Remove this Banner Ad

Family & Relationships worst breakups

  • Thread starter Thread starter kwame
  • Start date Start date
  • Tagged users Tagged users None

🥰 Love BigFooty? Join now for free.

Just got told "i really really like you still, but things are different now and im going through alot atm. i need to talk to you in person"

:(:(

her dad is really sick atm and im afraid that im gonna get the "i just cant handle a bf with what i'm going thorugh"

i don't wanna leave her :(
 

Log in to remove this Banner Ad

cats2rise said:
TBH me and all my mates have thought it since I started going out with the older sister...

:p
Click to expand...
you seriosuly need to hit that shit

and repeatedly!!

then post the video here :thumbsu:
 
aw magic i read your post today and started to reply but realised i actually had to get back to work. Then as i was catching a tram out tonight i thought about your post and regretted not replying.

I don't know what is going on with your girlfriend but, I have the feeling that know matter what, you need to empower yourself at this important time.

If i was in your position i would feel a bit powerless because you're at the mercy of the future decision of your partner. That is a pretty crap position to be in.

You have options to do something that will make you feel good about yourself whereby your happiness is not dependant on the decision of someone else.

good luck :)
 

Remove this Banner Ad

Sorry about the delay. Things are moving quite slowly. We didn't actually manage to see each other last week as i had to work heaps :thumbsd::thumbsd::thumbsd: And we both had no neutral free time. Anyway, at school today we got together and i asked her if she wanted to talk. She said yes, and we walked off together. She started a conversation about something mundane and it evolved into a good chat. She seemed to be really happy, but by the end of it we had to go and we didn't actually get to have "the" chat...Got a kiss goodbye though :thumbsu:

It gives me a new dilema. Things seem better now, which makes me want to just not bring up the talk again and hope things keep getting better untill we are at where we used to be. My friend told me i should ask her about it because there's still loose ends to tie up, but i don't know...

I'll give you another update in a few days or so, she seems a bit good one day bad the next kinda thing... Which makes me think it's not me, but i don't know. I just don't want to get the old "i don't think i can handle having a bf at the moment...."
 
magic_johnson! said:
Sorry about the delay. Things are moving quite slowly. We didn't actually manage to see each other last week as i had to work heaps :thumbsd::thumbsd::thumbsd: And we both had no neutral free time. Anyway, at school today we got together and i asked her if she wanted to talk. She said yes, and we walked off together. She started a conversation about something mundane and it evolved into a good chat. She seemed to be really happy, but by the end of it we had to go and we didn't actually get to have "the" chat...Got a kiss goodbye though :thumbsu:

It gives me a new dilema. Things seem better now, which makes me want to just not bring up the talk again and hope things keep getting better untill we are at where we used to be. My friend told me i should ask her about it because there's still loose ends to tie up, but i don't know...

I'll give you another update in a few days or so, she seems a bit good one day bad the next kinda thing... Which makes me think it's not me, but i don't know. I just don't want to get the old "i don't think i can handle having a bf at the moment...."
Click to expand...

Revn up your engine listen to the howlin' hore
Mental sexual tension beggin' you to go lunch and call

Highwayyyyy to the friendzoneeeeeeeeee
Ride into the the friendzoneeee
 
Update: Today, we were having a good chat. We went for a walk, things actually felt like they were as good as they were before. Pulled a couple of my classic top shelf jokes out ;). Anyway, we sat down and she braught up the chat...She told me that she hated herself for being like crap to me, but she's going through alot atm (yada yada yada) and hates that she has to do that to her boyfriend. So she proposed that we stop officially going out, but stay together and hook back up when things get better on her side. Not perfect, but could have been worse. Sorry for boring you all with my story :o
 
magic_johnson! said:
Update: Today, we were having a good chat. We went for a walk, things actually felt like they were as good as they were before. Pulled a couple of my classic top shelf jokes out ;). Anyway, we sat down and she braught up the chat...She told me that she hated herself for being like crap to me, but she's going through alot atm (yada yada yada) and hates that she has to do that to her boyfriend. So she proposed that we stop officially going out, but stay together and hook back up when things get better on her side. Not perfect, but could have been worse. Sorry for boring you all with my story :o
Click to expand...

you shoulda slipped one in her
 

🥰 Love BigFooty? Join now for free.

magic_johnson! said:
Update: Today, we were having a good chat. We went for a walk, things actually felt like they were as good as they were before. Pulled a couple of my classic top shelf jokes out ;). Anyway, we sat down and she braught up the chat...She told me that she hated herself for being like crap to me, but she's going through alot atm (yada yada yada) and hates that she has to do that to her boyfriend. So she proposed that we stop officially going out, but stay together and hook back up when things get better on her side. Not perfect, but could have been worse. Sorry for boring you all with my story :o
Click to expand...

Sorry to break it to you, she is walking all over you. Things won't " get better on her side". She is most likely getting bent over while you post these updates.

Sorry bro (any himym fans)
 
Na I was interesed mj. Glad that it turned out all right. Although this is scarily similiar to my situation a few weeks back. Although she was slightly more ruthless about it, told me I 'took us too seriously' and just wanted to be together. What the **** is together anyway?
 
magic_johnson! said:
Update: Today, we were having a good chat. We went for a walk, things actually felt like they were as good as they were before. Pulled a couple of my classic top shelf jokes out ;). Anyway, we sat down and she braught up the chat...She told me that she hated herself for being like crap to me, but she's going through alot atm (yada yada yada) and hates that she has to do that to her boyfriend. So she proposed that we stop officially going out, but stay together and hook back up when things get better on her side. Not perfect, but could have been worse. Sorry for boring you all with my story :o
Click to expand...

Mate, the girl has got game. She just dumped you, basically did the whole 'it's not you, it's me' / 'I don't deserve you' line, made herself seem nice in the process and escaped scot free.

You are probably still playing it over in your head, wondering what just happened. She is no longer going out with you 'officially' so does not have any conscience issues if she hooks up with someone else. I supposed she has morals at least, that's a positive.

Will be interesting to see if she bucks the usual pattern from here on in, and actually does still hang with you like a GF without the official title.
 
The Old Dark Navy's said:
Mate, the girl has got game. She just dumped you, basically did the whole 'it's not you, it's me' / 'I don't deserve you' line, made herself seem nice in the process and escaped scot free.

You are probably still playing it over in your head, wondering what just happened. She is no longer going out with you 'officially' so does not have any conscience issues if she hooks up with someone else. I supposed she has morals at least, that's a positive.

Will be interesting to see if she bucks the usual pattern from here on in, and actually does still hang with you like a GF without the official title.
Click to expand...

I agree with this. Been told this ages ago and constantly though in fairness in my situation the girl is going through a lot, but in all seriousness I've had enough of being dragged along for when she is ready or a long term back up to whatever stupid plan she has in her head. If I were you I would just pretend for x months that she doesn't exist and delete her number and facebook and re-assess the situation in the future
 
You've become Mr. Safety

She's got someone else she's keen on, but likes you enough that she'll "settle" for you if she can't get what she wants. Now she's "officially single" she can do whatever to whomever she likes without feeling guilt.

One of three things will happen from here:

1. She'll find the right person, you'll never hear from her again (unless she repeats the process)
2. She'll come back to you, until she gets the 'urge' again.
3. You'll remain "F" buddies, until one of you feels the need for a proper relationship.

It's as much a case of when you'll get hurt by her, not if.
 

Remove this Banner Ad

Remove this Banner Ad

🥰 Love BigFooty? Join now for free.

Back
Top Bottom