advice please.......

[Danni]

here is your chance to be as over opinionated as your heart desires...............especially seeing as it is a matter of the heart.

5 years ago - on again off again relationship ends. On again, off again due to circumstance, not emotion. Someone I have never forgotten. Someone who when I think about them my heart skips a beat. Yet that cliche 'dangerous guy' that girls fall for too. Got me in all sorts of trouble, really stuffed up my life over this bloke.

But that was years ago, I am a different person now and maybe he is too. Ran into him today. The sparks were there, maybe more so than ever..........BUT..............

It was all so messy back then, it was bloody hard work, the after-affects were pretty severe and long term too, even tho I have worked thru all that crap now.

Do I take a chance??? Do I say yes to "will you have dinner with me next week?"......or is this a case of 'let sleeping dogs lie'.

Gawd damn it..........5 years on still screws up my head enough I can't make this decision............

HELP!!!!!

 

[Dee]

i would say coffee or a drink before i say yes to dinner, and yeah suss him out a bit, cos a lot fo things would have changed in that time, like u said. so i would take my time and just work things out.

 

[lioness]

Danni, NO!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do NOT be sucked in!!!!!!!!!

Just remember our telephone conversations and everything you told me, just try and recall that and you'll have your answer. Don't take the chance of it all happening again. Keep moving on.

 

[brampta]

Danni I can empathise with what you're going through as I had to deal with a similar situation (which I've only JUST gotten over in the last two years after a marathon 5 year saga).

The fact that you're having a good think about what consequences hooking up with this guy again could bring shows that you've moved on and the chances are that he hasn't changed as much as you have anyway. Especially if you are both in two entirely different places in your lives.

Maybe you need to have that good cup of coffee to find it out for yourself but my advice would be to trust that gut feeling - you're intuition is usually spot on!

Good luck with it!!

 

[The Hitman]

Check ya PM's Danni...

The Hitman

 

[Fred]

Been there done that. My thoughts are a resounding NO.

I doubt if there would be one of the most important elements in a relationship - trust.

 

[DEES RULE!]

"If you love someone, let them go. If they return to you, it was meant to be. If they don't, their love was never yours to begin with..."
I'm a strong believer in fate and therefore I say that if you ran into him after all these years and the sparks are still there go for it.
This time you'll be smarter becuase you've been there, done that so you'll know when its time to get out. But if you don't take your chance and give it a try you might miss out on a beautiful thing.

 

[The Hitman]

Originally posted by DEES RULE!
"If you love someone, let them go. If they return to you, it was meant to be. If they don't, their love was never yours to begin with..."
I'm a strong believer in fate and therefore I say that if you ran into him after all these years and the sparks are still there go for it.
This time you'll be smarter becuase you've been there, done that so you'll know when its time to get out. But if you don't take your chance and give it a try you might miss out on a beautiful thing.

Well, I've done a PM on my thoughts to you Danni, now I'll give my thoughts on Or's post...

That's crap. To base a big decision about a person who seriously hurt you on a saying which, yes, sounds great, but makes no sense.

If I love someone, I don't let them go (except my ex...). You are stupid to let them go if you love them. Now Danni, if you've been burnt by the fire before, why follow the smoke?

Personally, I don't believe in destiny or fate, and that's my perogative. But whatever you believe, surely logic and common sense must provail? Itwon;t be a beautiful thing if he hurts you...again.

The Hitman

 

[lioness]

Originally posted by The Hitman

That's crap. To base a big decision about a person who seriously hurt you on a saying which, yes, sounds great, but makes no sense.

If I love someone, I don't let them go (except my ex...). You are stupid to let them go if you love them. Now Danni, if you've been burnt by the fire before, why follow the smoke?

Personally, I don't believe in destiny or fate, and that's my perogative. But whatever you believe, surely logic and common sense must provail? Itwon;t be a beautiful thing if he hurts you...again.

The Hitman

Hitter you're so right. I mean, I do very much believe in fate and destiny, BUT I also know very well that ex's are ex's for a reason.

Danni, you watched me make a complete fool of myself running after Chris again when I really should've let it go that first time. You might, in the process of going back with this one, even for a moment, miss out on the one who truly deserves you.

