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i just wanna know....ummm what your family is like? stupid wording i know but ehh. My parents are on the verge of splitting up, and it is scaring me half to death. Who out there is in a single parent family or whos parents have split up? How did u cope, and what is it like?...i cant imagine my family being seperated, but somehow i think i might have to start. :(
 
I come from a single parent family. I've never known anything different and as much as I hate to admit it in a way i'm glad it's always just been Mum and I. Growing up was hard because of my Mum having a disability and she couldn't work I never had the things other kids with two parents had.

However I was lucky enough to have my Grandparents there as an extra set of parents rather than Grandparents. They provided me with things that other kids didn't have like an extra set of love and gudiance and for these things i'm now greatful for.

No matter what happens to your family Dee......remember that both your parents love you and will be there for you if things really do get tough for you.
 
My parents separated when I was about 13. It was awful. REALLY awful. I was always closer to my dad, and he left. Now, 17 years later, I can't imagine my parents together at all. They've both moved on and are very happy. I realise now they were very young when they got married, and it wasn't right. As hard as it was then, I'm more than happy for them now. It's about them, not me.

My dad has remarried a couple of times. I have a 13 year old brother from his second marriage who I love to death. He's the best. He lives with dad, so we've always been close. His third partnership didn't work out either, but I have a 10 year old sister and a 6 year old brother (he's 8 months older than my daughter!!!) so that was great too.

I have an older sister, and we're very close. She's thinking of moving to Germany next year, and I have no idea what I'll do without her! (NOBODY TO GO TO THE FOOTBALL WITH!!!!!)

So I guess my family life can appear a bit strange to outsiders, but I can't really remember it any other way.

I would have loved to have grown up in a more conventional household, but my parents always did their best to make sure my sister and I were happy and secure, so I can't ask for more than that. At the end of the day, I want the same for them.

And now I find myself a single mother, so I can understand a bit more of what may have happened with them. I'm still very close to my daughters dad, and we always put her first. I wouldn't have it any other way.
 
Originally posted by dee_girl9
i just wanna know....ummm what your family is like? stupid wording i know but ehh. My parents are on the verge of splitting up, and it is scaring me half to death. Who out there is in a single parent family or whos parents have split up? How did u cope, and what is it like?...i cant imagine my family being seperated, but somehow i think i might have to start. :(
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awww, im sorry to hear that Nicki! I hope for your sake that they dont end up splitting up.

My parents have been on the verge of breaking up once or twice but they never did. Even tho they never did it still hurt and i went to school (year 12) a few times in tears. My long term ex girlfriends parents broke up and i helped her thru that...she was very hurt tho - even tho they broke up before i went out with her

My thoughts are with ya Nicki and i hope things work out in the end
 

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My parents split when I was 15, we had MAJOR family issues though (read my post on when my dad tried to strangle me, lol) so it was more of a relief for me. They get along good now which makes things easier on all of us. :)
 
Sorry to hear about that dee girl. I hope that your parents are able to sort everything out.

My folks are still together and happy, best still they live overseas while I live in the family home! But I always hated when they'd fight I'd feel miserable to see them unhappy with each other.
 
Originally posted by mandy5


WHAT????????:eek:
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OK quickly...........my Dad's a veteran with severe mental probs, snapped and tried killin his baby girl one afternoon..........he's since been diagnosed and medicated and life is normal again, well as normal as it can be.

There. :) And no it doesn't shock me anymore, you have to deal with things, and I have. :)
 
Originally posted by lioness22


OK quickly...........my Dad's a veteran with severe mental probs, snapped and tried killin his baby girl one afternoon..........he's since been diagnosed and medicated and life is normal again, well as normal as it can be.

There. :) And no it doesn't shock me anymore, you have to deal with things, and I have. :)
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Well, I guess as strange as that sounds to me, it's obviously been sorted and you seem happy and stable. That's great!:)
 
Originally posted by mandy5


Well, I guess as strange as that sounds to me, it's obviously been sorted and you seem happy and stable. That's great!:)
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I coped is all. :) I am still scared of Dad at times, and when people get angry I do get VERY jumpy!!!!!!!! But hey, I'm still here and that's what matters.

The other thing that has helped me not blame him is that he actually was so far gone he doesn't remember it happening. HOW can I hold it against him forever if he isn't even sure what he did?????
 
