Family & Relationships worst breakups

[kwame]

women are fu**ed!....... when its just sex for a girl its ok to end it when she`s over it or finds someone else or so on, but if a guy does the same thing he is a dog and a bastard and so on.

 

[La Dispute]

Update: Today, we were having a good chat. We went for a walk, things actually felt like they were as good as they were before. Pulled a couple of my classic top shelf jokes out . Anyway, we sat down and she braught up the chat...She told me that she hated herself for being like crap to me, but she's going through alot atm (yada yada yada) and hates that she has to do that to her boyfriend. So she proposed that we stop officially going out, but stay together and hook back up when things get better on her side. Not perfect, but could have been worse. Sorry for boring you all with my story

Similar thing happened to me.

Shitest feeling

 

[nicky]

Hey magic I don't know whether your gf is a genuine person or not. She may very well be but regardless I reckon it would be good for you to break away, stand on your own two feet and become a bit more independent during this time.

This can only be a positive thing...

If she comes back to you, you'll be sexier to her because you're more independent.

If she doesn't come back to you , you will care alot less due to your confidence.

 

[frantelle]

Hey magic I don't know whether your gf is a genuine person or not. She may very well be but regardless I reckon it would be good for you to break away, stand on your own two feet and become a bit more independent during this time.

This can only be a positive thing...

If she comes back to you, you'll be sexier to her because you're more independent.

If she doesn't come back to you , you will care alot less due to your confidence.

If I had my time over from my breakup this is what I would've done. In the medium to long run it's win-win

 

[rockdog]

Hey magic I don't know whether your gf is a genuine person or not. She may very well be but regardless I reckon it would be good for you to break away, stand on your own two feet and become a bit more independent during this time.

This can only be a positive thing...

If she comes back to you, you'll be sexier to her because you're more independent.

If she doesn't come back to you , you will care alot less due to your confidence.

Magic, you should follow this advice.
If you don't you will just be the fallback guy.

 

[magic_johnson!]

Thanks for all the answers guys, even though i don't necasarily agree with alot of them. She is a pretty genuine person and when she says that "she didn't like treating me badly" i doubt it's because there's something else... She hardly saw anyone over the holidays and declined a few parties because she wanted to be by herself. This "being together" thing means no other guys aswell, and call me stupid but i doubt she's doing that.

Nicky though; great advice. I think i'll follow this, if she suddenly feels she's ready for me again, she can come to me. im not jumping through hoops to get shat on...

 

[The Old Dark Navy's]

Thanks for all the answers guys, even though i don't necasarily agree with alot of them. She is a pretty genuine person and when she says that "she didn't like treating me badly" i doubt it's because there's something else... She hardly saw anyone over the holidays and declined a few parties because she wanted to be by herself. This "being together" thing means no other guys aswell, and call me stupid but i doubt she's doing that.

Fair enough mate. I just do not get the need to break up because she feels she isn't giving you the attention you deserve. As the one on the receiving end, surely that is your choice to make if she is genuine.

Plus, my GF broke it off with me, saying she didn't want to, that we would still be together etc etc. She wasn't a bad person, but she was sparing my feelings to an extent.

Follow nicky's advice though. At least you are somewhat protected if it all goes pear shaped.

 

[La Dispute]

Hey magic I don't know whether your gf is a genuine person or not. She may very well be but regardless I reckon it would be good for you to break away, stand on your own two feet and become a bit more independent during this time.

This can only be a positive thing...

If she comes back to you, you'll be sexier to her because you're more independent.

If she doesn't come back to you , you will care alot less due to your confidence.

This all sounds verygood Nicky.

Is it a good idea to start seeing other chicks or will that just lead them to believe that it is completely over?

 

[nicky]

This all sounds verygood Nicky.

Is it a good idea to start seeing other chicks or will that just lead them to believe that it is completely over?

I don't know and I'm not the oracle of truth by no means.

Put it this way, do whatever it is that gives you more confidence and insight into what you want to do. If that means seeing other girls then do that. Why should you sit on the side line in the hope she'll come back.

 

[CrazyQ]

I've been dating a girl for a month. I found out she went to the movies with a guy. This was after she told me she was busy. To be honest, I don't really care, I cheated on her at her birthday gig with one of her friends.

I was told she's been around a bit but I chose to believe her, even though deep down I knew something was up.

I just don't understand why people stick with one woman.

DeadllAkkuret, you would have loved this girl, you're into half/half shit hey?

 

[Mr Gor]

I've been dating a girl for a month. I found out she went to the movies with a guy. This was after she told me she was busy. To be honest, I don't really care, I cheated on her at her birthday gig with one of her friends.

I was told she's been around a bit but I chose to believe her, even though deep down I knew something was up.

I just don't understand why people stick with one woman.

During or after??? And is the third paragraph a result of the first two?

 

[MF]

Nicky though; great advice. I think i'll follow this, if she suddenly feels she's ready for me again, she can come to me. im not jumping through hoops to get shat on...

I doubt very much that you will.

People rarely seek advice with an open mind and a genuine willingness to change. They merely seek confirmation and approval that the way they're already doing things is right. This is evident in your posts.

I hope for your sake that I'm wrong, or at the very least that when things go wrong (again and again) you'll be willing to admit to yourself that maybe Nicky's advice was the way to go and approach things differently next time.

 

[Power King]

Magic Johnson - she has complete control of the situation. She is the one deciding whether or not you guys stick together or remain apart. She is also the one who ****ed things up in the first place.

