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lmach said:
I know. :(

I guess I'm more excited about the fact that all of my exams are over, not because I'm leaving.
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Aye, you shouldn't. It's kind of pathetic to want to stay at school, I think. It has its benefits, but it's mostly ****in' awful and repressive.

A human life is long enough.

And a decade of being a teenager is perfect. So too a decade of being a child, of being in your 20s... these periods would be awful if they were eternal.

Being an adult is exciting. You can experience a different life. Who wants to be 15 forever? Just getting to know a different side of the world is pretty endearing. It's kind of disappointing and disheartening if you're worldly and care about your surroundings, but whatever, there are plenty of good things about your 20s.

I was pretty disheartened and fed up by the time I was in year 11. But I'll always remember some of the characters and times I had in school. I don't want to go back, though.
 
Okay, here's the situation. Apologies in advance if its inappropriate.

I used to have a friend with benefits a while ago. 9/10, great personality. She's not a ****, I'm just super smooth. ;) After a while I developed real feelings for her, but she didn't want an emotional relationship, just a physical one, so, that didn't end well for me. I was pretty upset for a while, but I sort of moved on. This was a few months ago.

I currently have another "friend", 7/10, average personality. She has feelings for me, but I don't for her. I had planned to see her tomorrow and tell her that we should end our arrangement so that I'm not stringing her along. It feels weird being in the different position this time, but it allowed me to better empathise with 9/10 girl and why she ended it.

Anyway, 9/10 girl calls me just now and asks for me to come round hers tomorrow, and I tell her I can't and give her the details as to why, and she says "whatever, Essee Cross, just come afterwards". I agreed. Now I realise I'm essentially ditching a great girl who actually has genuine feelings for me for some nuts. I'm a floghead. What do you lot think, FJAGD board? Stay home and design things instead?
 

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Andonis1997 said:
Looking at the video, he seems like a good player. What's so bad about that?
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He's phenom and supposedly the next big thing. I thought you were a Gold Coast supporter? You're lack of knowledge on him is frightening.
 
Essee Cross said:
Okay, here's the situation. Apologies in advance if its inappropriate.

I used to have a friend with benefits a while ago. 9/10, great personality. She's not a ****, I'm just super smooth. ;) After a while I developed real feelings for her, but she didn't want an emotional relationship, just a physical one, so, that didn't end well for me. I was pretty upset for a while, but I sort of moved on. This was a few months ago.

I currently have another "friend", 7/10, average personality. She has feelings for me, but I don't for her. I had planned to see her tomorrow and tell her that we should end our arrangement so that I'm not stringing her along. It feels weird being in the different position this time, but it allowed me to better empathise with 9/10 girl and why she ended it.

Anyway, 9/10 girl calls me just now and asks for me to come round hers tomorrow, and I tell her I can't and give her the details as to why, and she says "whatever, Essee Cross, just come afterwards". I agreed. Now I realise I'm essentially ditching a great girl who actually has genuine feelings for me for some nuts. I'm a floghead. What do you lot think, FJAGD board? Stay home and design things instead?
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You're probably asking the wrong crowd in this thread!

Take it to the GD, we'll help you there. FWIW - go the 9. You even said this 7 has only an 'average' personality.
 

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Essee Cross said:
Okay, here's the situation. Apologies in advance if its inappropriate.

I used to have a friend with benefits a while ago. 9/10, great personality. She's not a ****, I'm just super smooth. ;) After a while I developed real feelings for her, but she didn't want an emotional relationship, just a physical one, so, that didn't end well for me. I was pretty upset for a while, but I sort of moved on. This was a few months ago.

I currently have another "friend", 7/10, average personality. She has feelings for me, but I don't for her. I had planned to see her tomorrow and tell her that we should end our arrangement so that I'm not stringing her along. It feels weird being in the different position this time, but it allowed me to better empathise with 9/10 girl and why she ended it.

Anyway, 9/10 girl calls me just now and asks for me to come round hers tomorrow, and I tell her I can't and give her the details as to why, and she says "whatever, Essee Cross, just come afterwards". I agreed. Now I realise I'm essentially ditching a great girl who actually has genuine feelings for me for some nuts. I'm a floghead. What do you lot think, FJAGD board? Stay home and design things instead?
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Marry the 7 and call it a life.
 
lmach said:
I'd like to hear Andonis1997 's thoughts, seeing he's such a hit with the ladies.
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You're an idiot. :thumbsu:
Go with the 7. You already have plans with her, and plus she actually cares about you.
The 9 only wants the D.
 
Essee Cross said:
Okay, here's the situation. Apologies in advance if its inappropriate.

I used to have a friend with benefits a while ago. 9/10, great personality. She's not a ****, I'm just super smooth. ;) After a while I developed real feelings for her, but she didn't want an emotional relationship, just a physical one, so, that didn't end well for me. I was pretty upset for a while, but I sort of moved on. This was a few months ago.

I currently have another "friend", 7/10, average personality. She has feelings for me, but I don't for her. I had planned to see her tomorrow and tell her that we should end our arrangement so that I'm not stringing her along. It feels weird being in the different position this time, but it allowed me to better empathise with 9/10 girl and why she ended it.

Anyway, 9/10 girl calls me just now and asks for me to come round hers tomorrow, and I tell her I can't and give her the details as to why, and she says "whatever, Essee Cross, just come afterwards". I agreed. Now I realise I'm essentially ditching a great girl who actually has genuine feelings for me for some nuts. I'm a floghead. What do you lot think, FJAGD board? Stay home and design things instead?
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First thing, FWB's always end up in someone getting hurt emotionally, purely physical relationships between two people are fictional, we as humans are emotional beings and eventually one if not both of the parties involved will begin to have feelings (though in these situations it is most always only one of the two), which as in both of your cases has happened and with the other person not having feelings in return ends up in problems.

In this latest situation I would only go with the 7 as if she finds out about the 9 then further problems could ensue. However you know how you feel about that happened with the 9 so use those feelings to see how the 7 would be feeling in a similar situation. But only if you really care about the relationship with the 7.

However in the grand scheme of things, though I am not one to speak from experience, and I have never been in this type of situation, in all honesty I would not go with either. I know this may not make sense, but think about it, you know you have feelings for the 9 but she does not have them for you (and probably never will) and the reverse with the 7, yes the "benefits" may be good, hell even great, but in the long run two parties (one of them being you) are just constantly being hurt (and hoping for something that just won't happen), which is really not the best for anyone.
 
West_Coast_Eagles said:
How do we not know the 7 is not the 9?

The 9 a 5? Were just going off trust.

Give me the girl who cares anyday of the week.
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True, but if he doesn't have feelings for her it doesn't matter if she is a 1 or a 12. Physical attractiveness shouldn't ever be the only factor. As Essee said she may be a 7 but in his opinion she has an average personality which doesn't attract him emotionally. Why be with someone who doesn't attract you in every dimension?
 

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FTR I'm following the advice of not seeing either of them. I still might have a talk with 7 though, just so that she's clear that it's over.

Now I'm staying home, laying in bed, watching the cricket, designing some things, and doing pretty much nothing all day. Good times.
 
With a few exceptions (mcgrath, hayden) ads with cricket players are almost always horribly awkward.
 
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