Cheating

[Squeak]

Is it forgiveable.

I spent all of last week in Newcastle. On the first night I found out my girlfriend had cheated on me with her best friend's brother - 4 hours after I'd left the state. I was suitably angry when I heard this, and my first thought was to immediately finish it straight away. As the week wore on I increasingly came to the attitude of "hey, she shouldn't be permanently punished for one mistake", and decided that I would not break up with her for that mistake.

Instead, I got even. For four nights in a row (and the bus trip home). We have settled our differences and are back to what we had previously.

Would you forgive someone in the same situation?

 

[M29]

Depends if she cooked for him.

 

[Mooster7]

No, Squeak. You have to dump her. You may not believe me, but put it in your mind anyway, because it's true.

Doesn't mean you have to do it right away. If you can work out a deal where she puts up lots of guilt-sex (and possibly the best friend) then do that first. Then dump her.

There are 3 Billion women on the planet, and this cheating episode is your reason to work your way to the next one. You aren't going to run out of women in one lifetime. You might respect what you thought this relationship once was, but you need to respect yourself first. The relationship is **** and you are important.

Dump her.

At the very least, be full on looking for your next gf while toying with this heartless, cheating wench. That gives you an outlet so you won't need to be frustrated before you are out.

Dump her.

Peace to you,

 

[Squeak]

That was the plan, just quietly. Poke a few through her and then move on. The girl I cheated with is actually a viable option, although I doubt how that would go, as by aiding me to cheat-back, she was herself cheating too.

 

[Falchoon]

Originally posted by Squeak


Would you forgive someone in the same situation?

Sure, trust in a relationship is overrated.

 

[ozzult]

It's hard to say no to temptation.

 

[Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk]

Sounds like a childish relationship and not real love the type you have from 14-16

 

[P_D]

Firstly, your girlfriend is a bitch *but you should already know that*

And secondly, you're an arsewipe for getting even and stooping to her level...

I think you forgave her so you yourself could get some...
I also hope that her best friend is highly disturbed...

Finally, you deserve each other.

 

[brampta]

Originally posted by P_D

Finally, you deserve each other.

Agreed. What goes around comes around but the trust has already been broken once so why would you bother? its just going to come back to bite both of you in the bum in the future.

sounds like you're far too young to be in a committed relationship anyway. you're young, stay single and enjoy it without the guilt

 

[Mooster7]

Originally posted by P_D
Firstly, your girlfriend is a bitch *but you should already know that*

And secondly, you're an arsewipe for getting even and stooping to her level...

I think you forgave her so you yourself could get some...
I also hope that her best friend is highly disturbed...

Finally, you deserve each other.

Geez, lighten up P_D. The guy is 20. This is a fun experimental time for him. This isn't a salvageable situation, so the 'normal' rules don't apply. There is no such thing as "stooping to her level.." Once the trust is broken (by her) then all bets are off.

Of course he is trying to get some. You say that like it's a bad thing. He needs to hunt for a new gf, but that doesn't mean he can't play the current one. She's a double agent to be used and turned at will. Haven't you ever read a spy book?

It's madness to stop bedding her until he has something else in his stable. You're going to turn the poor guy into a chronic masturbator. And don't knock the opportunities he has for guilt-sex. The sky is the limit.

Peace,

 

[mantis]

Maybe she cheated on him, because she found out he was discussing their sex life, on an internet forum.

 

[Munga]

It depends if you're into that sort of stuff, ya know a cheat for a cheat. If it were me, she'd be packing her bags! I have no tolerance for someone who's interested in some other guy...but if they're interested in another woman....I can reconcile

 

[Karanicolas]

Originally posted by Mooster7


It's madness to stop bedding her until he has something else in his stable. You're going to turn the poor guy into a chronic masturbator. And don't knock the opportunities he has for guilt-sex. The sky is the limit.

Peace,

Not only that, but having someone will make him a far more marketable commodity in the market place.

 

[Dipper]

Destroy her psychologically so that she is but a shadow of her former self.

 

[Syd]

Originally posted by Mooster7
Geez, lighten up P_D. The guy is 20. This is a fun experimental time for him. This isn't a salvageable situation, so the 'normal' rules don't apply. There is no such thing as "stooping to her level.." Once the trust is broken (by her) then all bets are off.

Of course he is trying to get some. You say that like it's a bad thing. He needs to hunt for a new gf, but that doesn't mean he can't play the current one. She's a double agent to be used and turned at will. Haven't you ever read a spy book?

It's madness to stop bedding her until he has something else in his stable. You're going to turn the poor guy into a chronic masturbator. And don't knock the opportunities he has for guilt-sex. The sky is the limit.

