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I'm not usually one for starting new threads but I wanted to throw a hypothetical out into the big yellow yonder of bigfooty.

Two years ago I went through the whole applying for graduate programs ordeal, I think I went for maybe 10 all up and didn't get through to the second round on any except for ANZ where I ended up going all the way through and I've now been there for 15 months or so.

I hit a bit of a stale patch at work last month as I'm no longer challenged by what I do, so I applied for a graduate program for a government department that I badly want to work for. (I stuffed up the application form the first time round and I always wondered what might have been.)

Today, I got great news and I'm through to the next round. But one of my best friends is going for the same program, has not found work yet, and really wants to work there too! I know that if I miss out and she gets through I'd be so elated and not the least bit jealous, but I'm scared that she might be hurt if I get through and she misses out because I know how much she deserves to be there.

Blah blah blah - has anyone got some words of wisdom for overcoming the hurdles that may potentially follow?
 

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It's very nice that you're worried about your friend :) but hey, look at it this way, if you get it, it doesn't necessarily mean that she won't find something that may be even better for her. :) You just never know.
 
You don't have to make the decision yet. Go through the next phase and only panic if they actually make you an offer, and your friend is still in the running.

You can always refuse the offer if you learn that your friend is next in line. Otherwise it is all academic, better it goes to one of you than you both miss out.
 
as lioness22 said, it's really nice that you're concerned about what your friend might feel. And it's only natural that should you get in and not her, she might feel upset and hurt.

However, as Des said, if she's a true friend, she'll be supportive and understanding... whatever negative thoughts she might have won't last forever.

Also she'll be aware that the decision of who is chosen is not yours or hers... it's not like you're deliberately setting out to be nasty to her!!

Good luck, and let us know how you go!
 
Sam, a true friend wouldn't be upset at you personally. Sure she'd be hurt but if it is at you then she can't be much of a mate, it's not you that makes the decision.

As long as you don't invite her to come out celebrating if you get in, then it should be cool. :)
 
Originally posted by Docker_Brat
Sam, a true friend wouldn't be upset at you personally. Sure she'd be hurt but if it is at you then she can't be much of a mate, it's not you that makes the decision.

As long as you don't invite her to come out celebrating if you get in, then it should be cool. :)
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thanks all, feeling much better hearing such supportive comments. I also feel a bit better knowing that for this recruitment process we're being benchmarked against people from the same state rather than against graduates from the rest of the country. I'm crossing my fingers for my friend but it could be months before the recruiters look at the West Australian applicants.

Interview this Friday *aaaarrrrgggghhhh*
 
Just don't worry about it Sam! Come out to lunch with me when i'm there and relax!

Let me know how you go on Friday, cause if you don't lunch is your shout!!!!! :D :p
 
Just go and get the job, leaving a trail of burning corpses in your wake as you claim the winner's prize. Muahahahahaha!!!

Good luck on Friday!
 

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So how did it go?
 

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