- Sep 21, 2009
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The problem is that there is a lot of practical advice that can be hard to conceptualise. Especially with the way our society views violence against women through a lens of male persecution.Agree, but how? It would be helpful to have practical advice on what parts we can all play while also expecting our politicians to address societal factors that are linked to domestic violence.
Whenever an issue is raised about inequality towards women, it's instantly framed as diminishing or taking away from men.
It's the same with any conversation around diversity or affirmative action.
We no longer just look at an issue and try to think of a way to improve or resolve it. It's now always a culture war.
Progressives and conservatives are both to blame for this.
Any time the issue of violence against women is raised, someone will 'defend' men. It does not matter how it's raised or discussed. You cannot discuss violence against women, without discussing men.*
There will always be a way to connect the message to an 'attack on men', because violence against women is entwined with men and society.
We have accepted that our society has been conditioned to a knee-jerk reaction to any mention of men when discussing violence against women. But that is not normal.
Most individuals will point out that they wouldn't take offense etc, and that they'd understand even the more extreme statement like "all men need to reduce their violence against women". But they need to coach it with the excuse that many people won't understand and will react negatively.
But instead of pushing the message and explaining the misunderstandings, we have to console them and let the astroturfing grow.
We need education not ignorance.
The reason we can't move past the 'us vs them' rhetoric, is because it would allow us to then discuss the deeper roots that lead to these outcomes.
That is that we live in a male dominated society where women are still not equal to men.
But it's impossible to discuss this, while we are dominated by the narrative that it's men who are powerless and under attack.
It's to keep us focused on the outcomes so we ignore the cause.
I believe these violent outcomes are due more a cultural/societal/economic cause than a genetic predisposition for violence against women.
We're all very good at giving lip-service to supporting equality etc, but then go and laugh at the latest "woman's initiative" marketing campaign.
*just in case someone brings up same sex etc. I'm talking in general, not individual cases.