Having Kids

[philthy05]

I have a 14 month old daughter and absolutely love it.

I think of it as playing through a video game and then getting to play through it again as a different character / co-op mode.

You get to experience things again but in a whole new way. It augments your experience in fun exciting ways.


If anyone is on the fence about having kids I think those are the people who should strongly consider doing it, not having kids seems more for those that feel strongly they don’t want kids.


Sleep deprivation I think is worse on the mothers, as they’re needed more often at night. I found the first say 7 months to be the toughest and things are pretty stable now.

 

[Foxx]

Very happy we chose not to. I have lots of spare time to play golf etc.
A fair bit more expendable cash to buy nice things.
In my 40's now, and every year I get less tolerant towards kids. I like them in small doses. But when they play up, I think jeez I'm glad I don't have to put up with that crap everyday.

Then there are the horror stories from friends etc with older kids who are into trouble. Which causes endless stress on their parents.

I often wonder what makes people want them? Natural procreation I suppose.

 

[revo333]

I often wonder what makes people want them? Natural procreation I suppose.

I think the old school thought is it's the point of living.

 

[the_interloper]

Very happy we chose not to. I have lots of spare time to play golf etc.
A fair bit more expendable cash to buy nice things.
In my 40's now, and every year I get less tolerant towards kids. I like them in small doses. But when they play up, I think jeez I'm glad I don't have to put up with that crap everyday.

Then there are the horror stories from friends etc with older kids who are into trouble. Which causes endless stress on their parents.

I often wonder what makes people want them? Natural procreation I suppose.

Wives hate golf once kids come in the picture, very time consuming hobby, usually travel time to a course a way away, the actual round then the beer afterwards.

And people without kids seem to have awesome weekends, not gonna lie ha ha

 

[Pistol Night]

Very happy we chose not to. I have lots of spare time to play golf etc.
A fair bit more expendable cash to buy nice things.
In my 40's now, and every year I get less tolerant towards kids. I like them in small doses. But when they play up, I think jeez I'm glad I don't have to put up with that crap everyday.

Then there are the horror stories from friends etc with older kids who are into trouble. Which causes endless stress on their parents.

I often wonder what makes people want them? Natural procreation I suppose.

Likewise at times

 

[Cruyff14]

My wife is being induced with our second today. Sure, parenting is very challenging at times, but you'd not trade it for anything.

 

[Gough]

Pre-emptive congrats mate.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

Wives hate golf once kids come in the picture, very time consuming hobby, usually travel time to a course a way away, the actual round then the beer afterwards.

And people without kids seem to have awesome weekends, not gonna lie ha ha

I WISH my husband would go play golf. I keep trying to talk him into finding a hobby out of the house.

 

[Pistol Night]

I WISH my husband would go play golf. I keep trying to talk him into finding a hobby out of the house.

Some of us have a nice comfortable arse groove going on the couch and are reluctant to be separated from it for too long as we age

 

[the_interloper]

I WISH my husband would go play golf. I keep trying to talk him into finding a hobby out of the house.

I have a mate who is a very keen golfer and it gives his wife the shits. His 5 year old daughter said to him one morning "oh are you going to play bloody golf?" Gee I wonder where she got that from ha ha

 

[Foxx]

I have a mate who is a very keen golfer and it gives his wife the shits. His 5 year old daughter said to him one morning "oh are you going to play bloody golf?" Gee I wonder where she got that from ha ha

To play a lot, you either have to be single or retired.

Even though I don't have kids, I can play a bit more, but not as much as I'd like. It wouldn't be good for the relationship.

 

[Shell]

Wives hate golf once kids come in the picture, very time consuming hobby, usually travel time to a course a way away, the actual round then the beer afterwards.

And people without kids seem to have awesome weekends, not gonna lie ha ha

My dad never stopped golf, ever afaik. Been a member of Portarlington golf course for years. Also a car dad- many hours spent in the garage.

I don't think my mum actually cared tho

 

[Shell]

I wouldn't care either if I'm completely honest. I'm happy doing my own thing I don't need my partner

 

[Foxx]

I wouldn't care either if I'm completely honest. I'm happy doing my own thing I don't need my partner

A lot of my mates had split ups from their wives due to their Mrs not seeing them much.

