Family & Relationships What have i done wrong!?

[Radical Roo]

My folks have been giving me shit for the last few months. Esp my mother and sometimes my oldman. I work at Myer and do tutoring, it's not the most glorious or well paid of jobs but i am happy with my current work. But my folks are not happy cos other family friends have got jobs with better pay and sounds better and they have been nagging me to look for new job everytime we talk over the phone or when we meet in person (me don't live with folks).

Lately my mom have become more and more irrational and evertime we talk bout my job, they goes through different methods to tell me my job is shit and brings shame on myself. Things like "your current pay rate is that of a process worker". Her comments are becoming more hurtful and humiliating over the time.

I have worked hard in my current jobs, i always put my 100%, my efforts are getting recognised at work. Why do my folks still give me this kind of shit, what did i do to derserve this.

 

[kwame]

you studying as well?

 

[kwame]

asian parents tend to push their kids hard to do well academically and professionally

 

[Radical Roo]

you studying as well?

Finished, did business management

 

[Bingle_21]

Finished, did business management

Just a stab here probably way off.

Did they pay for you to go to Uni? You live at home while you did?

They may be thinking they have pissed their time and cash up against the wall if they did. May have been happy doing it thinking they were setting you up in life as with a degree you would get a high paying job and be 'successful'. Now you (i am asuming) are doing a job you could have went out and done straight away without Uni.

In the end it sounds to me like they are just wanting the best for you, and dont want you to settle for lower if you are capable of more as it might become a life long habit.

 

[Shane Hird]

My folks have been giving me shit for the last few months. Esp my mother and sometimes my oldman. I work at Myer and do tutoring, it's not the most glorious or well paid of jobs but i am happy with my current work. But my folks are not happy cos other family friends have got jobs with better pay and sounds better and they have been nagging me to look for new job everytime we talk over the phone or when we meet in person (me don't live with folks).

Lately my mom have become more and more irrational and evertime we talk bout my job, they goes through different methods to tell me my job is shit and brings shame on myself. Things like "your current pay rate is that of a process worker". Her comments are becoming more hurtful and humiliating over the time.

I have worked hard in my current jobs, i always put my 100%, my efforts are getting recognised at work. Why do my folks still give me this kind of shit, what did i do to derserve this.

You sound like you're pretty young, in your 20s probably, so it's time to totally ignore the negative things your parents say and only focus on what you want to do. They should be happy you're not a crack smoking loser who robs old ladies in the street.

If they start crapping on all the time, ban coversations with them that relate to employment..simple. Be nice about it, but act like an adult and tell them straight out you don't want any advice on your working life.

You got a decent job at Myer which means you must have a certain high level of confidence in yourself and you probably have good comunication skills too.

That's all you really need to be succesful in any job...not matter what you end up doing ina few years time.

 

[kwame]

In the end it sounds to me like they are just wanting the best for you, and dont want you to settle for lower if you are capable of more as it might become a life long habit.

i think thats pretty much it... all parents want the best for their kids

 

[charcoalchicken]

wouldn't worry about it, if you're happy with what you are doing tell them that don't talk to them about work anymore and that should be the end of it.

 

[Radical Roo]

Just a stab here probably way off.

Did they pay for you to go to Uni? You live at home while you did?

They may be thinking they have pissed their time and cash up against the wall if they did. May have been happy doing it thinking they were setting you up in life as with a degree you would get a high paying job and be 'successful'. Now you (i am asuming) are doing a job you could have went out and done straight away without Uni.

In the end it sounds to me like they are just wanting the best for you, and dont want you to settle for lower if you are capable of more as it might become a life long habit.

Yes this is exactly what i think they are thinking of. I have been telling them that i will move onto something greater when i know i can no longer develop at my current job anymore. There are still many things to do at Myer, i want to pump up the sales of my department to a respectable level. If i cannot get into head office then i will move on. But they don't wanna listen.

 

[Bingle_21]

Yes this is exactly what i think they are thinking of. I have been telling them that i will move onto something greater when i know i can no longer develop at my current job anymore. There are still many things to do at Myer, i want to pump up the sales of my department to a respectable level. If i cannot get into head office then i will move on. But they don't wanna listen.

As others have said mate as long as you are happy and do have some sort of a plan then all you can do is let them know where u stand.

I know it seems like a pain in the a$$ but as I said they just want whats best for you. As someone else mentioned they can be thankful you are not a drugo, but similarly so can you, as they have given you opportunities in life to get to the point at which you are now, so you can see why they want you to keep improving. Just need to find a way to see while not going upwards in the way they want that you are still going up.

 

[Shane Hird]

Yes this is exactly what i think they are thinking of. I have been telling them that i will move onto something greater when i know i can no longer develop at my current job anymore. There are still many things to do at Myer, i want to pump up the sales of my department to a respectable level. If i cannot get into head office then i will move on.
But they don't wanna listen.

Move to another state. I did when I was 23 (though not because of my parents)...spent the last 18 or so years living in peace, far removed from face to face torture sessions with my pain-in-the-arse parents...even though they mean well.

You want to work in sales and management, move to the Gold Coast.

 

[SHAKESPEARE]

 

[Messenger]

Are you spending too much time trying to bed the neighbour?

Start looking around and apply for some better work; they're probably concerned you're going to be living with them when your 35.

 

[AtomicBlonde]

My folks have been giving me shit for the last few months. Esp my mother and sometimes my oldman. I work at Myer and do tutoring, it's not the most glorious or well paid of jobs but i am happy with my current work. But my folks are not happy cos other family friends have got jobs with better pay and sounds better and they have been nagging me to look for new job everytime we talk over the phone or when we meet in person (me don't live with folks).

Lately my mom have become more and more irrational and evertime we talk bout my job, they goes through different methods to tell me my job is shit and brings shame on myself. Things like "your current pay rate is that of a process worker". Her comments are becoming more hurtful and humiliating over the time.

I have worked hard in my current jobs, i always put my 100%, my efforts are getting recognised at work. Why do my folks still give me this kind of shit, what did i do to derserve this.

Great thing is your folks care enough to take an interest in what you are doing with your life. Having said that though it's not unreasonable to set some boundaries for your conversations with them. They should at least take pride in your proven work ethic and the fact that you do have ambitions beyond your current employment. There is NO shame in working in the retail sector, it is the most underpaid and under-appreciated job I ever did.

 

[Military_man]

Could be worse you could be a kmart chic

 

[Radical Roo]

Are you spending too much time trying to bed the neighbour?

Start looking around and apply for some better work; they're probably concerned you're going to be living with them when your 35.

Thiking of doing the first, will do the 2nd in due time, 3rd point won't happen cos me moved out 4 yr ago already.

 

[Octavia]

have you tried hitting them?

 

[AtomicBlonde]

Thiking of doing the first, will do the 2nd in due time, 3rd point won't happen cos me moved out 4 yr ago already.

Have you put any structures in place yet or are you still working out a game plan?

 

[Radical Roo]

Have you put any structures in place yet or are you still working out a game plan?

Oh structure is already in place, just need to get around to do them.

 

[Prem87]

[YOUTUBE]AIDmoBmCYD0[/YOUTUBE]

 

[Radical Roo]

Go back from where you came from!

You mean "to"

 

[MisterB]

Hang on. You work at Myer? Isn't that a veritable smorgasbord of fluff? Your old man ought to be envious.

 

[cats81]

My dad still comes into my room naked and beats me....im 21

 

[Rise_up_Stiffy]

My dad still comes into my room naked and beats me....im 21

What did I say about being on the computer? You're going to get it tonight....

 

[rofltown]

**** them

who cares what they think