Life

[craigos]

There should be no stigma attached to psycho therapy. I've used it to varying degrees my entire adult life.

I went half a dozen times a few years back after some dark times and it helped a little. I figured out it wasn't really my thing, long-term, but couldn't recommend it enough to anyone. Even if you think your problem is minor it's well worth the half hour it takes to speak to a qualified person.

 

[perthblue]

Write down a list. Have weekly goals. Have yearly goals. Have long-term goals.

was reading a reddit thread earlier about 'symptoms of depression that don't get talked about' and one of the comments was about difficulty planning/acting for the long term. And it is so true. When you're in a bad state of mind it is difficult to plan and do things today that might benefit you in the future, whether its related to career, education, health, relationships. The trouble is then that you're only compounding the problem by living each day without any sense of purpose or direction.

Jordan Peterson (don't start) said "think of who you could be in 6 months and aim single-mindedly at that" It's a good jumping off point IMO as 6 months is not an impenetrably long time but is enough to make noticeable change in your life. So apply for that job, be the best at it that you can be, and see what happens, at the very least you'll have learned something about yourself.

 

[craigos]

was reading a reddit thread earlier about 'symptoms of depression that don't get talked about' and one of the comments was about difficulty planning/acting for the long term. And it is so true. When you're in a bad state of mind it is difficult to plan and do things today that might benefit you in the future, whether its related to career, education, health, relationships. The trouble is then that you're only compounding the problem by living each day without any sense of purpose or direction.

Jordan Peterson (don't start) said "think of who you could be in 6 months and aim single-mindedly at that" It's a good jumping off point IMO as 6 months is not an impenetrably long time but is enough to make noticeable change in your life. So apply for that job, be the best at it that you can be, and see what happens, at the very least you'll have learned something about yourself.

I think at the end of the day you have to treat life as somewhat of a game. Deep down you know that complaining that "it's never going to happen for me" or whatever it may be isn't going to be helpful. It may feel nice being able to blame your lack of happiness on outside sources but if you're not working on yourself then it is your fault. If you're crap at cooking but never work on getting better then stop complaining about it. If you can't lose weight because it's your genetics then you're kidding yourself. Hey, you will never look like Marilyn Monroe but you're going to look as good as your genes allow.

If you don't have metrics to track your progress then how can you know you're progressing? If you don't have a clearly defined aim/goal then you're going to lack focus and end up doing 20 different things poorly instead of 1 or 2 really well.

I am my own worst enemy at times, as we all are. The key, for me, is to stop daydreaming as much and start doing more. An example, as stupid as it sounds, is that I aim to have a Porsche within the next 10 years. Paid in full. Now the stupid me would be googling GT2's or something but you know what, the Cayman models have amazing reviews, are relatively well priced and are probably approaching the bottom of their price in my time frame. So now, I track the cost of specific models every 3 months or so and keep a spreadsheet. When the funds are available I'll be able to see the trend in their price and can determine when to buy.

So in essence I am still somewhat daydreaming but being realistic and pro-active in doing so. Just my random thoughts.

 

[Silent Alarm]

Instagram is ****ing bad man; pretty sure a mate of mine never showed me in theirs because I don't have enough followers and by extension I'm not cool to be associated with. I remember seeing this sort of thing creep in when I was in first uni year too. I vividly remember one class discussion and people were noting how some friends would show them off and tag them in photos, and other friends would basically put your friendship on private.

Social climbing is fine, everyone wants more friends, and status is something all humans crave. But people are definitely more callous and less subtle about it now. Sad ****in shit man.

It actually makes me incredibly disappointed in the world. It's probably stopped me trying to make mates. More happy with chatting to the same bloke behind the bar for 30 seconds every time I get a pint. The hurt that social climbing and internet points has personally caused me is something I don't like to admit but it's made me pretty angry. People don't give a **** though, and off you both drift. O well, that's this modern life.

 

[Jobe Watson]

Instagram is honestly one of the worst websites out there, at least in the way that your typical 20-something uses it. Pure narcissism on display, and the lack of self-awareness is astonishing.

How is anyone supposed to feel content with their life, their career, their body, when you are constantly getting fed pictures of otherwise ordinary people who are better looking, richer. and more successful (or at least pretending to be) than you? At least back in the day you could say that genuine celebrities earned their wealth and admiration through talent, and so there was a bit more of a disconnect there and a bit less jealously felt. But these Instagram "influencers" are just normal girls who have access to a camera and Photoshop, and somehow manage to carve out a career by uploading staged and heavily edited photos. They sell a fantasy that is unattainable for most people, and yet people praise and idolise them for it.

But then again, I have an Instagram account. I don't post anything on it because I'm not a narcissistic w*nker, but hey, there's a lot of attractive girls who wear very little clothing who are willing to post half a dozen pictures a week. I like seeing that. I'm part of the problem. I enable this behaviour by giving these accounts another follower.

 

[Bomberboyokay]

 

[Scotland]

Saw a news article via Facebook suggesting that influencers ruined Coachella. Didn't see that coming....

Whoever wrote the article also said he was invited to a celebrity thing and told to do interviews and bring a photographer and had to Google who the 'celebrities' were.

Sad that this shit has actually become an industry.

 

[perthblue]

Not really getting the hate for Insta on here. Pretty sure the point is to follow sports teams and amateur Slavic supermodels, and stay away from the Influencers and local rappers, and you'll have a fun time.

 

[JackOutback]

Social media is just performance on a worldwide stage. Your ‘life’ curated and presented to everyone else in the best (fakest) way possible. Like reality TV, once you realise it doesn’t even remotely reflect reality, it loses its power.