 

[Shell]

A lot of my mates had split ups from their wives due to their Mrs not seeing them much.

Yep and that happens too obviously . Everyone is different.

 

[swingdog]

I often wonder what makes people want them?

Speaking for myself, because they're fun.

 

[PoppedCorn]

I WISH my husband would go play golf. I keep trying to talk him into finding a hobby out of the house.

Some of us have a nice comfortable arse groove going on the couch and are reluctant to be separated from it for too long as we age

this must be in the air lately because im getting the same bloody situation

apparently we dont go out enough and i need some friends

i said slow the **** down women
go out AND need friends?

apparently i have to start making an effort
wtf, i thought shit was meant to get easier as you get older

PS no kids
i lose my patience with the cat and hes been dead for about 6 years

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

this must be in the air lately because im getting the same bloody situation

apparently we dont go out enough and i need some friends

i said slow the **** down women
go out AND need friends?

apparently i have to start making an effort
wtf, i thought shit was meant to get easier as you get older

PS no kids
i lose my patience with the cat and hes been dead for about 6 years

I'm a very social gal. If he has a hobby I can't get guilt-tripped for going out regularly myself.

 

[revo333]

this must be in the air lately because im getting the same bloody situation

apparently we dont go out enough and i need some friends

I reckon lot of relationships and marriages have ended because people took advice form 'relationship experts' on TikTok.

'If your partner doesn't do this then you should leave them'

 

[Pralaya]

When we had our first baby, we were clueless but doing our best. Like most new parents, we stocked up on all the popular baby food brands because they seemed safe and convenient.

But when our son was diagnosed with autism at around 2 years old, we started questioning everything. We eventually came across info linking toxic heavy metals in baby food to neurological issues, including autism. At first, it sounded like one of those internet scares but then I found this article about the baby food autism lawsuit, and it honestly shook me.

We’ll never know for sure if that played a role in our case, but just knowing it’s even a possibility made us switch everything. If you’re just starting your parenting journey, I’d say don’t skip the fine print, especially when it comes to food.

 

[HirdyLannister]

When we had our first baby, we were clueless but doing our best. Like most new parents, we stocked up on all the popular baby food brands because they seemed safe and convenient.

But when our son was diagnosed with autism at around 2 years old, we started questioning everything. We eventually came across info linking toxic heavy metals in baby food to neurological issues, including autism

We’ll never know for sure if that played a role in our case, but just knowing it’s even a possibility made us switch everything. If you’re just starting your parenting journey, I’d say don’t skip the fine print, especially when it comes to food.

Dont be too hard on yourself, there is no right or wrong way raising children.

Where you say baby food, formula or those advertised snacks? Our little one is 20 month and we avoid those things like a plague due to the sugar content (have used them a couple of times), for snacks in popcorn or water crackers. Very plain and basic ingredients

Sweetness, the little one smashes fruit.

 

[Sturty2Hurty]

In my early 30s and my partner is begging for kids. Feel a bit undecided and have been giving it a lot of thought.

For people who have gone in either direction, what has been your experience? Did you have a kid and find it wasn't for you? Did you not have kids then find yourself regretting it in your 40s?

Personally I feel like you really need to plan for it in your 20s, but have met people that stress 'you can never plan for kids'. Kinda resent that advice but interested to hear other experiences.

Woah good to see this thread still going! If anyone wanted to know what happened, I broke up with my partner 3-4 months after posting this. Still single at the moment, dating to find someone who is also keen on not having kids is pretty difficult, although I’ve been a bit more open minded about it - I realised at the time that my partner wasn’t the right person to raise children with, so glad I walked away.

 

[Shell]

Woah good to see this thread still going! If anyone wanted to know what happened, I broke up with my partner 3-4 months after posting this. Still single at the moment, dating to find someone who is also keen on not having kids is pretty difficult, although I’ve been a bit more open minded about it - I realised at the time that my partner wasn’t the right person to raise children with, so glad I walked away.

Sounds like you definitely made the right decision. Good luck for the future