 

[NYMets]

If he hurt me I'd be way too proud to give him the time of day.

Maybe he's changed. If he sought you out and it wasn't a chance meeting I'd probably coolly try to find out why he's back. If it's a chance meeting I'd probably beat it outa there quick

Good Luck!

 

[lioness]

Originally posted by NYMets
If he hurt me I'd be way too proud to give him the time of day.

Exactly.

 

[Asgardian]

Originally posted by lioness22
Danni, you watched me make a complete fool of myself running after Chris again when I really should've let it go that first time.

ME????????????

Was I asleep during the first and subsequent attempts?

 

[lioness]

Originally posted by Asgardian


ME????????????

Was I asleep during the first and subsequent attempts?

LOL No Chris, not you. LIONSTRIKE. THAT Chris.

 

[joffa_pies4ever]

Originally posted by Danni
here is your chance to be as over opinionated as your heart desires...............especially seeing as it is a matter of the heart.

5 years ago - on again off again relationship ends. On again, off again due to circumstance, not emotion. Someone I have never forgotten. Someone who when I think about them my heart skips a beat. Yet that cliche 'dangerous guy' that girls fall for too. Got me in all sorts of trouble, really stuffed up my life over this bloke.

But that was years ago, I am a different person now and maybe he is too. Ran into him today. The sparks were there, maybe more so than ever..........BUT..............

It was all so messy back then, it was bloody hard work, the after-affects were pretty severe and long term too, even tho I have worked thru all that crap now.

Do I take a chance??? Do I say yes to "will you have dinner with me next week?"......or is this a case of 'let sleeping dogs lie'.

Gawd damn it..........5 years on still screws up my head enough I can't make this decision............

HELP!!!!!

Well do we really need to know all about your 'days of our lives saga' please go away and get help
thankyou
goodbye.

 

[NYMets]

Re: Re: advice please.......

Originally posted by joffa_pies4ever


Well do we really need to know all about your 'days of our lives saga' please go away and get help
thankyou
goodbye.

p!ss offf you troll

 

[joffa_pies4ever]

Re: Re: Re: advice please.......

Originally posted by NYMets


p!ss offf you troll

I will report this post to my mate bluey


hahahahahahahahahahahahaahahahaha!!!!!

 

[NYMets]

Re: Re: Re: Re: advice please.......

Originally posted by joffa_pies4ever


I will report this post to my mate bluey


hahahahahahahahahahahahaahahahaha!!!!!

if you need a definition of pathetic BORING loser...look in the mirror...
.....judging from what I've read lately, your posts are a BORING waste of time and space.

 

[joffa_pies4ever]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: advice please.......

Originally posted by NYMets


if you need a definition of pathetic BORING loser...look in the mirror...
.....judging from what I've read lately, your posts are a BORING waste of time and space.

Im bored with you now so you go away with all the other bigfooty losers ok
good bye.

 

[JUBJUB]

Re: Re: Re: Re: advice please.......

Originally posted by joffa_pies4ever


I will report this post to my mate bluey

So your going to ring Bluey with your one phone call a week are you ?

 

[mantis]

Originally posted by lioness22
Danni, NO!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do NOT be sucked in!!!!!!!!!

Totally agree with Jacs Danni, don't do it, a leopard never changes it's spots.

 

[Michele]

Re: Re: Re: advice please.......

Originally posted by NYMets


p!ss offf you troll

lol.

 

[Michele]

I don't feel qualified to give advice as I don't know all the circumstances.

What I do know - go with your instinct, not your heart and weigh up everything - pros and cons.

Good luck,

Michele

Mr Right/nice guy, might be 'just around the corner'.

 

[Danni]

Originally posted by Michele

Mr Right/nice guy, might be 'just around the corner'.

oh no - what if I lived in a culdasac tho??? no bloody corners!!


Nah I know what I have to do - just the doing it is the hard bloody part............think I will leave it a couple of days and work up to it.........

 

[Portia]

Kill em all.

Piano wire is choice.

 

[lioness]

Originally posted by mantis


Totally agree with Jacs Danni, don't do it, a leopard never changes it's spots.

YES!!!!!!!!! Danni listen to us!!!!!! We're women who know exactly what we're talking about!!!!!!