Children Discipline

[IschenkoUBeauty]

Always a contentious issue - do you believe in giving children a good hiding if they've misbehaved? Did you get a good belting/smacked as a kid when you were naughty and does this affect your opinion of it in adult life?

Views?

 

[Quivorir]

You don't bash the kid, but yeah a smack on the ass or what ever is fine.

 

[Gough]

If you want to teach kids that violence isn't the answer, I'm not sure giving them a whack when you get angry is the way to go. Seems a little self defeating to me.

 

[peternorth]

it depends on the situation

 

[TheFreshBanana]

No.

I got smacked, with varying levels, and in hindsight some of them weren't purely for disciplinary purposes and more of a release for my parents.

My relationship with my parents is fine but there is definitely repercussions from it, like I don't really respect my parents that much.

 

[BotsMaster]

Use the wooden spoon or belt with great effect.

 

[Ahern2Boof]

I only ever got smacked once (threw sand at my mum when we went to the beach). Other than that, I was a fairly good child.

If your kid is misbehaving though, they definitely need some form of discipline. Too often you'll see kids running around causing havoc while the mother sips on her soy latte browsing Facebook.

However, when I see parents disciplining their child with a smack in public (happens at lot at work, kids chucking tantrums etc) it can cause you to judge the parents slightly, so I dunno.

 

[TheFreshBanana]

Lol I remember we went through 2 feather dusters in a week because the plastic handles broke.

 

[craigos]

Box on I reckon. Dad use to flog with me the belt, jug cord, jug etc etc and I turned out fine. I always had it coming to me so no issues with that. i turned out fine and am not a violent person at all. Have a great relationship with my family.

 

[JuddsABlue]

Got smacked a few times as a kid, guess I'm fine now and can clearly see the difference in 'violence isn't the answer'

I think the mixed message issue gets exaggerated, just give them a whack and as they grow up assuming they're not ******ed they'll understand

 

[Bluelegs]

Louis CK puts it rather well

Language warning:


Everyone who was hit as a kid likes to claim they turned out fine but most people are arseholes so...

 

[BEEG]

Pinch them really hard will hurt more then a smack

 

[Richard Pryor]

Can't just rely on physical pain. The kid has to respect the parent enough to really understand that they've screwed up badly to get whacked, because unless you're a sadist or something you're probably not going to be able to dish out enough pain to scare them into behaving. A lecture can achieve the same thing, if there's enough respect.

 

[kfc1]

Tell them "My anaconda don't want none unless you've been naughty, son"

They will understand soon enough

 

[Coxy_]

Absolutely. Hate seeing little shitcampaigners running around being disrespectful. Then you've got their parents who just DGAF

 

[Quivorir]

Pinch them really hard will hurt more then a smack

The aim isn't to hurt them though...

 

[ioppolo]

Smack them. No hitting, belting, anything violent. Just a smack. Of course there's those do good parents who'll report you if you do it in public

 

[ioppolo]

Pinch them really hard will hurt more then a smack

My mum did this to me when I was little. Worked a treat.

 

[peternorth]

No.

I got smacked, with varying levels, and in hindsight some of them weren't purely for disciplinary purposes and more of a release for my parents.

My relationship with my parents is fine but there is definitely repercussions from it, like I don't really respect my parents that much.

you probably deserved it

 

[peternorth]

i always believed smacking a child was ok. then i myself became a parent. havent smacked little northy yet, and i cant bring myself to it. i mean shes only 2 so maybe later yeah?

i thusly think it is hard to fully understand unless you have a child. i mean parenting wise, during non child days, i like everyone else looked at parents who "lost control" of their kids and thought id never let that happen, or watching kids play on the ipad id be like "no way man imma no give my kid dat". then had babby and my whole perspective changed.

 

[Quivorir]

i always believed smacking a child was ok. then i myself became a parent. havent smacked little northy yet, and i cant bring myself to it. i mean shes only 2 so maybe later yeah?

Yeah my kids onlly 7 months or something so no need to smack her yet. I will only do so on the occasions where she knows better.

 

[BEEG]

My mum did this to me when I was little. Worked a treat.

Only leaves a little mark aswell

 

[Scotland]

Smacking kids is fine. Always has been. The Helen Lovejoys can GTFO.

Hitting kids is not fine. Never has been. The 'I'm just toughening him up' types can also GTFO.

Kids are basically just pets that live longer, learn to talk and eventually put you in a home. If you smack a puppy on the nose lightly with a rolled up newspaper or spray it with a water bottle when it does something wrong, it will learn that whatever it was doing is not on. When it stops doing whatever it was that it was doing, you give it a pat and a biscuit and it thinks you are the best thing ever. You scream at a puppy and belt it over the ears it will become timid and nervous and will probably end up biting a stranger who laughs loudly or moves their hands too quickly.

Kids are no different. A smack on the bum and a 'You know why you got that?' 'Yeeesssss, Daaaadddd' 'OK, good lad now run along and don't do it again' is a perfectly acceptable behaviour modification tool. Just like removing XBOX360 or iPad privileges for not doing homework, not allowing sweets if vegetables aren't eaten at dinner, offering a trip to McDonald's or the zoo or wherever kids go for doing well at school etc.

 

[BEEG]

The aim isn't to hurt them though...

Thanks for that

 

[Bluelegs]

As far as I'm concerned it's just as lazy to hit your kid as it is to do nothing. Hitting a kid is the easy way out, it takes very little thought or effort and it teaches them nothing. How about actually talking to your child or putting some effort in when disciplining them.