Polite or impolite?

[Duritz]

A discussion with a friend, whose name means something a little bit derogatory. Her name is Kennedy, and her boyfriend at dinner with a waiter said, "this is my partner Kennedy, her name means "ugly head".

Kennedy tells me she brought it up with him straight afterwards, saying she didn't appreciate the reference, while it was true it was the initial meaning of her name it was impolite to bring it up.

The BF stuck to his guns, saying he was just being honest and light hearted, and he hadn't given her the name, her mother had, it wasn't anything to be too serious about, it's just a bit of fun.

Kennedy tells me she said to him, "so what if your name meant (the r word which we cannot pronounce on bigfooty or anywhere ever but rhymes with mus-****), would it be OK for me to introduce you as 'this is my boyfriend, his name means ******?"

They had a big blue Kennedy tells me and the BF has since confirmed that two nights ago over a beer. To me it seemed an open and shut case, but I'll throw it out there to BF to see. I can SORT OF see his point but I don't really think it's valid, IMO. And I am not a very polite person either..

 

[Duritz]

Can a mod please edit the obvious error in the fourth option of my poll please?

 

[Bomberboyokay]

If he insists on getting to say it to any new person they meet she may as well fastforward to the "He's a dickhead" conclusion and breakup with him.

 

[Duritz]

If he insists on getting to say it to any new person they meet she may as well fastforward to the "He's a dickhead" conclusion and breakup with him.

In his favour it was a one off.

 

[Engimal v2]

75% impolite. Tell her to break up with him and then set me up, Duritz.

 

[Duritz]

75% impolite. Tell her to break up with him and then set me up, Duritz.

I think GG.exe is already over there tonight. Apparently he rubbed up against her on a train.

 

[Perth gal]

In my opinion it's a really wierd comment to make. Sort of really negative and stupid and quite demeaning. If i was the girl i would honestly wonder why he was trying to take the piss out of me with a random.

 

[Duritz]

In my opinion it's a really wierd comment to make. Sort of really negative and stupid and quite demeaning. If i was the girl i would honestly wonder why he was trying to take the piss out of me with a random.

Yeah I feel much the same way, in fact that's why I posted it. It seems to me a bizarre comment and I wanted to get others opinions of the nature of it. He's a good guy and she is as well (a good girl, I mean, failure of english there, she's not a good guy...), but this one I hadn't come across before: her name is her name, what's the social etiquette here?

 

[Perth gal]

Yeah I feel much the same way, in fact that's why I posted it. It seems to me a bizarre comment and I wanted to get others opinions of the nature of it. He's a good guy and she is as well (a good girl, I mean, failure of english there, she's not a good guy...), but this one I hadn't come across before: her name is her name, what's the social etiquette here?

Its like having a fat partner and telling thd waiter they are fat. Or they are blind. Or they have a growth on their face. Or a big nose. Or whatever. Sure her name may have a sucky meaning. Just not sure why you would pronounce that to a stranger. But we all do dumb things sometimes. Sometimes when people get anxious they blurt out dumb things. So if it's just a once off. ...but if he continues I'd be dumping his arse......

 

[Duritz]

Its like having a fat partner and telling thd waiter they are fat. Or they are blind. Or they have a growth on their face. Or a big nose. Or whatever. Sure her name may have a sucky meaning. Just not sure why you would pronounce that to a stranger. But we all do dumb things sometimes. Sometimes when people get anxious they blurt out dumb things. So if it's just a once off. ...but if he continues I'd be dumping his arse......

Pretty much my reading of it.

 

[rippersnipper]

Its something i would have done between the ages of 10 and 17. Pretty impolite but i can be certain that he didn't calculate the repercussions in his head before he did it. Think before you do/say is a pretty good motto to live by. However, in my case if i say something like that nowadays then it has been done to deliberately cause trouble so maybe I'm not the best person to listen to...



I'm a chronic stirrer.....

 

[edgie]

A discussion with a friend, whose name means something a little bit derogatory. Her name is Kennedy, and her boyfriend at dinner with a waiter said, "this is my partner Kennedy, her name means "ugly head".

Kennedy tells me she brought it up with him straight afterwards, saying she didn't appreciate the reference, while it was true it was the initial meaning of her name it was impolite to bring it up.

The BF stuck to his guns, saying he was just being honest and light hearted, and he hadn't given her the name, her mother had, it wasn't anything to be too serious about, it's just a bit of fun.

Kennedy tells me she said to him, "so what if your name meant (the r word which we cannot pronounce on bigfooty or anywhere ever but rhymes with mus-****), would it be OK for me to introduce you as 'this is my boyfriend, his name means ******?"

They had a big blue Kennedy tells me and the BF has since confirmed that two nights ago over a beer. To me it seemed an open and shut case, but I'll throw it out there to BF to see. I can SORT OF see his point but I don't really think it's valid, IMO. And I am not a very polite person either..

The minute this was said, impolite. Defense mechanism 101. Knows he did something wrong and attempting to pass off the blame.

 

[Croweater]

I'm the biggest shit stirrer in the world. But only in private or among friends and family.

It seems quite unusual that he would feel the need to say that to a stranger. I don't think what he said was bad, judging it on its own merits.
But to say it to a complete stranger is rather bizarre.

 

[Cruyff14]

Ridiculously stupid comment to make. Can see the 'joke' side of it, but would never do that in public, to a stranger.

She should put him on a sex ban.

 

[St 07]

I would consider it impolite if you don't invite me to partake in a threesome with them

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

Just a dickhead thing to say. Not sure why he'd try to embarrass his girlfriend like that

 

[craigos]

If you read the OP imagining both characters are 6 year old children it kind of makes sense.

 

[Quivorir]

What the **** kind of first name is Kennedy?

 

[little graham]

He was grooming her. He probably likes bukakke or something.

 

[Bomberboyokay]

What the **** kind of first name is Kennedy?

Ain't no Anderson.

 

[JoseMourinho]

Rex means King appearantly. (according to Egoraptor's Awesome Racer)

 

[Buckleys Jocks]

A discussion with a friend, whose name means something a little bit derogatory. Her name is Kennedy, and her boyfriend at dinner with a waiter said, "this is my partner Kennedy, her name means "ugly head".

It actually means "helmet head" in Gaelic if that's any consolation for your friend.

I'm a Kennedy and have heard this heaps but it really isn't something to get upset about. Still though, bringing that up with the waiter was completely unnecessary and a pretty dickish move really.

 

[BALKAN]

Is it normal practise to introduce yourself to the waiter?

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

Is it normal practise to introduce yourself to the waiter?

It's ****ing creepy, I used to hate it

 

[Plugger35]

Is it normal practise to introduce yourself to the waiter?

If you're in a comedy sketch show perhaps, not something you see that much in real life, most people just give the waiters their order and then abuse them if they take too long bringing their food out.