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OK, Bigfooty confession time.

Have you ever cheated on someone you were going out with? Were you caught, did you confess? Why did you do it?

Or has anyone you have been going out with ever cheated on you? What did you do when you found out?

Neither of these situations have occured for me yet, so I'm wondering what it's like.
 
I'm very faithful when it comes to partners, friends and family. My rules are that if I'm tempted to cheat, there relationship cant be working for me and I shouldnt be with the person - hence my string of 6 - 8 week "things" with guys.

Although, does cheating on a guy the same weekend you're about to move 1600kms away and break up anyway, despite him not knowing you've done this really count as cheating?
 

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I doubt many people here will admit to cheating. I personally think if you cheat you have no respect for your partner, and once you've been cheated on, how can you trust your partner ever again?
I've never done it by the way...;)
 
after just watching Jerry (im sick i have an excuse) was wondering if it was really like cheating if your partner was doin someone of the same sex? if it was 2 guys i'd just be thinkin ew AIDS but if it was 2 girls *2 thin blondes i reckon most guys would think it's christmas! Either way i reckon it's a bit off like the girl who was bangin her uncle but that's another story :p
 
Originally posted by PiesPremiers
I doubt many people here will admit to cheating. I personally think if you cheat you have no respect for your partner, and once you've been cheated on, how can you trust your partner ever again?
I've never done it by the way...;)
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I've cheated on my partner a few times, and she has cheated on me a few times. It hasn't been with people that we both know, so there is no loss of trust or respect. Love and sex are two different kettle of fish.
 
Originally posted by bunsen burner
It hasn't been with people that we both know, so there is no loss of trust or respect.
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Where is the interlinking relationship b/n that?

How is it that there is no loss of trust or respect if you know the person you're partner has been with as opposed to not knowing the person? Having sex with another person is still sex regardless of who knows them????????????
 
Originally posted by bunsen burner
I've cheated on my partner a few times, and she has cheated on me a few times. It hasn't been with people that we both know, so there is no loss of trust or respect. Love and sex are two different kettle of fish.
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First, Should it matter if your partner knows the person or not?
And secondly, how can you love someone thats screwing around with someone else? :confused:
 
Originally posted by Sly77
I'm very faithful when it comes to partners, friends and family. My rules are that if I'm tempted to cheat, there relationship cant be working for me and I shouldnt be with the person - hence my string of 6 - 8 week "things" with guys.
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I have to agree with that, any thoughts of cheating are a bad sign for a relationship. I couldn't imagine cheating on someone that I am in love with.

What do people class as cheating? Sex or just a kiss?

If it's the latter, yeah I've done that.

Women always come out of it best if they're the cheater. Take Kelli Stevens for example, she wins either way, if Anthony left her she'd still be entitled to half of everything and she'd have custody of their kid (I wish they'd bring back the adultery law where you get nothing if you're unfaithful), she stays and still has a footballer husband and a great life.

If a woman cheats, her former partner isn't allowed to entertain thoughts of revenge.. no, he has to 'get over it and move on'. If a man cheats and woman gets revenge on him, she is seen as some kind of hereo, because as we know 'all men are bastards'.. Hmmm.
 
Originally posted by Sly77


Where is the interlinking relationship b/n that?

How is it that there is no loss of trust or respect if you know the person you're partner has been with as opposed to not knowing the person? Having sex with another person is still sex regardless of who knows them????????????
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There is a huge difference. Let's say my partner cheated with one of my friends, or my brother. That is a big problem and will cause loss of trust and respect. If it is sex with someone I don't know, it isn't a problem - as long as it isn't regular.
 

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Originally posted by bunsen burner
There is a huge difference. Let's say my partner cheated with one of my friends, or my brother. That is a big problem and will cause loss of trust and respect. If it is sex with someone I don't know, it isn't a problem - as long as it isn't regular.
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Sorry - cheating IS cheating - no matter who its with. If my partner had sex with my best friend friend, the only diff would be I'd not only have lost the trust with my partner BUT also my best friend.

However, if your partners aware you're doing it and condones it - I suppose in your case it isnt really cheating
 
Originally posted by PiesPremiers


First, Should it matter if your partner knows the person or not?
And secondly, how can you love someone thats screwing around with someone else? :confused:
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First, Should it matter if your partner knows the person or not?
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See the above post for an explanation.

And secondly, how can you love someone thats screwing around with someone else?
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Wait a second, you have made the assumption that my partner is having or has had an affair. This is different to a one night stand.

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I agree. You are confused about the difference of opinions.

You personally wouldn't like it if a partner cheated on you. Therefore you probably don't do it yourself - and that is fair enough.

But, this isn't much different from what I do - I don't mind so much if my partner sleeps with someone else, therefore, I feel comfortable doing it myself (vice versa).

What I wouldn't like is for my partner to cheat on me with one of my friends, any of my family, or to a lesser degree, a mutual friend. Therefore, my partners friends, family and mutual friends are out of bounds. I just don't go there.

So, all in all, it is really a case that different people are comfortable about different things, but the moral of the story is:

Don't do onto others what you wouldn't do onto yourself.

ie A person who cheats on their partner, but can't handle their partner cheating on themselves has got problems.
 
Never cheated. Been cheated on twice. It hurts. I could never cheat, and I could never continue a relationship with someone who has cheated on me.

The Hitman
 
Originally posted by bunsen burner


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But, this isn't much different from what I do - I don't mind so much if my partner sleeps with someone else, therefore, I feel comfortable doing it myself (vice versa).
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So, you or your partner really arent cheating then, as the other is aware and has given consent.
 

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Originally posted by Sly77
So, you or your partner really arent cheating then, as the other is aware and has given consent.
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I guess so. It's not like we have this completely open relationship either. We aren't continuously looking for other sexual partners. Just occasionally (say 2 times each over 6 years) we have shagged someone else.

I know some people are ok about sleeping with the one partner for the rest of their lives, but I need a bit of variety.
 
Originally posted by bunsen burner
I guess so. It's not like we have this completely open relationship either. We aren't continuously looking for other sexual partners. Just occasionally (say 2 times each over 6 years) we have shagged someone else.

I know some people are ok about sleeping with the one partner for the rest of their lives, but I need a bit of variety.
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Just out of interest do you tell your partner before hand that you are going to sleep with someone else? Or do you tell them after?
 
I'm not judging you BB, its great that you're secure in your relationship enough to do that, but no way, i couldnt handle that. If i am in love with someone, i am blind to everyone else around me in that way.. Cant forgive cheating. And never done it.
 

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