- Feb 20, 2015
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Thanks guys. I didn't know where to post this, so general discussion seemed like the right place.
I have just found out that my girlfriend has cheated on me. Here's the full and unbiased (It actually is, I get deadly calm when I'm super angry) version of events.
I've been going out with this girl for just over a year now. We've been happy, things have been good blah blah blah. For the last month she has been avoiding me and using work as an excuse to avoid spending time with me. At first I thought that she was just taking her job really seriously, but then I remembered that she has never shown much interest in her work (She works at a sports store). I then wondered if I had upset her about something, but when I asked her she said that all was fine. Her hours got later and later to the point where she was leaving work late in the evening and supposedly too tired to talk.
Last week I confronted her and asked her if she was cheating on me. She said no and said she was offended that I would even think that. We went out to Gold Class cinemas on Saturday and again, something wasn't right. I asked her a second time and she denied it and stormed out of the cinema and went home. I stayed for the remainder of the movie (it was really good, plus it was expensive so I made sure I got my money's worth) and went home in a bad mood.
Anyway, today my mates invited me to have a beer at their place and play some video games. When I arrived I could tell something was off. They told me to sit down and grab a beer. When I did that, they told me that they had seen my girlfriend eating another guys face yesterday. They showed me a photo that they had taken on their phone. I know who the guy is, he's her boss who incidentally is a married man with children. I told them I was off to smash him, but they forced me to sit down and play some games with them and not to do anything dumb.
So instead, I called my girlfriend and again asked her if she was cheating. She denied it again. So I then proceeded to ask why she had been seen eating her boss's face off. There was a pause and she confessed. She started apologizing, saying how sorry she was and how it didn't mean anything. She begged me not to break up with her and I told her I need to process it so I can make a rational decision and not to contact me until I have had time to think. She also told me she was cheating when I had asked her previously, but didn't want to hurt my feelings by telling me because she cares about our relationship.
I know that quite a few on here are a lot older than me (I'm 19) and could provide some advice from their life experience. Should I break up with her and start again? Should I tell the boss's wife about the affair? My girlfriend is bombarding me with messages saying that she doesn't want to break up and how sorry she is, but also says that I should be apologizing for not stopping her from getting to this point.
Please guys, advice would be appreciated. Should I smash the boss's head in? I'm tempted to tell his wife and ditch the girl, but I've never been cheated on before. This is real and I'm not playing silly buggers. Is it my fault? I can't help but wonder.
I have just found out that my girlfriend has cheated on me. Here's the full and unbiased (It actually is, I get deadly calm when I'm super angry) version of events.
I've been going out with this girl for just over a year now. We've been happy, things have been good blah blah blah. For the last month she has been avoiding me and using work as an excuse to avoid spending time with me. At first I thought that she was just taking her job really seriously, but then I remembered that she has never shown much interest in her work (She works at a sports store). I then wondered if I had upset her about something, but when I asked her she said that all was fine. Her hours got later and later to the point where she was leaving work late in the evening and supposedly too tired to talk.
Last week I confronted her and asked her if she was cheating on me. She said no and said she was offended that I would even think that. We went out to Gold Class cinemas on Saturday and again, something wasn't right. I asked her a second time and she denied it and stormed out of the cinema and went home. I stayed for the remainder of the movie (it was really good, plus it was expensive so I made sure I got my money's worth) and went home in a bad mood.
Anyway, today my mates invited me to have a beer at their place and play some video games. When I arrived I could tell something was off. They told me to sit down and grab a beer. When I did that, they told me that they had seen my girlfriend eating another guys face yesterday. They showed me a photo that they had taken on their phone. I know who the guy is, he's her boss who incidentally is a married man with children. I told them I was off to smash him, but they forced me to sit down and play some games with them and not to do anything dumb.
So instead, I called my girlfriend and again asked her if she was cheating. She denied it again. So I then proceeded to ask why she had been seen eating her boss's face off. There was a pause and she confessed. She started apologizing, saying how sorry she was and how it didn't mean anything. She begged me not to break up with her and I told her I need to process it so I can make a rational decision and not to contact me until I have had time to think. She also told me she was cheating when I had asked her previously, but didn't want to hurt my feelings by telling me because she cares about our relationship.
I know that quite a few on here are a lot older than me (I'm 19) and could provide some advice from their life experience. Should I break up with her and start again? Should I tell the boss's wife about the affair? My girlfriend is bombarding me with messages saying that she doesn't want to break up and how sorry she is, but also says that I should be apologizing for not stopping her from getting to this point.
Please guys, advice would be appreciated. Should I smash the boss's head in? I'm tempted to tell his wife and ditch the girl, but I've never been cheated on before. This is real and I'm not playing silly buggers. Is it my fault? I can't help but wonder.
