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Drinking problem - individual perceptions

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blunt_tiger

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I drink once a week, every time with the intention of just a few and call it a night. Without fail, that few can turn into 8-12 or more but can't remember how many. Empty wallet, days to recover.

It's taking a toll on me as the recoveries take longer and the bank is hurting more it seems.

Friends think since it's only once a week then it's not a problem, I'm disagreeing with that and want to see other peoples perceptions on it.

I have the intention of being a non drinker again, hopefully for the rest of my life.
 
Bunk Moreland said:
If you don't want to do it but you can't stop, it's a problem.

I've cut down drinking massively. I actually don't really enjoy it any more.
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Yeah, I'm not enjoying it anymore, just dumb decisions after dumb decisions while drunk that are 90% of the time regretful. It's certainly not fun anymore.

Once i start for that few, i can't stop. It's a problem. Feel the only way to beat is not cut down but remove it completely.
 
Then do it. You've already decided that is the path you have to take. Go ahead and take action and see how it goes.
 

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woopedazz said:
Look into the services available and give it a shot.
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Stratton_Gun said:
Yeh pretty much as above. If you wwant to stop can't it's a problem. I drink once a week max (sat nights)and apart from sometimes feeling like shit the next day have ne had a problem
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Lol sounds like you're drunk right now. :p


OP: good luck and dont take any rubbish from mates trying to get you to start drinking again (if you choose to stop)/ giving you shit for not drinking. Stick to your guns and good luck.
 
take up a hobby (like mountain bike riding) that one day a week you drink
 
blunt_tiger said:
I drink once a week, every time with the intention of just a few and call it a night. Without fail, that few can turn into 8-12 or more but can't remember how many. Empty wallet, days to recover.

It's taking a toll on me as the recoveries take longer and the bank is hurting more it seems.

Friends think since it's only once a week then it's not a problem, I'm disagreeing with that and want to see other peoples perceptions on it.

I have the intention of being a non drinker again, hopefully for the rest of my life.
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I used to drink every Saturday night but it got to a point at the start of this year that I was just over it. So I went 90 days with no grog and it was one of the best things I've done. It'll feel normal on the first couple of weekends to want to have a drink but once you pass the initial stages it's actually pretty easy and you'll find yourself not tempted at all. I still drink occasionally now but it's all about knowing when to pull up or have a few weeks off to let your body recover when needed. You still need to enjoy yourself and a lot of people like to have a few drinks to unwind, which is completely fine.
 

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I had a weekend off drinking and had people hounding me all weekend to drink.

It's like I've established this persona of someone who drinks regularly. Definitely a good feeling to go a weekend without it. Next weekend have a couple parties so won't be doing it then.
 
This might not be a very popular opinion, but if you regularly drink to a point where you can't remember what is happening, you have a problem. If you find you can't have a normal night on the turps without going OTT and ending up violently sick and hungover, you have a problem. Being 'able to stop' means you are probably not an alcoholic per se, in the sense that you don't have a serious addiction you can't kick, but you still have a problem.

We've all had nights where we've been very far gone, but if you regularly get drunk past the point of control, you're engaging in dangerous and self destructive behaviour. The more frequently you do it, the greater the risk that you will eventually end up in a police station or an ED.
 
Dazb86 said:
It's a problem if you want to stop it but can't.

I know the feeling well. Doesn't help having friends that only contact you to get wasted and harass the **** out of you to come out when you say no.
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This is similar to my situation, if we aren't going out to get blind, what do we do together?
 
Shell said:
Lol sounds like you're drunk right now. :p


OP: good luck and dont take any rubbish from mates trying to get you to start drinking again (if you choose to stop)/ giving you shit for not drinking. Stick to your guns and good luck.
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Thanks, it's not really a pressure thing it's more there's nothing else to do and this is how we have come together, through the drink. Sadly I'm sure when I quit I'll probably see a lot less of a lot of people.
 

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blunt_tiger said:
Thanks, it's not really a pressure thing it's more there's nothing else to do and this is how we have come together, through the drink. Sadly I'm sure when I quit I'll probably see a lot less of a lot of people.
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That's a bit depressing (from my POV) that bit.

Why should alcohol be the determining factor whether or not you can see your friends?? Surely there can be other stuff you can do eg. go to the footy? Do you need to get smashed to do that?.. together.
 
Recently went ten weeks without drinking. It was great. Highly recommend it to anyone who hasn't done it for an extended period of time.

Weight lost, money saved, time gained.

The hardest part was not drinking at the footy (love having a beer or two after halftime) but it got easier the more I said no. The willpower muscle can definitely be worked. An added bonus is all the extra time you save when you are able to get up early on a Saturday and Sunday morning and actually enjoy your weekend rather than simply struggling through it.
 
blunt_tiger said:
I am. But i've said it many times before.
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A few tips you can try:

- don't cut out drinking whilst trying to do something else (studying, trying to get fit, getting over a relationship, eating super healthy, etc). I forget who said it but it's something like to be truly successful at something, when you start you have to be at peace re everything else. If you try to take on multiple things at once then you're doomed to failure as it all gets to much. So clear your mental calendar and allow yourself to relax and indulge in things other than alcohol. Master that then move on.

- you won't have discipline or willpower to start with, so don't expose yourself to temptation. You'll have to avoid certain situations where everybody is drinking, which can be hard, but it doesn't have to be long term. Just until you're over it a bit and have built some discipline. Don't become a hermit or you'll just get miserable, find things to do and people to hang with for a bit where drinking isn't involved

- think of the most earnest, unforgiving person in your life, sit them down and tell them your plan, and ask them to keep you honest. Can't be one of those mates who just shrugs his shoulders and laughs when you **** up, because you won't care. Find somebody unreasonable and make them check in with you, and keep you honest.

Just a few things to try that can be applied to anything really. Failing that then you might want to seek professional assistance.
 
Sounds like to me that your a big fat party animal

In all seriousness there is very good help available these days just set a goal to do it for a month and go from there
 

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