 so used the socks as an excuse

This guy also creates female facebook accounts and leaves messages on his wall from them... Messages like
Girl one :"oh baby, come and pick us up we're here waiting for you.."
Girl two : "yes honey when are you coming, answer your phone"

etc

It's one of the funniest things i've seen on facebook

 

[Coledinho]

was with a girl that i lent money to for a bed frame coz she was sleeping on a matress on the floor of her flat. anyways relationship ended.......then started to avoid me when i asked about the money.....confronted her at her work and flinders st staion one day just happened to see her. never got the money......fu**ing ****.

You have been played by what I call a Hoestitute. Someone who doesnt want to literally become a prosititue so take up a more subtle form of the art in order to obtain money. Alot of the time it ends in marriage to a guy 2 inches from his deathbed normally by Asian women (not racist just true) but in cases of younger people like us it normally ends in a loan for a pretty small amount of cash in the grand scheme of things that you never see again.

TBH itd be easier if they just did 1 night only of prostitution but i guess being a hoestitute allows you to keep your dignity intact.

 

[moistie]

Why would you let go of a keeper like that. Seriously by year 2 in the relationship you could rest the beer on her head and use her back as a foot stool while watching the game.

She was also a violent, psychotic cow. I detest violence against women but I got close with her a number of times when she laid into me.

She was smoking hot but madder than a cut snake.

 

[Brad Goodman]

She was smoking hot but madder than a cut snake.

http://www.bigfooty.com/forum/showthread.php?t=235398

 

[Ricketts]

This guy also creates female facebook accounts and leaves messages on his wall from them... Messages like
Girl one :"oh baby, come and pick us up we're here waiting for you.."
Girl two : "yes honey when are you coming, answer your phone"

Actually not a bad idea.

Would try.

 

[Shell]

Damn it, I have one of those type of relationships atm, they suck. Add to the fact she has a long term boyfriend (who everyone thinks is a ****), it isn't easy. I don't want to **** up the friendship either, ah shit it sucks, did I say that already?

Aw, that sucks man. Hope it all works out in the end, somehow.

Thats what I went thru too, watched him go out with pretty much every female member of staff (may be exaggerating a bit there), except me.
And to make it 100 times worse, my friends and family PLUS even HIS mum wanted to know why we werent together. It was like aaargh **** off leave me alone!!!!

Again, good luck. Maybe put his face on Australias Most Wanted. Get him out of the picture for good.

 

[BACCS]

Aw, that sucks man. Hope it all works out in the end, somehow.

Thats what I went thru too, watched him go out with pretty much every female member of staff (may be exaggerating a bit there), except me.
And to make it 100 times worse, my friends and family PLUS even HIS mum wanted to know why we werent together. It was like aaargh **** off leave me alone!!!!

Again, good luck. Maybe put his face on Australias Most Wanted. Get him out of the picture for good.

Haha, I like that last suggestion. I also work with her (only during the Summer, we are lifeguards at an outdoor pool), so I see her quite a lot then. Also though, I'm fine just having her as a friend, because she is a great girl.

 

[MF]

This guy also creates female facebook accounts and leaves messages on his wall from them... Messages like
Girl one :"oh baby, come and pick us up we're here waiting for you.."
Girl two : "yes honey when are you coming, answer your phone"

etc

It's one of the funniest things i've seen on facebook

I'm de-friending you

 

[nicky]

I'm de-friending you

oops, i forgot you post here.

 

[moistie]

oops, i forgot you post here.

burn!

 

[Dont be a lemon]

My first love is now a lesbian. When she broke the news to me I was very happy - the thought of her with another man made me sick but the thought of her with a chick didn't. Probably helped that this was a couple of years after we broke up, but I don't think I got over her until that exact moment.

Sounds like you didn't really get over her. How would you feel if you found out she was straight again?

 

[kwame]

You have been played by what I call a Hoestitute. Someone who doesnt want to literally become a prosititue so take up a more subtle form of the art in order to obtain money. Alot of the time it ends in marriage to a guy 2 inches from his deathbed normally by Asian women (not racist just true) but in cases of younger people like us it normally ends in a loan for a pretty small amount of cash in the grand scheme of things that you never see again.

TBH itd be easier if they just did 1 night only of prostitution but i guess being a hoestitute allows you to keep your dignity intact.

worst part was i never banged her.....was only with her to piss off an ex gf coz this chick was a friend of hers. didnt want to have sex with her then dump her 5 mins after thought that would have been a bit harsh.....how wrong i was. a while after the ex gf asked me if i was only with her friend to make her mad as when i was with gf had told her that the friend was ugly and looked dykey

 

[Brad Goodman]

Sounds like you didn't really get over her. How would you feel if you found out she was straight again?

Now? I'd be OK, it's been 10 years since we broke up and 8 since she came out.

 

[nicky]

Had a bad / weird one last night.

This guy i was seeing (less than a month) popped in. I didn't anticipate how much the pop in would annoy me. I had work problems on my mind so was a bit quiet. He was paranoid that i was distant.

An episode of wilfred finished (was watching it on my computer) and he asked to go on the internet. So i went to bed. Then he started playing loud jazz music and skattiing (i am not joking).

I asked him to turn it down then he said that he was leaving because he felt unwelcome. I said "sorry i have alot on my mind atm and I really don't want to have an argument". Anyway he didn't leave and kept talking about the fact that since i had smoked a joint I had gone really quiet etc. I told him that I'm not going to bother appeasing him (like please stay) because it's a waste of everybodies time. Then he accused me of being "fiercely independant" - I was like "what's wrong with that"
He said that I need to learn to compromise. I was like 'I'VE KNOWN YOU FOR TWO WEEKS"
Then he said i was being high maintenance and he is not happy about it. (talk about projection)

The thing is, before this happened i really started to like him. But one of my pet dislikes is people who think the emotional world of people they know is somehow a result of them. I just wanted to chill out and think about things and instead he thought i was upset over him. Ironically, it did become about him because he was hassling.

 

[The Old Dark Navy's]

The thing is, before this happened i really started to like him. But one of my pet dislikes is people who think the emotional world of people they know is somehow a result of them. I just wanted to chill out and think about things and instead he thought i was upset over him. Ironically, it did become about him because he was hassling.

I know this one. I am a self starter and live inside my own head a fair bit. I need that time to my own thoughts and will be quiet frequently. My wife is absolutely paranoid that I am upset with her every time I am not bubbling over with energy, to the point she checks every 5 minutes and stressing over it. That in itself causes frustration.

In a way it's great that she cares what I am thinking and wants me to be happy with her. In another way, I want her to be more independent.

I have a philosophy. There is me, there is you, there is us. Two people that are comfortable individually combine to make a better 'us', that two people that struggle individually.

Always allow the person time for themselves. Only question things if they are not taking time for the 'us' and are doing things that are inappropriate for the stage of the relationship you are at. For instance your wife (or husband) shouldn't be meeting old male (or female) friends in a bar at night to catch up. While it shows you are trusting her, it can always show you are too casual and she is probably not respecting your marriage. It doesn't happen with us but I know a couple who are like that and he is paranoid as anything as he doesn't know the guys.

 

[The Dr]

I can put my hand up as saying I have had the majority of my clothes destroyed by an ex when she took some scissors to my wardrobe.

We'd broken up after she heard me yelling out another girl's name in my sleep....

Looking back, it's pretty funny, but at the time I was hardly impressed.