My parent's are together. I consider myself very lucky as they seem to be a very happy couple. I'm very close to my mother although me and my dad don't talk much. Lately though, mum and dad have been having financial problems. We might have to cancel our holiday down south next January. I heard my mum say "I don't want to fight about spending money ok?" to my dad so I'm a little concerned. I think it will be ok though ... I'm just glad they aren't split ...

dee girl, i hope everything turns out alright for you :).
 
Dee

I can't remember how old you are, but I think you are grown up so one major area of dispute has disappeared.

The thing that causes most anger & nastiness in a breakup, is fighting over custody of the children, parents trying to turn the kids against the other parent does a lot of irrepairable harm.

My advice having come from a broken home & having had 2 divorces is, don't take sides, keep loving both your parents exactly the same as before the spilt, your parents will be happier & so will you.

Just remember they are both still exactly the same people, only difference is they don't live in the same house anymore.

Cheers
 

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I'm sorry to hear that deegirl.

My folks never really loved each other, at least not since me and my brother have been around each other. Mum's been fantastic, the best mum anyone could ask for. Dad's always been distant. The only stayed together for us kids, and when I left home a couple of years ago, they split.

I love my family to bits, I'd do anything for them, but I know there are problems always simmering under the surface.
 
Well my parents broke up when I was about 7, and the only thing i remember about it was my dad chasing my mum around the house with a loaf of bread (my two brothers and i **** ourselves at the time but its hilarious when we think about it now).

Theyve never gotten along well since..my dad avoids going to any 'do's' that my mum will be at to avoid having to see her.

I feel so lucky with the family i have though, even though my parents dont get along, ever since they broke up, I've lived with my mum but have never missed going to my dads place on a weekend, it started when i was 7, and now I'm 18, and i know that im lucky becuase alot of people dont get to see their dad/mum as much as i do.

I also have the best relatives i could ever dream of. I love my grandparents to death, and my aunties/uncles/cousins are one of a kind...i look forward to every family gathering!
 
My parents split up when I was 14, it was hard at the start, but things eventually work out

Dee I know its a horrible thing, but divorce can be a good thing. Both your parents will become better ppl (trust me), and you can see the good side of your parents.

The first few months are difficult, but you get used to it.

I hope everythin works out for you and your family
 
My parents are still together although sometimes I wonder why... they argue all the time (mostly about me.....), but i guess all married couples do that.
I do however come from a very disturbing family.... to say the least.
My mum's dad (who is coming from Israel tommorow night to visit) and my dad's dad divorced after he cheated on her. So my grandfather lives in Australia and i have seen him 3 times in my life and while he hates my Grandma she still loves him.
My dad and his brothers barely talk, my mum's half brother committed suicide when he was 41 and to top it all off the good half of my family lives on the other side of the world...... SO...... my family is a little bit stuffed up, but you can't choose your family you can only learn to live with them! :)
 

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Hang in there Dee_Girl.

My parents split up when I was 10 and it was the best thing that ever happend to me really. It wasn't a happy home and things have been much better since. This is why I've never bought the "stay together for the kids sake" line coz if it aint working it probably won't.

It depends on what they're arguing about it might be something that can be resolved you never know.
 
Originally posted by Blues_Girl


ROFL! Very true :D

Melvin said i'd be perfect to replace Nat......do I take that as a compliment or insult?:confused:
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Depends which aspect of her job. What she is supposedly paid for, or the bonking the players part.
 
Im really sorry to hear that Dee_girl, and i hope they sort out their problems
My parents are still together but argue over the most pathetic things and stop talking to each other for weeks on end...unfortunantly, theres not much that we as the children can do....
 
My parents spilt up when I was 21, some say that would have made it easier as I was already an adult - but believe me I reckon it was worse mainly because I understood what was going on and the reasonings behind it etc...

Must admit though, it has made me extremely cautious about entering relationships, due to the possibility of failure. All of our family friends always believed my parents were the perfect couple, and basically if their marriage couldn't survive what hope is there for the rest of us.

Besides it stuffing up many relationships, both parents have moved on and re-married - which causes another area of concern - step brothers & sisters and thesedays that is were my major bug bear is.

Otherwise these days it is a part of life as indicated by the amount of responses, and you can't afford to dwell on the past as life is too short for that.

cheers
 
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Depends which aspect of her job. What she is supposedly paid for, or the bonking the players part.
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I thought she was paid for bonking the players?? Cause she doesn't seem to do much else.

I'll both for half the price :D
 

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