Family & Relationships Children

[Mr Budda Bing]

Was having a convo at the bar with this chick (didn't hook up ) and she was debating that girls were easier to handle than boys as a parent.

Honestly: Would you prefer to have a boy or girl?

I as a male, would prefer to have a boy as a child. Girls have too many problems as they grow older etc.

Boys you can teach to play sports, take them to sporting events.

 

[dbcrow]

I'm a bloke, and I have 2 girls (7 and 3). I've seen how my brother is with his two young sons, and it disappoints me sometimes that I'll never have a son.

But, I love my girls. They're the light of my life.

As far as raising them go - girls do seem to be easier. My brother's boys are full on all the time, which is great if you have lots of time to give them, but if things are busy etc it can be difficult.

I know I"m going to cop it when my girls get older. I remember what my sister was like as a teenager, and the fact that I'm going to have 2 of them in my house is a scary thought.

That's why I have a big shed.

 

[Mooster7]

Mixed.

AGE 0-12: Girls are precious and love their daddy's. Boys are like little rats getting into everything, tracking dirt everywhere and losing all your cool stuff e.g. tools. If a girl falls down and hurts her knee, you can pamper her and doctor her up. You are her hero. If a boy hurts his knee, all you can do is tell him to stop crying like a girl. You're a cruel prick. EDGE: Girls

AGE 13-19: Boys are cool. They start playing serious sport that you can enjoy. If they have sex you can (at least secretly) be happy for them. Girls at these ages come fully into their neurotic gene which they inherited from their mother. Fortunately most of their drama will be directed at their mother but you still have to hear about it from her neurotic mother. All of the girl's extracurricular activities are girly. If they have sex, you are not happy in the least. EDGE: Boys

AGE 20 onward: Depends upon how good of a parent you were. If they visit you as often as you would like, you were a good parent. If you never see them again, you were a bad parent. If they are living with you, not only were you a bad parent, but you are paying the price for it.

 

[Igloo]

Through my entire childhood and going into adulthood, my mum always said she would rather 1000000 boys to a girl, in terms of raising them.

In the younger ages I think girls would be easier, but once its the teenage years, girls are bitches, yet boys dont give a shit about anything.

So really, it is mixed. Say, 0-10 it would be girls, and 11-18 it would be boys.

 

[Smoooothy]

i have one of each (daughter is 6, son is 3)

my son is a little shit!!

however, it scares the living crap out of me that my little girl is potentially only 7 or 8 years away from boyfriends - may need to invest in artilery!

 

[Andre]

Mixed.

AGE 0-12: Girls are precious and love their daddy's. Boys are like little rats getting into everything, tracking dirt everywhere and losing all your cool stuff e.g. tools. If a girl falls down and hurts her knee, you can pamper her and doctor her up. You are her hero. If a boy hurts his knee, all you can do is tell him to stop crying like a girl. You're a cruel prick. EDGE: Girls

AGE 13-19: Boys are cool. They start playing serious sport that you can enjoy. If they have sex you can (at least secretly) be happy for them. Girls at these ages come fully into their neurotic gene which they inherited from their mother. Fortunately most of their drama will be directed at their mother but you still have to hear about it from her neurotic mother. All of the girl's extracurricular activities are girly. If they have sex, you are not happy in the least. EDGE: Boys

AGE 20 onward: Depends upon how good of a parent you were. If they visit you as often as you would like, you were a good parent. If you never see them again, you were a bad parent. If they are living with you, not only were you a bad parent, but you are paying the price for it.

This. With boys 5 and 3 I've a house where things are drawn on, broken or lost by them regularly. At this age girls would definitely be easier, but pleased I'm not going to have to worry some bogan is going to knock up a daughter in 10 years time because she believed him when he said he loved her.

 

[rofltown]

I'm 20 and I live at home still, not gunna move out till I can afford it. **** living pay check to pay check.
Anyways id go with boys, teach them sport, how to pick up etc.
Plus I've noticed in all girl houses the dad often gets ganged up on in arguments

 

[Doctor Feel]

Niether. I'm 23, settled in a job with a stable girlfriend of 5 years and the very last thing I will ever consider is having children. Don't want them full stop. Cost alot of money, time and effort that I really don't want to give.

 

[Captain Jack]

From what I've heard from my parents and their friends (19, live at home) I would much rather boys, because you know what you're getting. If two brothers have a problem they will thrash it out (may or may not involve fisticuffs) but as soon as a sister is involved, it becomes a game of subtlety, revenge, underhanded actions and dirty looks. No thank you.

 

[JimDocker]

Mixed.

