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the trouble with saying 'personality matters' is that it is vague and doesn't mean anything. your 'personality' is just the collection of any number of characteristics which make up who you are, how you think and how you act. in the dating world, there is no way to rationalise this as most of attraction is based on intangibles. so of course your 'personality matters' but there is no way to know which of the many many aspects of your personality a potential partner will be attracted to, or how you can control this.
 
'Looks don't matter' is even worse.

I've heard girls say that then immediately asked 'well what about that guy?' and the reply is always 'well, no, but...'.

'Looks don't matter' basically means that someone is willing to sacrifice a small amount in looks if there's something else to make up for it. Personality, money, status, schlong... whatever.
 
Of course looks matter.

picture it.. Florida 2003. Was good mates with this one guy- he had the room next to me- had 100% great banter (would hang shit on each other, loved it) and were good friends. Its too bad he was possibly one of the ugliest Englishmen I'd ever seen.

And another guy- British again (loved his accent) blonde, tanned, fit, very easy on the eye. Complete and utter dud- no banter, and once he walked me back to camp from a bar (he liked me apparently) and did not make one move.

If you took the looks from him and the other stuff from the other guy, would have been perfect.
 
Gralin said:
How can you not find the great man attractive? Other than being an Essendon supporter he's pretty flawless, it's a big flaw I know but you go for Geelong so.....
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I knew I liked you for a reason.
 
Scotland said:
'Looks don't matter' is even worse.

I've heard girls say that then immediately asked 'well what about that guy?' and the reply is always 'well, no, but...'.

'Looks don't matter' basically means that someone is willing to sacrifice a small amount in looks if there's something else to make up for it. Personality, money, status, schlong... whatever.
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Looks matter
 
I admit i was a 'personality only matters' person when i was younger but lately when someone tried to set me up with someone who wasn't attractive to me in appearance , next time don't bother suggesting it if they are not attractive.
 
revo333 said:
I admit i was a 'personality only matters' person when i was younger but lately when someone tried to set me up with someone who wasn't attractive to me in appearance , next time don't bother suggesting it if they are not attractive.
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I dont see personality matters as meaning looks don't
More that if you want a happy long term relationship with someone you should like them as a person not just want to have sex with them.
 
I have a Malvern Star, when I've finished riding it I hang it on the wall til I want to ride it again.
If I could do the same with the misses I would have the perfect marriage.
Never married, you win.
 
Shell said:
Yeh in the states i picked up left right and centre. In the line outside the ******* club ffs.
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Probably the accent. Mates of mine have been to the States and have been fighting off the ladies. Aussie blokes do very well over there.
 

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Shell said:
:D

I quietly asked him about marrying her when i saw him last week. He said its not high on their priorities. Theyve built a house together and thats good for now
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De Facto relationship, which is more or less being married. Legally anyway.
 
HBF said:
Probably the accent. Mates of mine have been to the States and have been fighting off the ladies. Aussie blokes do very well over there.
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Nah i was in the line not talking to anyone.. is that what you mean. He was just a really nice guy taking pity on a person on their own lol
 
revo333 said:
I admit i was a 'personality only matters' person when i was younger but lately when someone tried to set me up with someone who wasn't attractive to me in appearance , next time don't bother suggesting it if they are not attractive.
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There's your answer.

Not everyone is attracted to the same thing; and people will tend to raise / lower their standards to match their own perceived level. Then add a level of tradeoff for looks versus personality / status / wealth etc...

Not too many people are going to date someone they would self-describe as ugly, but what people find attractive is not a consistent and universal thing, and if you took a 'rating' system, some would be happy with dating a 2 whilst others would have a strict 10 only policy, because they can.
 
A mate of mine, who is gay but pretty closeted, always replies when asked if he is married, "Why buy a book when you can borrow one from the library?"
 
raskolnikov said:
A mate of mine, who is gay but pretty closeted, always replies when asked if he is married, "Why buy a book when you can borrow one from the library?"
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because then you can be sure you aren't holding a book that somebody else has read on the crapper
 

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