The logical thing any man that isn't on a leash would do is **** her off.

You're young though so the truth is deep down you choose to refuse to listen to this advice and instead believe that she's genuine.

Bookmark this thread and read it back when your 22.

 

[magic_johnson!]

I've spent the last couple of days freezing her out. . It feels so weird, feeling like i'm doing nothing to win her back.I'm not going to lie, it is hard and i did Speak to her for about a minute today, but i left it to when i can get her one on one and for a short time phrame. I still feel we have to have atleast a little interaction; only when the time is perfect though.

 

[MF]

I've spent the last couple of days freezing her out. . It feels so weird, feeling like i'm doing nothing to win her back.I'm not going to lie, it is hard and i did Speak to her for about a minute today, but i left it to when i can get her one on one and for a short time phrame. I still feel we have to have atleast a little interaction; on my terms though.

See, I knew you wouldn't do it.

Honestly dude... take Nicky and PK's advice. A) Because if this chick doesn't want to be with you then you'll move on and get over her sooner and you'll respect yourself more for being a man about it. B) Because if there's any chance of you getting back with her the best was to get her interested is to let her think you're prepared to move on. If she has any interest in you at all it will drive her crazy. If you act like a clingy, needy little bitch it will drive her away.

 

[Caesar]

I wish you could slap someone via the internet. Dude, get it together.

I'm unsubscribing from this thread, it's too painful to watch a guy emasculate himself like this.

 

[magic_johnson!]

ONE MINUTE out of 5 days.

 

[Carl Hooper]

This thread is amusing, This Is Your Life - magic_johnson!

 

[Caesar]

ONE MINUTE out of 5 days.

May as well have been an hour. Are you not listening to what everyone is saying? You are sending very clear messages to this girl by not cutting the cord and moving on.

 

[r dub 19]

Give the lad a break. We all have experienced what he is going through to some degree. The only way he will learn is to get played by the bitch. Better he finds out the hard way in his younger years.

Let him get his heart broken and comeback a beast or a lil bitch.

 

[frantelle]

I've spent the last couple of days freezing her out. . It feels so weird, feeling like i'm doing nothing to win her back.I'm not going to lie, it is hard and i did Speak to her for about a minute today, but i left it to when i can get her one on one and for a short time phrame. I still feel we have to have atleast a little interaction; only when the time is perfect though.

You sound exactly like me a few months ago. In all seriousness I wish I "cut the cord" immediately because everything got really ugly and painful along the way. I hate to say it but it sounds like she is purely in control.

You should move on with your life and pretend she doesn't exist. Improve yourself somehow, go to the gym, do some volunteer work, anything that makes you feel better about yourself. If you move on and become independent these are the 3 scenarios that could happen:
She comes back to you and you accept her
She comes back to you and you reject her
She never comes back to you but your fine because you have moved on

If you don't these are the scenarios that you will be faced with:
She takes you back but assumes all control in the relationship
She doesn't take you back for reason [x] and all the pain and emotion is drawn out and compounded

If its meant to be, it will happen in the future. But worry about those hurdles when you need to jump them, for the time being just move on because in the immediate future your not with her in any way shape or form and that was her decision

 

[r dub 19]

How old are you MJ?

 

[magic_johnson!]

How old are you MJ?

Should have said this at teh start, 17 years old been going out about 7 months *que random postes abusing me because we're young and havn't been together all that long *. I spose you're right, if it is meant to be, it will happen...The funny thing is is that i had the control untill about a month ago when she started drifting away...and i didn't

 

[premiers06]

Should have said this at teh start, 17 years old been going out about 7 months *que random postes abusing me because we're young and havn't been together all that long *. I spose you're right, if it is meant to be, it will happen...The funny thing is is that i had the control untill about a month ago when she started drifting away...and i didn't

I was a simillar situation to you at about your age and I didnt act and tried to keep it together when it clearly the relationship had run its race. Trust me its the biggest mistake you will make and it made the ordeal a lot tougher and I know its tough but you must cut the cord. The reason why the most of us tell you this is because we have been in simillar situations.

 

[The Old Dark Navy's]

Should have said this at teh start, 17 years old been going out about 7 months *que random postes abusing me because we're young and havn't been together all that long *. I spose you're right, if it is meant to be, it will happen...The funny thing is is that i had the control untill about a month ago when she started drifting away...and i didn't

7 months is a lifetime at that age mate, so no ridiculing should take place. Most people are commenting because they have been there, and when they think back on it they feel a little humiliated they allowed themselves to become so desperate.

It's heart vs head mate, and at that age, unless you are a major player already, the heart wins out, and can not face cutting her loose, just in case there is the slightest chance that she still wants you and your actions drive her away.

Right now, you are thinking about her all the time, hanging out for a moment with her, putting yourself into a holding pattern, while she is doing ... what exactly? Thinking of you? Missing you? Working out her issues so she can come back to you? Does she have friends? Is she hanging out with them? If so, why isn't she hanging out with you?

The others are right. Be brave, try to move on and portray to her the image of you moving on. It might wake her up.

Whatever her issues are, surely a boyfriend that loves her and she supposedly loves, would be the first person she would turn to for support, not cut loose.

Make arrangements to go out with mates. Text her and tell her you are going out that night. If she says she is going out, say 'cool, have fun.' Seriously, 99% of chicks don't want a guy who makes it too easy for them. He isn't much of a catch if they don't have to work for it.