AGE 0-12: Girls are precious and love their daddy's. Boys are like little rats getting into everything, tracking dirt everywhere and losing all your cool stuff e.g. tools. If a girl falls down and hurts her knee, you can pamper her and doctor her up. You are her hero. If a boy hurts his knee, all you can do is tell him to stop crying like a girl. You're a cruel prick. EDGE: Girls

AGE 13-19: Boys are cool. They start playing serious sport that you can enjoy. If they have sex you can (at least secretly) be happy for them. Girls at these ages come fully into their neurotic gene which they inherited from their mother. Fortunately most of their drama will be directed at their mother but you still have to hear about it from her neurotic mother. All of the girl's extracurricular activities are girly. If they have sex, you are not happy in the least. EDGE: Boys

AGE 20 onward: Depends upon how good of a parent you were. If they visit you as often as you would like, you were a good parent. If you never see them again, you were a bad parent. If they are living with you, not only were you a bad parent, but you are paying the price for it.

One of the best posts ever on Big Footy.

I have 3 kids.

19 YO girl, 15 YO boy and a 3 YO boy from my second marriage.

My daughter will always be my little Princess and there is nothing we can do about that. She lives overseas with her mother so her boyfriend stage did not affect me as much as if it wouldif I saw some spotty faced little creep walk in that I wanted to punch in the face. She was always intense as a small child and is intense now. Nothing has changed much. She is very studious and won a scholarship to college.

My 15 YO boy was always relaxed and chillin. Nothing was an issue as a small boy and I don't recall him crying much at all.Now he is 15, he is a rebel. Constantly visiting his school principal with complaints about how the school is run and determined to change the world. He does mixed martial arts and is on the school wrestling team so he manages his teen angst that way. He is also 6ft 2 and 80 kgs so it is probably a good job for the world that he is mostly relaxed.

My 3 YO boy is the most intense of all. He went through a period of smashing his head against the wall as a toddler whenever he did not get his own way. Brick walls that would draw blood !!!! When he got over that, it was screaming at such a high pitch, it hurts. He is already a complete control freak and wants the final say in everything and wants to control exactly how things work but he is incredibly loving.

Kid are just the best thing and being a parent is the best thing in my life. Boy or girl is not a big issue but I am glad I have both.

 

[Daytripper]

I've got twin 2 year old boys who are into everything and constantly on the go from 6am through to 8pm. It can be very tiring but there's nothing you can really do about it so you just push through it.

I remember my nieces and sisters the same age and they seemed to be so quiet and relaxed.

However the flip side as others have pointed out is that boys 'should' be easier to manage once they get older.

 

[Freakie]

I have a 5yo girl and a 3 yo boy. The girl is the loud, never sit down always on the trampoline one and the boy just follows but is very happy just cruising and playing with his trucks most of the time. They both want to spend their lives collecting snails.....

 

[Walesy]

i have one of each (daughter is 6, son is 3)

my son is a little shit!!

however, it scares the living crap out of me that my little girl is potentially only 7 or 8 years away from boyfriends - may need to invest in artilery!

Add 2 years, and an extra 4 month year old to the equation.


8 year old daughter is still an angel. 5 year old son, still a bit of a shit.

5-6 years left on the clock.

 

[Messenger]

My son is four in March and I have another boy on the way in April.

I compare my son to my niece (same age) and she is an utter horror, as are many of the girls in our parents group.

 

[Johnson#26]

Don't have kids and though I plan to, it's not in Terry Wallace's five year plan just yet.

But I have to ask - and it's probably a case of needing to be in the position yourself to know how it feels - but why do fathers seem to get so pent up about their daughters having boyfriends/etc? Granted that there are w***ers out there, but surely you'd trust your own kid, boy or girl, to make the right decisions? It's all a part of learning and growing up, and probably makes it more awkward for the daughter (just IMO). I'm a boy, but if my parents were uber watchful on me in this regard, it's cramp my style (what style) so to speak.

Interesting thread.

 

[Igloo]

Don't have kids and though I plan to, it's not in Terry Wallace's five year plan just yet.

But I have to ask - and it's probably a case of needing to be in the position yourself to know how it feels - but why do fathers seem to get so pent up about their daughters having boyfriends/etc? Granted that there are w***ers out there, but surely you'd trust your own kid, boy or girl, to make the right decisions? It's all a part of learning and growing up, and probably makes it more awkward for the daughter (just IMO). I'm a boy, but if my parents were uber watchful on me in this regard, it's cramp my style (what style) so to speak.

Interesting thread.

In regard to fathers being protective of their daughters, as much as it shouldn't matter, it probably relates to how the girl looks as well.

If they are the kind that dresses up to look hot, and goes out drinking at clubs and such, the dad would know that there is the possibility that the girl is going to be attracting the wrong kinds of guys, so being suss of a new boyfriend would then ensue.

If they are the kind that isn't hung up on looking good, keeps to themselves a bit more, and is a bit lower in the looks department, then they are probably going to attract that sort of guy, since the guy would think they have a chance with them, so the dad probably wouldn't care as much, as they are probably just a normal kid.

