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Black Tie Dress Code - Interpretations

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Black Tie does mean tuxedo, but I think there is a bit more to this issue.

How close are you to the bride and groom? I wouldn't be spending $180 to hire a tux for one night unless it was a real close friend and he/she insisted, or if I would look completely out of place without a tux.

What sort of selfish bitch (make no mistake, this would be the bride's insistance as she wants to feel like she has 'classy' friends on the day) expects people to spend up unnecessarily to go to a function? Half the people will be peropheral people who really don't give a flying fruit fly and are only there out of courtesy.

What are other people wearing? Will a good black suit look completely out of whack? I doubt it.


On a personal note, I find that weddings are the biggest load of crap (after religion - and coincidently they are linked). I've tried to reason and I can't see how most people can justify spending $30k - $50k on one day. Sure if you're loaded, not a problem. But for the average Joe, that's a deposit on a house or the education of a couiple of children. Are these women really that selfish that they think spending this money to make themselves feel like a princess is justifiable? Do they not feel guilty about making their bridal party shell out a lot of money for their own satisfaction?


Bobby: I'd go with the suit. Stuff forking out up to $200 to make the bride feel like she is in a glamorous environment. Then I'd drink all their alcohol and try and shag the bride's mum.
 
Originally posted by bunsen burner

On a personal note, I find that weddings are the biggest load of crap (after religion - and coincidently they are linked). I've tried to reason and I can't see how most people can justify spending $30k - $50k on one day. Sure if you're loaded, not a problem. But for the average Joe, that's a deposit on a house or the education of a couiple of children. Are these women really that selfish that they think spending this money to make themselves feel like a princess is justifiable? Do they not feel guilty about making their bridal party shell out a lot of money for their own satisfaction?

Just out of curiousity, are you single?
 

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Originally posted by Nic
Just out of curiousity, are you single?
Been with my partner for 7 years. As I think the whole institution of marriage is a load of bollocks, I won't be getting married. Not to mention I could think of more worthing causes of $50k.

Just out of curiosity: Assuming you are loaded, do you think spending $50k on one day to make yourself feel like a princess at the expense of providing a house for your family or education for your children is justifiable?

I don't know any guy who is overly keen about the actual day. Getting married yes, but going through the whole wedding process, no.
 
Originally posted by bunsen burner

Just out of curiosity: Assuming you are loaded, do you think spending $50k on one day to make yourself feel like a princess at the expense of providing a house for your family or education for your children is justifiable?
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Personally, I wouldn't spend that much but to a lot of people marriage is important and worth spending that much money on to make it a memorable day. If they can afford it, why not.

And assuming I was loaded wouldn't I be able to afford the wedding, house and education?
 
Originally posted by Nic
Personally, I wouldn't spend that much but to a lot of people marriage is important and worth spending that much money on to make it a memorable day. If they can afford it, why not.
You're missing the point. It's about priorities. The benefits of a $50k wedding is purely feelgood - I could feel better with a $200 bag of charlie. The benefit of a house or education is not only tangible, but almost definitely lasts forever.

Let me ask you again:

If someone had 50k and nothing else, would you think they are justified on spending it on a wedding? Do you think they have their priorities correct?

* remember many people take out loans to pay for weddings
** I'm not asking whether you think it's their choice or not (it's their choice), I'm asking whether you think it is an intelligent decision.


And assuming I was loaded wouldn't I be able to afford the wedding, house and education?
Sorry, typo. Was meant to be assuming you aren't loaded - as in having to prioritise these things.
 
Originally posted by bunsen burner
You're missing the point. It's about priorities. The benefits of a $50k wedding is purely feelgood - I could feel better with a $200 bag of charlie. The benefit of a house or education is not only tangible, but almost definitely lasts forever.

Let me ask you again:

If someone had 50k and nothing else, would you think they are justified on spending it on a wedding? Do you think they have their priorities correct?

* remember many people take out loans to pay for weddings
** I'm not asking whether you think it's their choice or not (it's their choice), I'm asking whether you think it is an intelligent decision.

Sorry, typo. Was meant to be assuming you aren't loaded - as in having to prioritise these things.