 

[Procrastinator35]

It's all mere simulacra.

 

[Scotland]

Social media is just performance on a worldwide stage. Your ‘life’ curated and presented to everyone else in the best (fakest) way possible. Like reality TV, once you realise it doesn’t even remotely reflect reality, it loses its power.

Yep. All the van life ****wits 'roughing it's have perfect hair, perfect skin etc and spend all day trying to capture the perfect shot.

That's certainly not camping.

 

[raskolnikov]

I've never used Instagram but a friend has an account for her dog which has something like 1 500 followers. WTF?

 

[Jobe Watson]

I've never used Instagram but a friend has an account for her dog which has something like 1 500 followers. WTF?

Sorry but people who make accounts for their pets and then post on them as if it's the pet that's doing the typing are freaking weirdos. Even worse are the people who follow those accounts and then reply as if they're communicating directly to the pet. What the **** is going on there?

 

[Kram]

"Move to the country." What the **** do people even do in the country? You know how everybody hangs crap on Tasmania for being an economic shithole? Every country area in Australia is like that. Tasmania just doesn't have a big city to make the data look better. Immigrants don't move to Sydney, Melbourne, Brisbane etc because they're cosmopolitan campaigners. They move there because that's where the jerbs are.

Do you eat bread or lamb roast?

 

[raskolnikov]

Reading the last few pages of this thread made me sad. Wasn’t the best thing for me to read right now with where I’m at. I feel like I’m fine mentally but just have a constant apathetic feeling hidden somewhere inside me.

I’ve just finished uni, should be applying for jobs in finance but right now I’m lost. I don’t know what I wanna do or even if my degree was the right choice. Going back and doing a different degree though would mean more years of horribly boring hours at a supermarket with people who come and go each year as they move on with their lives. And I’m not even sure the other degree I’d do would even lead to work I want to do.

I mean I guess I’ve got to bite the bullet and just apply for some places. But I fear my complete apathy towards uni studies (something I’ll never understand because I was a diligent student in high school) has left me well behind others and possibly struggling to find any sort of meaningful work.

Towards the end of high school I pictured myself by 22 having a clear idea of what I wanted to do. Possibly making arrangements to move out within a few years and with or having had a girlfriend at some stage. In reality everything has been completely different. I wouldn’t say I’m unhappy with my life the last few years but I just feel like I’m going nowhere.

I’ve ranted on here before about the whole do what you enjoy thing. It just irritates me. I know so many people just suck up and do some shitty job they don’t enjoy. But I just can’t see myself wanting to do that. Just seems like a complete waste of intelligence. Obviously I consider the solution to create something that allows me to run my own show like a business or app for example. But like plenty do, I’m sure it will just be a dream.

Instead I’ll probably end up in some mundane job counting down the hours until I can go home and repeating it daily until I’m old and grey. It depresses me and I try not to think about it.

People also talk about doing things outside of work, but in my experience when you work all week, you simply come home tired not wanting to do a lot and it remains that way until the weekend.

I guess growing up just sucks. Like one giant dose of reality smacking me in the face.

I felt exactly the same way after uni. I didn't want to settle down to some mundane job. I wanted to see the world. So I went teaching English overseas and loved it. Not saying you have to move overseas, but follow your heart.

 

[Bumpswithagrin]

I've never used Instagram but a friend has an account for her dog which has something like 1 500 followers. WTF?

Met someone recently who told me their dog had an Instagram account. I told her I didn't have Instagram account and was told to get one so I could follow her dog

A sportsperson I follow gets so much crap when he loses it makes me feel sick, vile abuse from people who have obviously bet on him, it has really put me off Instagram.

 

[revo333]

Sorry but people who make accounts for their pets and then post on them as if it's the pet that's doing the typing are freaking weirdos. Even worse are the people who follow those accounts and then reply as if they're communicating directly to the pet. What the **** is going on there?

I travelled to the USA 3 years ago and met a cute girl who I kept in contact with for about 6 months until i found out she started an Instagram account for her dog.

After a week the dog had more followers then her own account

 

[revo333]

Not really getting the hate for Insta on here. Pretty sure the point is to follow sports teams and amateur Slavic supermodels, and stay away from the Influencers and local rappers, and you'll have a fun time.

Solid advice

I don't mind it, check it 2 or 3 times a day.

 

[Scotland]

Decent pages are getting harder to find. Everything is '@' this and '@' that. I quite like Nat Geo's feed, they post photos and detailed captions about each one.

All these instafluencers, what did they do in life before 2008 or whenever the app took off??

 

[ioppolo]

Decent pages are getting harder to find. Everything is '@' this and '@' that. I quite like Nat Geo's feed, they post photos and detailed captions about each one.

All these instafluencers, what did they do in life before 2008 or whenever the app took off??

Presumably they weren't of legal age 11 years ago?

 

[Scotland]

Presumably they weren't of legal age 11 years ago?

I know of people 30+ doing it. But what about 25 year olds then?

Apparently it came out in 2010. I was 26. I remember people just doing stuff VB without needing an audience.

 

[Reynolds Number]

I love food accounts on Insta.

The real food lover's shit not the western shit people post while in Bali.

 

[ioppolo]

I know of people 30+ doing it. But what about 25 year olds then?

Apparently it came out in 2010. I was 26. I remember people just doing stuff VB without needing an audience.

Gossip News blogs and websites perhaps?

 

[JackOutback]

Marketing and communications, probably. Equally inane and pointless.

 

[Silent Alarm]

Vintage Tribune is a cool account.