 

[Hard Ball Get]

Mixed.

AGE 0-12: Girls are precious and love their daddy's. Boys are like little rats getting into everything, tracking dirt everywhere and losing all your cool stuff e.g. tools. If a girl falls down and hurts her knee, you can pamper her and doctor her up. You are her hero. If a boy hurts his knee, all you can do is tell him to stop crying like a girl. You're a cruel prick. EDGE: Girls

AGE 13-19: Boys are cool. They start playing serious sport that you can enjoy. If they have sex you can (at least secretly) be happy for them. Girls at these ages come fully into their neurotic gene which they inherited from their mother. Fortunately most of their drama will be directed at their mother but you still have to hear about it from her neurotic mother. All of the girl's extracurricular activities are girly. If they have sex, you are not happy in the least. EDGE: Boys

AGE 20 onward: Depends upon how good of a parent you were. If they visit you as often as you would like, you were a good parent. If you never see them again, you were a bad parent. If they are living with you, not only were you a bad parent, but you are paying the price for it.

As others have said, good post, however I don't agree with the last part. If someone is living at home at 20+ it doesn't make the parents bad parents.

 

[Walesy]

But I have to ask - and it's probably a case of needing to be in the position yourself to know how it feels - but why do fathers seem to get so pent up about their daughters having boyfriends/etc?

Well, I can't quite speak just yet, but I'm pretty sure that when my little girl grows up, I'm still gunna see her as my little girl.

 

[omit]

If I have kids I hope I have boys, If only because of the slight possibility that they become AFL players and I'm able to live vicariously through them

 

[Marklar_33]

As others have said, good post, however I don't agree with the last part. If someone is living at home at 20+ it doesn't make the parents bad parents.

Can't help but disagree...but maybe because I was independant at 15 (not totally by choice, though...)
You should be prepared to be independant by 20...and every single parent/child relationship after this age that I have seen has been nowhere near healthy...

 

[omit]

Can't help but disagree...but maybe because I was independant at 15 (not totally by choice, though...)
You should be prepared to be independant by 20...and every single parent/child relationship after this age that I have seen has been nowhere near healthy...

I don't know anyone who was financially independent at 20... my upper middle class private school up bringing is showing... and I don't see much wrong with someone staying at home until they've finished a uni degree.

having said that. now that people are starting to finish their degrees and get full time jobs most are very quickly leaving home.

 

[Igloo]

I don't know anyone who was financially independent at 20... my upper middle class private school up bringing is showing... and I don't see much wrong with someone staying at home until they've finished a uni degree.

having said that. now that people are starting to finish their degrees and get full time jobs most are very quickly leaving home.

I agree. You dont need to be fully independent by 20. My brother lived at home until 21 (after a brief hiatus away, living with another guy, but coming back), and he is completely normal. Im 19, doing a uni degree, and still live with mum and my sister, and dont feel as though I am near financial independence to move out yet. So currently, and in the near future, I have no plans of moving out yet. I pay mum rent fortnightly, do some of the shopping, washing etc, so its not like it is being a mooch.
Once I feel I am in a position where I will be able to maintain a functioning household, and afford to live there, I will happily move out.

 

[Andre]

I don't know anyone who was financially independent at 20... my upper middle class private school up bringing is showing... and I don't see much wrong with someone staying at home until they've finished a uni degree.

having said that. now that people are starting to finish their degrees and get full time jobs most are very quickly leaving home.

If you are studying Uni full time I don't see the problem with at home at 20. I was at home at 20 studying full time and a couple of years after to get some money saved, then built a house. I don't think my parents did a bad job and I see them once or twice a fortnight - often, but not unhealthily in their pockets or vice versa.

Now over 25 and still living at home I think is pushing it. You should be finished Uni or an apprenticeship, had 2 - 4 years to save and be either buying or renting. You've got issues of some sort at that point - either your a slacker, a leech or a child in everything but body.

My boys it will be, if they are studying (be it Uni or a trade) or working full time then they'll have the option to stay at home until then to establish themselves. If they want to not work, or just work enough to party, then they can get out before then.

 

[bunsen burner]

Was having a convo at the bar with this chick (didn't hook up ) and she was debating that girls were easier to handle than boys as a parent.

Honestly: Would you prefer to have a boy or girl?

I as a male, would prefer to have a boy as a child. Girls have too many problems as they grow older etc.

Boys you can teach to play sports, take them to sporting events.

In the whole scheme of things boys are miles easier. I wonder if this girl has children? prolly just another Gen Y who thinks she knows everythink.

 

[kaysee]

How does the saying go:

Little Boys = Little Problems
Big Girls = Big Problems

In other words younger boys might get up to harmless mischief etc, but have few problems as they grow older. Girls on the other hand might be angels when they're younger, but as they get older (and normally start relationships) they endure bigger problems like pregnancies and emotional breakups etc.