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Originally posted by Macca19
I know plenty of people that use the internet to talk to other people. I DONT know anyone at all that has specifically gone online to "look for love" or however you all put it. I mean come on.

Ive met a past girlfriend from the internet. Talked for a few weeks...realise we had a bit in common...talked on the phone...organised to meet...enjoyed her company...spent more time together...fell in love. Thats not "looking for love" as Frostie or Bluesbabe put it and thats not "oh well in the back of your mind you mustve been looking for love" either or whatever absolute crap you two wrote. We were together for near 2 years. I didnt sit down in front of my computer and specifically go "right...im goin on this chatroom to find myself a woman".

I havent used a chatroom (except for the BigFooty one) since i was 17...i reckon they are stupid, boring, full of crap. Only new people ive talked to in the last 2 or so years have been thru BigFooty and other msg boards. Much better metting new people that way as you get to know a bit about them from their posts before you actually want to talk to them and get their email or whatever.

And Bluesbabe...you write that it would be embarrasing or whatever. Why? Whats embarrasing about talking to someone on the internet...becoming friends with them...meeting them...spending time with them then falling for them?? I didnt find that embarrasing. I think youll find it is overly rare that people "fall in love" JUST from talking on MSN or a random chatroom somewhere. Im sure these people that fall in love contact each other in different ways first. Sure there would be some people that "fall in love" just from talking on the internet - but i think youd find most of them are under the age of 17.

I dont/didnt feel the need to lie about my relationships either. Darky - incredibly pi$$weak that is!! How pathetic are you that you have to lie to your mates about where you met Spidey. How bloody insecure could someone be!! That is the most pathetic thing ive heard in a long time!

Ive spoken to 100s of people on the internet. Out of that lot ive probably spoken to on the phone or met in person about 90 or so people (including the 60-70 ive met/talked to on the phone on bigfooty) and only 1 person hasnt been who they said they were (who was from BigFooty mind you). The way some of you are carrying on youd think that every single person that uses some sort of msg board or chatroom lies about every single facet of their life.

And please Bluesbabe tell me the difference between lying online and lying "in real life"? A lie is a lie in my opinion. If you go for a one nighter or talk to new people in a pub how do you know that they are telling the truth?? Its the same "risk" isnt it?

Are you also saying that everyone on Bigfooty is a pathetic creep, wierdo, pathological liar, social ****** or someone who preys on youngsters. You say 'how can you fall in love with words on a screen'...yet you also say people prey on youngsters thru the internet. How can you prey on youngsters if its just "words on a screen" as you put it? If someone starts abusing you or whatever how can you get mad or upset if its just "words on a screen".

I enjoy talking to and meeting new people thru the internet. Ive met some really good people and some lifelong friends off the internet. Only a couple of my "real life" friends like or follow football. So I come here to talk about something i love and am passionate about...in the meantime enjoying interacting with people that share the same interest/insterests with me and making new friends. Obviously that makes me sad and pathetic :rolleyes:

I have a fine social life....have plenty of "real life" friends, had enough girlfriends to be satisfied and not worried about myself, go out all the time and enjoy my life. Why do some people here think its impossible to meet and talk to people on the internet and also enjoy a healthy social life as well??

Ive had feelings for someone in a different state too. Wouldnt of called it love. We met and the feelings increased (and oh my god...shock ****ing horror...they were actually who they said they were :rolleyes: ). But because i fell for someone that id known for a long time, talked to every day for 6 months and was physically attracted to makes me sad and pathetic. Yet for some reason going to a club and having a one nighter with some drunk person you dont know is a legitimate way of meeting people??

I see no difference in talking to someone over the internet or talking to someone in a club. You have no guarantees that the internet person is telling the truth and you have no guarantees that the club person is telling the truth.
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Great Post Macca.
 
Well I have to say I have met maybe 60 or 70 people who I know online (either from BigFooty or MSN chat) and I have to say I haven't met anyone who hasn't been totally nice and normal. :) I mean my boyfriend and I are having major problems at the moment but there are reasons between us for those problems.

One of the most interesting and entertaining people I have met online is a guy I know as 'Papillon' he comes into chat with his kisses and hearts and pink font and sips his tea and looks for 'gossi'. He is friggin adorable and SO entertaining!!!!!!!!!!! But there are a few people I know like that, very quirky yet so much fun.
 

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Originally posted by Scarlett Pimp
Are you really scraping the bottom of the barrel when you turn to looking for love over the internet?

I say yes. In fact, make that a HELL YES.

If you need to meet someone online in another country or state or town, you really mustn't be a very exciting or interesting person, and have little or no personality.

It isn't that hard to go out somewhere and meet someone nice, even if it is to a dive. You just need personality or charisma, something which is quite easy to fake online.

Maintaining relationships online is acceptable, because sometimes work or other committments may take precedence, but meeting people online??? That's for boring, crazy people.
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Maybe they just need to get a life
 
Re: Re: Internet Relationships

Originally posted by suzi_olsen
Maybe they just need to get a life
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You know nothing about the people you speak of.

You don't know their personalities.

You don't know their situations.

As others have noted, every single person I have met in real life 'from the net' has turned out to be a perfectly nice, normal, socially adept person.

Yet you sit there anonymously sneering at choices people make, choices intended to make their own lives a bit happier.

Bugger the means I say, if it makes you happy, go for it. Grab happiness while you can. It mightnt last.

I also wonder who needs to get the life?
 

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Re: Re: Re: Internet Relationships

Originally posted by Goo
You know nothing about the people you speak of.

You don't know their personalities.

You don't know their situations.

As others have noted, every single person I have met in real life 'from the net' has turned out to be a perfectly nice, normal, socially adept person.

Yet you sit there anonymously sneering at choices people make, choices intended to make their own lives a bit happier.

Bugger the means I say, if it makes you happy, go for it. Grab happiness while you can. It mightnt last.

I also wonder who needs to get the life?
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Agree totally. :D
 
i think it just comes down to whether people actually have a life off the net. Do they spend every minute at their computers and put off going out into the real world to go on here? Are they able to socialise with people outside of their computer or are they cut off in their own little world? Are they hiding something?

In other words can they cop a real life one or do they stick it in their web cam and rotate :p
 
Originally posted by Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk
In other words can they cop a real life one or do they stick it in their web cam and rotate :p
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Ahh Spidey! Your reputation!! What will everyone think of you if you keep coming up with this?. :D
 

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Originally posted by Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk
i think it just comes down to whether people actually have a life off the net. Do they spend every minute at their computers and put off going out into the real world to go on here? Are they able to socialise with people outside of their computer or are they cut off in their own little world? Are they hiding something?

In other words can they cop a real life one or do they stick it in their web cam and rotate :p
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I think someone missed a point half a dozen or so of us have made in here. Obviously if people have MET so many people from the net, then it's safe to say we ALL have social lives.

Or if you're someone like me who isn't really well enough to have a fully active social life, you do tend to spend more time talking to people on here. However I've met about 70% of my msn messenger list contacts. :) Some of them are the most funny and awesome people I have ever had the pleasure of meeting, also proving wrong the theory that chat rooms are totally filled with desperate freaks. Maybe I just visit the right chat rooms, because 90% of the people in there are completely normal, they just turn on the 'freakiness' for the benefit of non-regs. ;)

As to what myself and my boyfriend get up to in real life, that's really our business. :p
 

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