Ok. You're taking a lot from my 'are you single' question.:p

There are too many factors with your 50k question: do they have kids, a steady income, etc. Personally I couldn't justify that expense - I'm not pro-wedding, I'm pro-choice.:p
 
Originally posted by Nic
Ok. You're taking a lot from my 'are you single' question.:p
??????? how so?


There are too many factors with your 50k question: do they have kids, a steady income, etc.
it's pretty obvious from my post:

- They either have kids or plan to (that's why children's education was one of the opp costs)
- They have a steady income, but 50k is all they have

Personally I couldn't justify that expense
So you agree with me.


- I'm not pro-wedding, I'm pro-choice.:p
I actually wrote in my post that I wasn't asking you this as it is beside the point. I too am pro-choice, but that doesn't mean I think people are making intelligent decisions. And it seems you think the same.
 
Bobby G.

1. F*** em all.

2. Wear what you want.

3. If its a friend and they dont like it, just say sorry it wont happen again and smile.

4. If its family and they dont like it, just direct both hands to your groin area and smile.

5. Never ever comply and buy a gift off the register. A couple of nice his and hers towels will do the trick.

6. Try your best to get the groom absolutely sh*tfaced.

7. Make a few complaints about how crap the food is, in hearing shot of the bride.

Basically dont comply to the BS, unless you have something to gain from it.
 
Originally posted by bunsen burner
Just one more curiosity:

Can you name more than one good thing about marriage? Because I can only think of one.

I know you are a male. As a male I ask you, what is the one good point?
 

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Originally posted by EssJayW
I know you are a male. As a male I ask you, what is the one good point?

The only feasible advantage of marriage is it makes some people feel secure. For some reason a little piece of paper gives some the feeling that they 'have finally made it' and that 'they are safe'. So marriage is good for insecure people. Other than that marriage is a bad idea. They only people who think it's good (ie most people) are sheep and have probably never rationally analysed what purpose marriage actually serves.

If you actually ask most people why they want to get married, here are some of the ridiculous reasons they come up with:

1) "Because that's how it is". Well actually it's not how it is. Marriage is just something someone made up many years ago and is becoming outdated. Many people these days choose not to get married. Living in sin these days is widely excepted.

2) "Because of the kids". Kids can be brainwashed into thinking almost anything is normal. Kids are actually brainwashed into thinking marriage is normal and therefore can be taught that not being married is normal too.

3) "Because we love each other and need something formal to prove it and sustain it". Nothing could be more ridiculous. A marriage certificate does not guarantee that people won't fall out of love.

4) "Because I want to be a princess for a day and no one is going to deny me of that". Pfft!


To summarise, marriage is mostly a stupid idea because you can't put a contract on love. A piece of paper can't guarantee you will stay in love. How can you promise to love someone for ever? We can't control love, so why do people have this stupid notion that we can?
 
Originally posted by bunsen burner
The only feasible advantage of marriage is it makes some people feel secure. For some reason a little piece of paper gives some the feeling that they 'have finally made it' and that 'they are safe'. So marriage is good for insecure people. Other than that marriage is a bad idea. They only people who think it's good (ie most people) are sheep and have probably never rationally analysed what purpose marriage actually serves.

If you actually ask most people why they want to get married, here are some of the ridiculous reasons they come up with:

1) "Because that's how it is". Well actually it's not how it is. Marriage is just something someone made up many years ago and is becoming outdated. Many people these days choose not to get married. Living in sin these days is widely excepted.

2) "Because of the kids". Kids can be brainwashed into thinking almost anything is normal. Kids are actually brainwashed into thinking marriage is normal and therefore can be taught that not being married is normal too.

3) "Because we love each other and need something formal to prove it and sustain it". Nothing could be more ridiculous. A marriage certificate does not guarantee that people won't fall out of love.

4) "Because I want to be a princess for a day and no one is going to deny me of that". Pfft!


To summarise, marriage is mostly a stupid idea because you can't put a contract on love. A piece of paper can't guarantee you will stay in love. How can you promise to love someone for ever? We can't control love, so why do people have this stupid notion that we can?

Marriage is generally to make the woman feel happy. Let them have their piece of paper.;)
 

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