Peace,

I like the cut of your jib Mooster!

After all, a bird in the hand is better than something else there!!!!

 

[Grendel]

Originally posted by Syd


After all, a bird in the hand is better than something else there!!!!

A bush in the hand?

But isnt that.. err.. never mind.

 

[Santos L Helper]

Originally posted by P_D
Firstly, your girlfriend is a bitch *but you should already know that*

And secondly, you're an arsewipe for getting even and stooping to her level...

I think you forgave her so you yourself could get some...
I also hope that her best friend is highly disturbed...

Finally, you deserve each other.

An arsewipe? No you fool, he's a hero! He's not stooping to her level but rather he's breaking new ground.

As for your last points. Tell me what's wrong with forgiving her to get some? Jesus you must lead a boring life, full of wild pipe dreams about how relationships go. I suppose (if you've ever had a successful relationship and it sounds like you haven't) when you break up with someone it's been with a shaking of hands and a 'lets be friends' type scenario. Well in the real world, theres' a large amount of wild ****ing, then you either hate each other or stay friends just in case you get horny or drunk or both and need a nice 'fall back' root.
I'm sure your friends at bible college will understand what you meant by the last comment.

 

[Yianni]

Originally posted by P_D
Firstly, your girlfriend is a bitch *but you should already know that*

And secondly, you're an arsewipe for getting even and stooping to her level...

I think you forgave her so you yourself could get some...
I also hope that her best friend is highly disturbed...

Finally, you deserve each other.

(The rest of us peer up at P_D on the moral high ground)

 

[otaku]

Originally posted by Yianni
(The rest of us peer up at P_D on the moral high ground)

or is that high horse?

 

[Nic]

Define cheating.

 

[Jars458]

Originally posted by mantis
Maybe she cheated on him, because she found out he was discussing their sex life, on an internet forum.

Good point.

 

[Jars458]

Originally posted by Santos L Helper
An arsewipe? No you fool, he's a hero! He's not stooping to her level but rather he's breaking new ground.

As for your last points. Tell me what's wrong with forgiving her to get some? Jesus you must lead a boring life, full of wild pipe dreams about how relationships go. I suppose (if you've ever had a successful relationship and it sounds like you haven't) when you break up with someone it's been with a shaking of hands and a 'lets be friends' type scenario. Well in the real world, theres' a large amount of wild ****ing, then you either hate each other or stay friends just in case you get horny or drunk or both and need a nice 'fall back' root.
I'm sure your friends at bible college will understand what you meant by the last comment.

You are a moral vaccum!

 

[Mr X]

Originally posted by Jars458
You are a moral vaccum!

that has passed the bowling ball test.


Squeak, how long did the relationship take to go full circle?
It seemed only a couple of weeks ago you were posting threads like "Head", your first steps towards misadventure.

 

[Squeak]

Originally posted by Mr X
that has passed the bowling ball test.


Squeak, how long did the relationship take to go full circle?
It seemed only a couple of weeks ago you were posting threads like "Head", your first steps towards misadventure.

It has been quick eh, the shiznit occurred just prior to the 2 month mark. Doesn't bode well for the future really, does it.

Originally posted by Brampta
Agreed. What goes around comes around but the trust has already been broken once so why would you bother? its just going to come back to bite both of you in the bum in the future.

As Mooster said, I'm 20. I'm not looking for a life partner. A bit of fun at this stage will do me fine. It's not like we pretend we're in love or anything.

She may very well regain my trust one day, if we stay together long enough to find out. If that happens we could have something really special, I can feel it in me waters. And if not, I'll move on. If I can regularly get some between now and then, yay for me.

 

[P_D]

I'm actually in a commited, successful relationship and have been for about 2 years now...

I never claimed to be on my moral high horse, but damn, from a personal experience? It ****en hurts to be cheated on, ok???

Mooster, the guy is 20? So ****ing what? I'm 19... What's your point???

For me, it comes down to whether you respect yourself or not to put up with this type of ****... if u want break-up sex, that's fine... but that's not my style, so why go making petty little arguments about whether I'm christian or not? (I'm not by the way)... So you will never see the day where I throw my hands up and say, 'You're right' when it comes to my morals, because they're there for a REASON and from past experience so stop myself from getting ****ed over again...

It's all very well to make the decisions you want to, but the fact that he said something along the lines of *can't be bothered to go back and look* I retaliated four times, and once on the bus on the way home, says nothing more than that he is an immature little dickweed trying to stroke his own... ego in front of a bunch of internet users.